Nursing Hostility and Other Nonsense - page 5

by RegisteredNuisance

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In my short career as a nurse I've seen some terrible behavior among nurses, and I'd like to share my take on things. I've only been a year for two years, and working as a nurse for 13 but in that short amount of time, I've... Read More


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    Its not cheesy-its Truth.
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    I have been lucky to work w/ some really awesome nurses, nursing assistants, & doctors in my career & have very rarely (if ever) encountered true hostility in the workplace. I have at times encountered staff members who were somewhat rude or disrespectful. In the moment I might "take offense" but I am a non-confrontational person so unless someone is truly out of line I usually let it slide. As the original poster stated, 99% of the time mean looks, "avoidance" (not saying hi), or a curt response are just due to stress, fatigue, or a combination of both, & I know I am as guilty of these things at times as anyone else. It is so easy to judge our coworkers but we all need to take a step back & remember we are in this together TO CARE FOR PATIENTS! I have found that the more I forgive others, the more those same people forgive me. And the more I go out of my way to help others, the more they do the same for me. There will always be a few people who are less than friendly or who do not have the same team spirit, but as long as the majority of people on the unit are positive & work together well that spirit will rule the unit. As for gossip, I think if the charge nurses & other "leaders" on the unit demonstrate by example that this is unacceptable behavior, the trend will never even begin. At both facilities I've worked at, gossip has never been a real issue b/c the charge nurses, preceptors, & other experienced nurses have never "allowed" it to happen b/c they have never participated in it or started it. However, I have never worked at a facility w/ residents or medical students (or not enough to matter) so I know that does change the atmosphere a great deal.

    Overall I think nurses just need to remember why we are here & that is to care for patients in the best work environment possible for everyone involved. We all want to be respected by our coworkers whether they be doctors or other nurses & the best way to accomplish that is to show respect to each & every person you meet. Pettiness, gossip, & passive-aggressive behavior must not be tolerated or else nurses & pts alike will suffer.
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    Quote from lovingtheunloved
    One of the benefits of working in home health is you don't spend a great amount of time around your coworkers, so there's not too much opportunity to get on each others' nerves. I also happen to work with an awesome group of nurses, who are genuinely nice people.
    Agreed. I do peds private duty and there isn't much interaction between coworkers except the nurse before and the nurse after you. Also, even though these children are medically intense and keep you on your feet for the entire shift, it is still more laid back than working on a floor in a facility. Besides, we ALL understand how hectic it can be with ONE child so we all cover for each other in terms of emptying the trash or washing/emptying equipment. There is a general feeling of "I know you have been on your feet for 8 hours with no break at all so go home, I got this". I have come across a nurse who refuses to do this so I just stay later to get it all done rather than argue.
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    SMH at the 'growing a thicker skin' comment. Why would you kick someone who has already been put down? That is just doubly abusive. It is the ABUSE and HOSTILITY toward other people that needs to go away. Have you never been taught or shown how to treat another human being??? SMH...
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    Quote from lorirn58
    SMH at the 'growing a thicker skin' comment. Why would you kick someone who has already been put down? That is just doubly abusive. It is the ABUSE and HOSTILITY toward other people that needs to go away. Have you never been taught or shown how to treat another human being??? SMH...
    Changing and controling how you respond (or don't respond) to the hostility of others is important. Growing a thicker skin might very well be a part of that.
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    Quote from calgirl44
    2. Going to our unions and include a professional code of conduct in our contract. (That would put the responsibility on the Human Resources department to do what they are experts in.)
    Unions are only concerned about protecting workers from harassment by management; they couldn't care less if you're being harassed by a fellow worker.

    My mother retired from Amtrak, which had a major sexual harassment problem. Whenever management tried to intervene, the union screamed that they were oppressing union members. The union refused to intervene because they don't intervene in conflicts between workers.

    Have you ever seen the movie North Country about a landmark sexual harassment case? It's based on a true story that happened at a union mine.
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    Quote from A1973
    The meanness, the back-stabbing, the rudeness-----its not just in nursing.
    I was an early childhood education teacher before I left that field to go into nursing. Oh, do I have stories for you guys! You see, when you work around WOMEN, that's how it is. I have been victimized by these predator-like women when I was a teacher. They were back-biting, disrespectful, rude, catty and just plain mean. When I went to nursing school I was told by my nursing instructor that nurses eat their young. My nursing instructors also told me that they will not give me a reference for me to work in a hospital or nursing home. They must have sensed something in my personality because they said a doctor's office or clinic would be a good fit. I refuse to work in a hospital. I would rather do home care nursing where it's just me and the patient and the only people I answer to are the families. I am through trying to be liked and accepted by FEMALES in the workplace. That attitude I had is exactly why I suffered as a teacher-----trying to be liked-----but NO MORE.

    I think most women in general are catty and cruel to each other. Not all but MOST of them in the workplace are like that. That's why when I get my nursing job, I will keep to myself. I am not, I refuse, to go out of my way to befriend any nurse or any other WOMAN in the workplace. Women fought hard to get good jobs and good pay and look at how they act. All they want to do is destroy each other. They rarely want to uplift each other. They rarely want to build each other up. They just want to hurt each other. They enjoy that. It is not just the nursing profession----it is any profession dominated by WOMEN. Ick! People may be offended by reading my blog. Too bad. I won't even tell you about the female bosses I had to deal with. Female bosses are worse than male bosses. Trust me. I am just going to say this: I will be nasty to anyone that is nasty to me. All the days of me being sweet to people who are nasty to me and hurting me are over, those days are gone. I am not going out of my way to befriend ANYONE. Especially if the person is a woman. I will keep to myself and try not to smile at anyone. It is what it is folks. I am just trying to survive in my new profession.

    Exactly what about your attitude reflects a mature professional who will build up his colleagues, not tear them down?

    You'll probably accuse me of being another nasty female nurse, but I am confident that your problems relating to women has more to do with you than those "catty, cruel nurses." Your career plan has you headed for destruction.
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    I read a post the other day from a new nurse who was talking about her co-workers (I believe her complaint was that everyone was older than her). She said, and I'm paraphrasing, "They're nice so far, but you never know. Nurses eat their young..." She went on to say that she was expecting them to turn on her.

    So, as an experienced nurse, you can't win. If you're a "Crusty old bat" you're eating your young. If you're kind and supportive, you're still harboring that Jaws-like urge to devour every new nurse who comes into your path.
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    AMEN!
    I know it is hard, but the best thing to do is to "shake it off" when others or not polite or are disagreeable. Most likely there is something going on within them that has nothing to do with you. Be kind in return. Your kindness may surprise them and help them to reflect on their own actions.
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    Quote from RURN2O11
    I have been lucky to work w/ some really awesome nurses, nursing assistants, & doctors in my career & have very rarely (if ever) encountered true hostility in the workplace. I have at times encountered staff members who were somewhat rude or disrespectful. In the moment I might "take offense" but I am a non-confrontational person so unless someone is truly out of line I usually let it slide. As the original poster stated, 99% of the time mean looks, "avoidance" (not saying hi), or a curt response are just due to stress, fatigue, or a combination of both, & I know I am as guilty of these things at times as anyone else. It is so easy to judge our coworkers but we all need to take a step back & remember we are in this together TO CARE FOR PATIENTS! I have found that the more I forgive others, the more those same people forgive me. And the more I go out of my way to help others, the more they do the same for me. There will always be a few people who are less than friendly or who do not have the same team spirit, but as long as the majority of people on the unit are positive & work together well that spirit will rule the unit. As for gossip, I think if the charge nurses & other "leaders" on the unit demonstrate by example that this is unacceptable behavior, the trend will never even begin. At both facilities I've worked at, gossip has never been a real issue b/c the charge nurses, preceptors, & other experienced nurses have never "allowed" it to happen b/c they have never participated in it or started it. However, I have never worked at a facility w/ residents or medical students (or not enough to matter) so I know that does change the atmosphere a great deal.

    Overall I think nurses just need to remember why we are here & that is to care for patients in the best work environment possible for everyone involved. We all want to be respected by our coworkers whether they be doctors or other nurses & the best way to accomplish that is to show respect to each & every person you meet. Pettiness, gossip, & passive-aggressive behavior must not be tolerated or else nurses & pts alike will suffer.
    Love this. Thank you.


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