Simply guessing here, but I'm thinking that when the OP stated she didn't even know she did it, (hung up on the provider), what she may have intended to say was that she perhaps had either answered the phone, MD was on the line, and perhaps the RN couldn't hear her/poor connection/or else maybe, she spoke to this person and when finished, hung up, and the MD wasn't quite done talking...who knows?
I've worked with a tech who has poor phone transferring skills...on occasion he has hung up on somebody accidentally. Once, it was a case manager calling for me in the middle of the night; on another occasion, he tried to transfer an MD's call to me and wound up simply hanging up on the MD...in the middle of the night, no less!
In those situations, each person (1st time, the CM, 2nd time, the MD) thought they had been purposely hung up on, despite that tech having been polite as could be just prior to the botched "call-transfer-attempt". Regardless, they were each so mad (that a MERE "pee-on-tech" had the HALL TO HANG UP ON THEM, accident or no!) that they each emailed our supervisor, demanding to know why they had been hung up on!
Just FINDING our manager's email had to be FAR more complicated and onerous than simply calling back and ASKING the tech in question, "Excuse me, sir, did you intend to hang up on me, or was it a technical problem?" This is what I would do, and what "most" people without complexes would/should (IMO only!) do.
At that point, the BHT would no doubt have apologized and explained that our phones can be tricky, and he certainly meant them NO disrespect...
Your post smacks of an MD with a G-d complex and a NASTY ONE at that! I often wonder why it is these days that the self-esteem of persons who "should" be on top of the world, emotionally, is often so low that something as simple as a telephone error sets them off nine ways from Tuesday! This "doctor" REALLY NEEDS to get over him/her self and perhaps invest some personal time in a yoga or mediation class-for-the-suspicious-and-insecure! :0)
I'm not in the least trying to make fun of your predicament. I'm trying to point out that based upon your response to what you believe to be a doc with an axe to grind (on your head, no doubt!) Is normal, & they are the one with the TRUE "problem"...yours is only temporary...in other words, you only have a problem for as long as it takes for you to (very unfortunately) kiss their "tushy", do it as soon and as fast AND AS "genuinely"-sounding as you can possibly muster...then ensure you make them feel they are up on their pedestal WHENEVER you are interacting with them, so they never have to get their "wittle fewwings huwted", & I would imagine that given a bit of time, you will be fine in the future where they are concerned.
They, however, will no-doubt suffer from terrible bouts of paranoia and insecurity until they obtain some self-esteem (not too likely to occur, sadly) and realize that the world is NOT out to get THEM, personally, and that they, too, are susceptible to telephone errors by others. They may also hope to understand one day (again-not likely!) that there will also be persons who speak to them (as I'm guessing you likely did) from time to time in a manner that does not make them feel as if the universe is here to meet their needs, and their needs ONLY! (shame on you...what EVER COULD you have been THINKING, speaking to them as an EQUAL!?) :0)
Wishing you the best of luck. Remember, always be polite, courtious, (even, actually, ESPECIALLY, WHEN you are only talking to the janitor!). ALWAYS be honest, show your excellent morality and treatment of everybody, and have the utmost self-respect...if another person such as this "VERY-IMPORTANT-PHYSICIAN" ever questions your behavior, ALL of your co-workers and supervisors will KNOW who you are, how you consistently treat people, and will tell whomever is causing you problems just that, (& that they were CLEARLY MISTAKEN ABOUT HOW THEY "thought" you treated them!) and you'll be FINE! :0)
G-d bless you, and again, sorry this cruddy situation found it's way to your plate!