Should i go over my manager's head - Page 3
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- Apr 27, '12 by PetsToPeopleQuote from LadybluebellWow, you are totally blind...I don't think I've ever really seen this much delusion before. You may have been there for 7 yrs but I would't be surprised if your new manager is working on getting you out the door, if for no other reason than that you will never change or correct your ways because you see perfection in yourself where everyone else sees a car wreck.Teacher Sue, I have been here for seven years. Why should i look for a new job. Why should i let someone who came from a different hospital and doesn't know anything about what we do here make me leave. I'm not sure what you mean by nursing sensitive indicators, but i stand by my "assertion" that we takegood care of our patients. People left our unit for a lot of different reasons but we have several solid nurses who have been here a long time and practically ran the floor ourselves after our old manager quit.
Nascar nurse, our old manager worked hard. She did schedules and payroll and ouy annual evaluations. She handled patient complaints and did the budget. She went to alot of meetings and did alot of other paper work.
Wendy79, i didn't say i regularly falsify documentation, i said i don't see a problem with being a little creative with documenting things that don't really matter.GrnTea and Purple_Scrubs like this. - Apr 27, '12 by PetsToPeopleQuote from Been there,done thatA less toxic work place, are you kidding me?! Sign me up, I'd work there in a sec because I would want to work in a place that maintains basic standards of practice.You are not only wasting your time, you would be treading on very thin ice.
This interim manager is out to prove his/herself.
Eyeballing to the point of "catching you not washing your hands "takes a lot of due diligence. How did they know you didn't wash your hands in the patient's room?
Yes.. talking in the wrong tone of voice to a student can be construed as unprofessional these days.
Yes.. eating or drinking outside of a designated break area is against "Infection control policy".
This manager is going by the book .. and enjoying every minute of it.
You can choose to stick it out... see if the new manager will be any different( which is not gonna happen)..
or move to a less toxic workplace.
See my thread on the subject of achieving hydration!
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Apr 27, '12 by Do-overI've just got to add (as a former manager in a totally unrelated field) that if "everyone" "loves" the "sweetheart" of a manager... Well, then that manager is probably not terribly effective. If everyone likes you, then you aren't doing your job.
Managers aren't there to win popularity contests - they are there to manage and ensure that things happen according to the company plan. Its not an easy job, especially when it is done well...
And, sometimes people need and deserve to be fired - even if they've been around for a hundred years. It is never easy or fun ot fire someone, and maybe the new sheriff in town will take care of some things that the former manager let slide. -
Apr 27, '12 by destovaOP, many families have had to say goodbye to loved ones because of nurses who decided that certain medical orders and the accompanying charting just weren't worth their time. If you're interested, pull up the posts by me, find my intro. There's a nifty story in there about the results of nurses deciding which orders were valid and which were just an annoyance.
I'd suggest you get a bit of CE out of the way and find a course on ethics and/or positive work attitude. It seems that without a quick turn around, you won't have a manager to go over, just a resume and a negative employer reference.Purple_Scrubs likes this. - Apr 27, '12 by HorseshoeQuote from LadybluebellAfter reading your post, I can't say I blame her.She wont sign because of my attitude and the write ups.noahsmama and Purple_Scrubs like this.
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Apr 27, '12 by Patti_RNI didn't read all the responses, so pardon me if I seem to repeat what others may have said. And, I'm usually really diplomatic... so again, pardon my blunt response.
Relationships either spiral upward or they spiral downward. They can change direction but it takes a lot of effort to stop the inertia of a deteriorating relationship, and changing its path to an improving one. It's obvious you and your manager are not becoming best buddies (and I suspect she's not out to be your friend, she wants to run a efficient unit). So, to improve your professional relationship you need to make some drastic changes. The first thing is to create a pivotal point: make an appointment to speak with her. Tell her you value your job, you enjoy working there, and that you're having a difficult time because the rules have changed. (Honesty is paramount.) Then ask her what goals she has for you. (This is humbling, but important.) Now you know the rules, you know what she expects, and you need to decide whether you want to play or not. If you play, she's going to expect your effort to reach your goals. If you don't like the rules you can probably find a job elsewhere... but no matter where you go, the probability is you will have to wash your hands and be nice to nursing students. These are some of the most basic of expectations. (Seems the old manager let people get away with lots...) Creating a pivotal point is imperative if you want to change your ways and stay: although she has a memory of your 'old ways', you'll basically be proving yourself from this moment forward; your old sins are more easily put in the past. Now, you have a 'before' and you're working on the 'after'. Screw this up and you probably won't get another shot at proving yourself.
To answer the question you actually asked (should you go over her head and should you talk to the CNO?)... I can't help but wonder what you'd say. "My manager wants me to wash my hands before and after patient contact!!!"... or, "I don't WANT to smile at the nursing students!"... or, "My manager doesn't like me." ...... or???? I can't imagine what else you have to gripe about. But, let's just assume you do talk to the manager. Her impression of you will be based on three things: your demeanor, your employment history, and what your manager says about you (which has most likely happened already; if not, it will happen within 15 minutes of you leaving the CNO's office). We already know that you've been written up (justifiably so). And, while it's impossible to judge people accurately from information they post in an online forum, but reading your original post and reviewing some of your previous ones, it seems likely you have what managers, instructors, colleagues, and others call 'an attitude problem'. (And, the 'creative charting' that Wendy pointed out is part of the syndrome.) Unless you really want to be unemployed, I'd caution you against going to the CNO. Good supervisors back up their subordinates; it will look like you're forcing the CNO to choose between the manager and you. Unless there is something really missing from your side of the story, the CNO isn't going to take your side. (In fact, considering that there are two sides to every story, and we've heard yours but we haven't heard your manager's side, so the outcome might even be worse than I'm predicting.)
Take a look at the posts from other nurses looking for jobs. It's a really tough job market. There may be 5 or 10 applicants for every position--maybe even more. Ask one of the new grads on this site if they'd like to take your job (even though they'd be forced to wash their hands and make nice with the students), chances are they'd accept these hellacious working conditions in a heart beat. You might not have such an easy time finding a new position (and employees often believe that the only information an employer will give another employer is the dates of employment; this may be technically correct, but there are usually follow-up phone calls with one simple question, "I just got your reference for Amy Smith; would you hire her again?" Nothing is ever put in writing, but based on this question, the new hiring manager learns everything she needs to know.
So, you have a choice to make, which isn't an easy one. But, between these three choices: 1) talk to the manager and establish goals to be met, 2) talk to the CNO about the manager, and 3) find a new job (which you'll probably be doing anyway if you pick #2)... I'd probably go with Choice #1. - Apr 27, '12 by Kooky KorkyQuote from ladybluebelli'm really not sure what to advise. have you asked the manager what she needs for you to do, what she needs to see from you to believe that you have learned the lesson she wants you to learn?i have been having issues with my manager for a while now, and i am reaching the point of no return. i think she wants to get rid of me and i dont know what to do. i started on this floor as a new rn seven years ago and loved it up until six months ago. our old manager was a sweetheart. she trusted us to do a good job, and didn't ride us at all. she retired a year ago, and the manager from the unit across the hall took us over while administration looked for the "right" person. this manager started six months ago and it has been horrible here since. she is always out on the floor sticking her nose in everything, she's the manager. she needs to know what's going on on her floor.
and talking to patients about how they like there care. how do you know what she's talking about?
its like she doesn't trust us and is checking up on us. we are not allowed to sit at the desk to chart. instead, we have to take our work stations and stay outdise our rooms. that wouldn't be too bad, but we are not even allowed to have a cup of coffee or a coke while we chart. i had never been written up in the past, but she has written me up twice. for forgetting to wash my hands and because she said i was rude to some students. did you receive any verbal counseling or coaching before the write-up's? not that she has to do progressive discipline, but if she was really wanting to help you learn, she'd probably have started more gently. but not necessarily. maybe she wanted to shock you into learning. were you actually rude? did she ask for your side of things or just get some complaint and wrote you up?
she criticizes my charting and my care plans. she hired a lot of new people, and plays favorites with them. how is she playing favorites? i used to do a lot of committee work, but now i am only on one committee, and she gave some of my committees to her favorites. the last straw was this morning when i asked her to sign the renewal for my clinical step. i have been a step two for six years, and never had a problem before. if she doesn't sign it, i will take a 5 percent pay cut. she won't sign because of my attitude and the write ups. the write ups are not fair, and the only reason i have a bad attitude is because of her. i am not the only one who feels this way about her. two other rns who have been here a long time feel the same way. i am really upset about my step two, though. i want to make an appointment with the cno to see if she will talk to the anager about this situation. if anyone else has been through something like this, how did it turn out? am i wasting my time?
i think you have to realize that administration will likely back her up and you could very well end up jobless at a time when it's pretty tough to find work. and if a lot of the employers in your area are owned by only 1 or 2 companies, you might find yourself blackballed. you'll have to move away to get any work at all, you'll have to start over somewhere where things could be as bad or worse.
i think you might want to consider being very humble and figure out how to eat crow so you can keep your income and benefits - unless it's just too, too hard and you don't mind being jobless. maybe you're young, healthy, and single and have a pile of money saved up.
i don't agree with the majority that the manager is necessarily right. she could be, but i don't know that for sure. that isn't really the problem, though. the problem is can you live with her or can't you?
do not discuss this with coworkers. they will misquote you in a heartbeat. they are not on your side. they are just trying to survive, just like you.
good luck.interceptinglight and wooh like this. - Apr 27, '12 by Teacher SueThe OP states she started on this unit as a new nurse and has been there seven years. Essentially it seems that she "grew up" professionally in an environment where leadership was absent, and expectations were low. If this is the environment she came into, then this behavior is what she was taught. For those seven years, she thought she was doing a good job, and probably had good performance evaluations. And she probably was doing a good job of fitting in to that environment and meeting those expectations. Now she is told that she is not doing a good job, and that can be painful. If she wants to keep her job, then she needs to go to her manager with a sincere desire to improve and a plan in place to do so. If not, she will soon be looking for another job, either by her choice or her manager's. And she will need to look outside her current institution. With two write ups in her file, she will most likely not be able to transfer to another unit within her present organization.
- Apr 27, '12 by Kooky KorkyQuote from destovaAt the very least, stop confessing to "creative charting" on this public bulletin board. Do you realize that you can be disciplined for this sort of thing? Do you realize that anyone could be reading this? Like your boss or your state Board of Nursing? Maybe you could say "q 1 to 2 hour rounds were made" instead of saying "hourly" when that wasn't so. See?OP, many families have had to say goodbye to loved ones because of nurses who decided that certain medical orders and the accompanying charting just weren't worth their time. If you're interested, pull up the posts by me, find my intro. There's a nifty story in there about the results of nurses deciding which orders were valid and which were just an annoyance.
I'd suggest you get a bit of CE out of the way and find a course on ethics and/or positive work attitude. It seems that without a quick turn around, you won't have a manager to go over, just a resume and a negative employer reference.
I guess anyone could "forget" to wash their hands if there was an emergency. But if there wasn't, please remember. Or do you have alcohol you can use quickly or what?
