Sick of getting treated like I can't do anything right!

  1. 1 Hello everyone, I am a new nurse (have been working as a LPN for 4 months) and I am so sick and tired of my co-workers making me feel like I cannot even make a photocopy right!
    Anytime I am doing something even the simplest things such as sorting through faxes on of the nurses come and takes them off my hand and do it herself looking at me like I am doing it too slow.. Why do older nurses have that need of constantly making sure that you know they do everything better or faster than you?? I am sure some of you are going to say they are trying to help, but that is not always the case. I cannot even make a phone call to a patient without having one of them trying to intervene on my conversation or making fun of my I am just irritated and depressed, I want to be left alone so I can do my job
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    About vicky3131

    Joined Mar '14; Posts: 4; Likes: 9.

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  3. Visit  DragonPurr profile page
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    You have to step up for yourself. Just tell whoever is trying to intervene, "I've got this" in a confident manner and keep doing what you are doing. If people are running over you, you are letting them. It can be hard when you are new, but people will treat you how you let them treat you. Eventually, it will click.
    the climb, LTCNS, DawnJ, and 3 others like this.
  4. Visit  vicky3131 profile page
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    you are right! but I just hate confrontation but I guess I need to start speaking out for myself..
    imintrouble, the climb, BradS, and 3 others like this.
  5. Visit  nursefrances profile page
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    One of my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quotes:
    "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

    I was 19 when I first entered the medical field, in medical records. There was an older women in the department who was the same way with me. Later, I transferred to another department (not because of her) and was met by another coworker who was the same way. As I worked with her for some time I learned to speak up for myself.
    One day I said something and she shook her head and snickered and said softly to herself, "That's stupid." I immediately came back (in a firm voice) with "I am NOT stupid." She apologized. I feel like my back bone finally developed at that moment.

    To stand up for yourself you don't have to be rude (like them) or play their games. You can be kind and professional. You need to be sure of who you are.
    You know who you are.
    Don't let anyone tell you (or make you think) otherwise.
    Last edit by nursefrances on Mar 1, '14
    njlpn421, Dazglue, arobins72, and 6 others like this.
  6. Visit  vicky3131 profile page
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    Thank you very much for your advise nursefrances
    Last edit by vicky3131 on Mar 1, '14 : Reason: misspelling
    nursefrances likes this.
  7. Visit  TheCommuter profile page
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    In nursing, as well as in other occupations, people tend to pick on the coworker who seems like an easy target (read: the person who will not stand up to others or defend oneself from being picked at).

    Some coworkers are never picked on because they've made themselves too difficult of a target by reacting unpleasantly when anyone tries to patronize or mistreat them. You must stand up for yourself or people will continue to walk all over you. Good luck!
    Guttercat, LTCNS, nursefrances, and 2 others like this.
  8. Visit  nynursey_ profile page
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    You could also just ignore it and let her stew in her own misery. People like that love the attention of agitating people. Beat her at her own game and simply don't engage.
    LTCNS, nursefrances, and vicky3131 like this.
  9. Visit  GrnTea profile page
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    If you want to make them really crazy, smile sweetly and say, "You may be right," or, "Thank you," and keep on doing exactly what you were doing.
  10. Visit  vicky3131 profile page
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    Thank you all!!!
    nursefrances likes this.
  11. Visit  Pangea Reunited profile page
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    If someone wanted to intervene on my conversation, I would just hand them the phone. I'm always busy anyway and have lots of other things to do.
    LTCNS, RNinIN, and vicky3131 like this.
  12. Visit  Ruas61 profile page
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    Are you in an office/clinic setting?
  13. Visit  MatrixRn profile page
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    The trick is to make them own it.....
    You said, "Anytime I am doing something even the simplest things such as sorting through faxes on of the nurses come and takes them off my hand and do it herself looking at me like I am doing it too slow.."When a job is taken from you, ask, "I see that you feel this can be done better, can you show me how?" She will probably say something snarkey about slow...blah, blah. Say 'Yes I understand, but can you show me YOUR way?'

    Then later you modify and enhance....but that is later.

    You said, "I cannot even make a phone call to a patient without having one of them trying to intervene on my conversation or making fun of my" Use the same as above, but for this I would say, "thank you for your feedback, and how do you complete this task."
    Mn nurse 22 likes this.


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