Nurse with Disdain - page 5

by StuckInTheMiddle

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Hi. I've got to vent here, since I have no "friends" that are nurses, and I want the input of some perhaps unbiased individuals. I'm a mid-30s male career changer. I left a career I had for a decade (not sure why actually)... Read More


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    Change your major to Healthcare Administration. No, and I mean NO! proximity to pts. and you get to make pie charts and line graphs all f'in day. Goals are set and you get to make rules up as you go along. You will stay clean and dry, keep lysol in your bottom drawer in case a c-differ walks by, though if you keep your office door closed you can avoid it all together. You can explain all these serious medical conditions to the foundation members who, if you spin it just right, can donate a new player piano for the lobby.

    Seriously, I just had a shift from H E L L and the thought of a grown adult getting into a NP track and not knowing that their would be sick, needy people on road to his "goal" floors me. PAY YOUR DUES...............then go NP.

    I promise to apologize for this post tomorrow, but the way I'm feeling right now it stands.
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    Exactly why did you become a nurse? I mean nurses are all about patient care. If you are not up to it, then maybe you should look for a position that has less patient interaction. That would mean admin work or even medical assistant.
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    I think this dude has flown the coop. He sounds narcissistic and arrogant to me. Really, he can make patients laugh? He must be so charming and witty. If he's 30ish and turning sour on his second career already, then I concur with another poster who said he may never find his ideal, ultimate job, and a self-evaluation could be necessary before a third career is persued.

    We all put up with aspects of any job that we do not care for. That's why we get paid. To quote Red from That 70's Show, "That's why it's called 'work'! Not 'Super Happy Fun Time'!"
    SleeepyRN, elkpark, Fiona59, and 6 others like this.
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    Quote from Susie2310
    Nursing is about the patient, not the practitioner. People who are sick want a nurse who is competent and caring. It sounds as though your previous profession, which you stated disregarded peoples feelings, suited you far better than nursing.
    Which begs the question: why do patients who depend on the nurse to render care be so rude and ungrateful?

    Also, he opted not to answer a question about the military and if he were in a war zone, that would require a complete disregard to the enemy; just part of the job. This suggests he was in the military.

    As a pre-nursing student, the OP addresses many of my concerns. And I desperately need to hear these experiences and he did so in a professional manner in my opinion.

    On the other hand, this seriously guarded and looking to delete account so quickly when most people here appear to be more sympathetic to his cause is a bit cause for concern.

    The OP could be a chronic patient!
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    Quote from StuckInTheMiddle
    I left a career I had for a decade (not sure why actually) and got a second bachelor's to be a nurse.

    The neediness of patients infuriates me. I can't go back to where I was, and I hate myself for thinking I could feign an interest in this field.
    Were you aware from the start that you had to feign an interest for the field of nursing? I don't see any empathy for your patients in your posts and it makes me think that the profession is a bad match for you and that you are a bad match for the profession. Your patients will definitely sense your disdain for them. You say that you don't know why you left your former career, yet you can't go back to it?

    I wonder why you chose this new profession. I don't expect you to reply to this but perhaps you need to reflect on whether nursing is a good fit for you. Unless you pursue a research career (as other posters have suggested) it's hard to avoid sick people in this job.

    This isn't the friendliest post I've ever written, for that I apologize. I'm not showing much empathy. The reason is your statement that patients infuriate you and that you get angry when they don't stick to your "script". I appreciate the honesty but to me the statement is a red flag.

    A final piece of (I admit, unsolicited) advice. If you're actually concerned with "operations security" don't bring it up You've certainly managed to draw much more attention to yourself by repeatedly alluding to it.
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    Quote from Altra
    You might prefer a procedural unit or an outpatient setting. Or the ER ... if you can handle the craziness.
    Apparently not written by an ER nurse. ER nurses send most of the crazy, needy, drug-seeking, system-abusing, perpetually-unemployed-who-use-the-ER-as-a-PCP patients home! Thereby saving the floor nurses from them. ER is NOT, in any way shape or form, the place for decreased patient contact.
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    The neediness of patients INFURIATES you?! Whoa, buddy. That's a little wild.

    You are definitely not in the right career, and I will not go on any further than that. You already know it.
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    Quote from RNtobeinSoCal
    ...or what about an ASC, working up to management? there are so many areas that you'll be able to use your knowledge and feed your soul. best of luck to you : )
    Please, oh please, oh please, stay away from ASC's. So many patients, so little time to treat the patient, deal with the massive numbers of family members who attend the repair of a hangnail, all the while maintaining those "Excellent" scores on customer surveys. Even management jumps in to placate, soothe and flat-out bribe the folks who thought they checked into the Conrad Hilton for the day.
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    I personally think people are being a little hard on the OP. Nursing schools do not exactly do the best job at teaching grads what the real world of nursing will be like. He is not the only nurse who has come to these forums and declared that he dislikes aspects of nursing.

    However, with the all the time and money invested in the career, leaving is not exactly the easiest thing to so. Like many others, he is looking for a way to salvage a difficult situation.

    There are many people like the OP who are in nursing but do not wish to nurture or develop intense interpersonal relationships with patients. Rather, these nurses do well with constant patient turnover. However, few of them are brave enough to reveal their true feelings because they know they'll be blasted by some of their peers.

    Many, many people are looking for an escape from bedside nursing. However, the mortgage, car payments, student loan debt, children's schooling, and other monetary obligations keep them there.
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    Quote from TheCommuter
    I personally think people are being a little hard on the OP. Nursing schools do not exactly do the best job at teaching grads what the real world of nursing will be like. He is not the only nurse who has come to these forums and declared that he dislikes aspects of nursing.

    However, with the all the time and money invested in the career, leaving is not exactly the easiest thing to so. Like many others, he is looking for a way to salvage a difficult situation.

    There are many people like the OP who are in nursing but do not wish to nurture or develop intense interpersonal relationships with patients. Rather, these nurses do well with constant patient turnover. However, few of them are brave enough to reveal their true feelings because they know they'll be blasted by some of their peers.

    Many, many people are looking for an escape from bedside nursing. However, the mortgage, car payments, student loan debt, children's schooling, and other monetary obligations keep them there.
    Yes!!! WELL SAID. I'm a PRE Nursing student and I appreciated his blatant honesty. Out of all the complaining I've heard on this forum this particular post really made me understand and see what the OP is referring to and I'm grateful for it.


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