sex in the work place...really? - page 6

So I'm watching televison.... nusring and hospital shows of course...and They are always showing someone in these shows who is in love with another nurse, or doctor and they always end up having sex... Read More

  1. Visit  SmilingBluEyes} profile page
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    Quote from abbaking
    Oh this is such a funny, but realistic thread.
    Back in the day, when I had no morals (Nowadays I have some - NOT MANY), I had fun on a 10 minute smoke break in the car belonging to the county mortician - Can we say GOTHIC?
    Yes, I came clean (no pun intended) - LOL!!!!--But that was back in the dark ages.

    As far as witnessing sex in the workplace - Don't Ask Don't Tell (which always means yes)

    Maybe due to my demographics and area i live, More gays and lesbians

    WOW! I live a boring existence.
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  3. Visit  nursel56} profile page
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    Quote from leslie :-D
    i've arranged intimate sessions betw pt and spouse/so.
    but don't know of any employees...

    leslie
    hmmm. . . are we talking champagne, tea-light candles and Barry White in the background? :redpinkhe Could be kind of a side business arranging the romantic rendezvous ('just kiddin')- I'm sure the reality much more-- shall we say "task" oriented. "There's KY in the drawer. See ya!!"
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  4. Visit  belgarion} profile page
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    At another LTC where my wife worked the standing joke was that the administrator's desk was always so clean because the ADON was regularly polishing it with her backside.
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  5. Visit  leslie :-D} profile page
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    Quote from nursel56
    hmmm. . . are we talking champagne, tea-light candles and Barry White in the background? :redpinkhe Could be kind of a side business arranging the romantic rendezvous ('just kiddin')- I'm sure the reality much more-- shall we say "task" oriented. "There's KY in the drawer. See ya!!"
    actually, you're pretty darned close.
    i work w/dying pts (inpatient)
    you'd be surprised how many would love to have that '1 more time' with their loved one.
    i try to set up the room, as cozy as possible.

    leslie
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  6. Visit  nursel56} profile page
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    Oh my gosh, Leslie. That's something I hadn't thought about. But of course a loving couple would want that last intimacy. There is so much about hospice that I don't know. Now, where's the Kleenex, dammit.
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  7. Visit  dudette10} profile page
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    Leslie, you are now my official hero. That's absolutely lovely that you do that for them...and it says a LOT about you that they aren't afraid to ask you for help arranging the "one last time."

    heartbeat:heartbeat
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  8. Visit  ozoneranger} profile page
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    Quote from leslie :-D
    actually, you're pretty darned close.
    i work w/dying pts (inpatient)
    you'd be surprised how many would love to have that '1 more time' with their loved one.
    i try to set up the room, as cozy as possible.

    leslie

    I took care of a man in pulmonary many. many, times over a 4 year stretch, back in the early 1990's.

    Well into his 60's, his manner was gruff, but if you took the time to get past his armor, you'd find a very frightened, often mischievous, misunderstood little boy.
    The other nurses were more than happy to bow out gracefully when I asked to care for him, as he could be hard to handle if you didn't 'get' his sense of humor.

    We never admitted him without his wife at his side, a frail, thin woman, with deep etched laugh lines & crystal blue eyes, they were quite the pair. Everyday, their daughter brought fresh fruit & we spent the evenings huddled in a corner nurse's desk at the far end of the hall. Some of his stays lasted for months at a time, and there were several times I thought he'd pass before I came back the following evening.
    As the years past, I watched this family struggle with the certain knowledge that the time would come when they would go home without him. It was an unspoken truth which we all shared.

    The night he died, I think we all knew in our hearts the time had come. With the assistance of their son, I helped his wife climb into his bed, their last embrace made awkward by the central lines & IV pumps, she refused to be denied, weaving her way to his side, she remained there through my shift. I don't know, nor do I care how many rules we broke that night, we pushed open the window, allowing the cool spring air and scent of honeysuckle to fill the room. We lit candles, we laughed, and sang, and cried.
    Most importantly, we said good bye...husband, father, grandfather, mischievous friend.

    Nurses have a unique opportunity not found in many work place settings. It's a gift from God, really. The chance to be there....the chance to help a family through the roughest of waters, the chance to help see them through the unbearable times.

    As far as 'highlights' of my career in nursing goes, these are the moments that make it worthwhile. It's the connections you have to dig for.....fighting your way past the armor, to find the prince inside.
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  9. Visit  nursel56} profile page
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    What a beautiful story, ozone. If only people could see the scenarios etched in our minds like that, those things that happen over the years that grab us and won't let go. I'd like sometimes to mentally transfer it to new nurses and students when they ask "what's it like to be a nurse?"
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  10. Visit  leslie :-D} profile page
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    despite all the venting we nurses do, nursing really is such a privilege.

    leslie
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  11. Visit  ozoneranger} profile page
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    That's exactly what it is, a privilege.

    There have been many times in my career when I wished it away.

    I wished I didn't know so much, didn't see so much, didn't care so much.

    In the end, no matter how hard it was, I wanted to be there.

    To be there for the woman no one ever visited...
    sit in her room & do my charting through out the night.....
    "I'm here"......
    when she called out for a loved one,
    hold her hand when she reached...
    looking for a connection....
    A connection now broken, by time or circumstance....

    I don't know why she's alone, perhaps she's all that's left of a family now gone. Maybe there's been an un-mended hurt that's gotten in the way....time & wrongs...whether real or imagined, can leave a soul, alone & frightened, dying with no one to care, no one to say "I love you"...that one last time.

    I may not be Charlotte or Mark.

    I may not be "sister" or" beloved spouse."

    I'm may not be the one she's searching for......


    But.

    "I'm here."

    And I thank God for this blessing,

    for this privilege.

    I thank God for giving me the opportunity to be able to say......

    "I'm here."
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  12. Visit  SmilingBluEyes} profile page
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    Hospice, yep you bet. I think that is great. But between employees in the work place? YUCK!!!!!!
  13. Visit  Spidey's mom} profile page
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    Almost all my hospice patients are in their own homes so I haven't set anything up like Leslie did.

    I do remember one elderly couple, when I was still working acute. She was hospitalized with cancer - he never left her side. I'd come in and catch them kissing, passionately. Very sweet. He recently died - 12 years after she did - of Alzheimers.

    As to the OP's question - "sex in the work place . . .really?"

    YEP! One of our docs in particular .. . . and he didn't just woo the nurses - sometimes it was office staff.

    There is a very very small club here called "Nurses Who Didn't Sleep with Dr. So and So". I'm a member!

    There have been other threads asking this question - I always refer folks to the book "House of God". THAT doc slept with everyone from housekeepers to social workers to nurses to other docs . . .. It is a classic book - and very good.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_House_of_God


    steph
  14. Visit  Spidey's mom} profile page
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    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    Hospice, yep you bet. I think that is great. But between employees in the work place? YUCK!!!!!!
    It happens . . . .


    steph


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