Patients who can do ADLs but want nurses to - page 5

I've been coming across more and more patients that are perfectly capable of taking care of their personal needs, but simply don't want to. Example: ringing the call light to ask for the box of... Read More

  1. Visit  uRNmyway profile page
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    Quote from imintrouble
    I try to make sense out of things that make no sense. If I can figure out why people do what they do, then I can direct my interventions appropriately. Some people are just weird. I can't possibly think like them. OK...A different weird than me The others, that are perfectly normal, nice, 60-80 yr olds who just expect in the hospital what they don't need, surely I can figure it out.

    I think it's all about control/power. It's what makes the whole world turn. Only I can't figure out why a perfectly normal, able bodied person, would give up their control to someone else. Or why that would only occur in the hospital.
    The only thing any of us can completely control is ourselves. When our bodies act up, we go to the hospital and we control nothing. Would that make the pt feel helpless?

    Then I think, who's in control when the pt demands peri care they can do themselves? Who's in control then? It certainly isn't me, who's expected to do anything to make the pt happy.
    I overthink everything. I need to take the psych hat off cause it just makes my head spin and my brain hurt.

    Maybe it's just as simple as some people are just weird.
    Aha! I think you nailed it right on the head. By making us wipe their goodies, something most people would see as unpleasant, even degrading, they feel powerful, in control. 'See what I can make you do!? Do my bidding now, otherwise I will complain and you will get in trouble, for I am the Almighty Customer!' Do I think the patient with this thinking is normal? Of course not. Definitely some kind of personality disorder. But I do think that with many of them, it's about control, and them exerting it over the HCWs.
  2. Visit  Bortaz, RN profile page
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    Not a single one of my patients will change their own diaper.
  3. Visit  BrandonLPN profile page
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    Quote from Bortaz, RN
    Not a single one of my patients will change their own diaper.
    Babies are so lazy these days. I blame the parents.
  4. Visit  netglow profile page
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    Jeweles26,

    Hot Pepper Peri Wipes! Somebody is gonna produce this and make millions! LOL!

    The 40 yr old male perv in for elective knee upon first experience with the Hot Pepper Peri Wipe:

    "Daaaaaaamn let me wipe my butt from now on! When you do it it burns like @*&^!#"

    Problem ...solved.
  5. Visit  uRNmyway profile page
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    Quote from netglow
    Jeweles26,

    Hot Pepper Peri Wipes! Somebody is gonna produce this and make millions! LOL!

    The 40 yr old male perv in for elective knee upon first experience with the Hot Pepper Peri Wipe:

    "Daaaaaaamn let me wipe my butt from now on! When you do it it burns like @*&^!#"

    Problem ...solved.
    Love it netglow, love it. I'll go 50/50 with ya!
  6. Visit  morte profile page
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    Hmm capsacin instead of calmoseptine?
    Quote from Jeweles26
    Love it netglow, love it. I'll go 50/50 with ya!
  7. Visit  SNB1014 profile page
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    [QUOTE="imintrouble;7188014"

    Then I think, who's in control when the pt demands peri care they can do themselves? Who's in control then? rd.[/QUOTE]

    On par with my thoughts. Also some people come in very sick and weak and need this personal care but for some reason the techs/ nurses continue to assume/out of habit do it for them.
    Also, in the hospital a lot of things are done *to* you by strangers. Perhaps they feel this is something that is done *for*them?
    I think it is a control issue. They are not happy about being sick and in a twisted way, they passive aggressively take it out ON techs/nurses. As if to say, " ha!!! I'll show u what happens when you make me swallow horse pills and force a renal diet on me !"
    Cuz these type of people know nurses are in the end respsonsible for ensuring hygiene is complete and stating that someone forced u to sit in a diaper of pee for 10hrs shocks and upsets others.

    IMHO, of course! :-)
    imintrouble likes this.
  8. Visit  CrunchRN profile page
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    I just think they are freaks. LOL.
    imintrouble and BrandonLPN like this.
  9. Visit  jrwest profile page
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    For those who say they" can't reach", let them know there's a product for that, LOL( not little old lady, laugh out loud_
    DeLanaHarvickWannabe likes this.
  10. Visit  jrwest profile page
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    I've had a male pt who would ask us to scratch his testicles, because he couldn't reach. He even had one of those back scratcher things to use. Totally ewwwww! We would tell him it wasn't safe to use that- it might cause an infection.

    I also think someone hit the nail on the head- people come into the hospital and expect you to be their personal nurse, and as such, should be providing them with personal services. Just yuck.

    My favorite saying when asked these types of request, is "so , who does this when you are at home?"
    imintrouble likes this.
  11. Visit  redhead_NURSE98! profile page
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    Quote from Altra
    Yesterday I walked a 50-ish patient from the ED waiting room to a treatment room. She ambulated steadily and had come to the ED from work for an urgent-care type complaint. As I was getting her a gown and orienting her to the room, she said, "I'll need a bedpan soon." Her complaint was not one we would need a urine or stool sample for diagnosis. I replied, "let me show you where the bathroom is before you get undressed, then" ... thinking to save her from having to walk the halls in the dreaded hospital gown if it could be avoided. She looked levelly at me and said, "oh, you're going to be one of those nurses -- you don't want to wait on me or take care of me."

    I'll spare you all the rest of the conversation -- but in her mind, coming to the hospital for what would probably be a little over an hour visit meant that she should *enjoy* the perks of another human being "waiting on" her - hand, foot, and peri-area.

    True story.

    I guess a copay is cheaper than the spa!
  12. Visit  smile_through_it profile page
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    I recently had a patient that wanted me to give her a vaginal suppository. She was perfectly capable of doing this on her own and had no reason to need assistance.
    If I'm 100% sure a patient is able to do something on their own I always use the line 'were here to help you get health and stronger. If I do it for you than you will not be able to go home soon.' That usually helps!
  13. Visit  WeepingAngel profile page
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    In nursing school during maternity rotation, my professor made me do peri-care for a recent C-section patient who wasn't on bedrest. It was SO. UNCOMFORTABLE. She was a year younger than me.


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