Nurse with Disdain - page 2

by StuckInTheMiddle 14,618 Views | 97 Comments

Hi. I've got to vent here, since I have no "friends" that are nurses, and I want the input of some perhaps unbiased individuals. I'm a mid-30s male career changer. I left a career I had for a decade (not sure why actually)... Read More


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    You know the odd thing is that I'm actually personable. I'm just not patient. I can make patients fall out laughing and get them to talk about anything. I don't mind talking either, but when there's other stuff to do my lack of patience prevents it then I don't give them the time of day. The caveat here is when there are patients that become needy or repetitioius I start to feel angry. I value independence and when people can't be that, even by no fault of their own, I again lose my patience.

    Military....can't talk about that area.

    Urgent care....could probably do it. Never heard of such a place in real life though.

    Quote from CrunchRN
    The issue, now and when you become an NP is that if patients do not perceive you as warm and fuzzy at least a little they will give you bad reviews and that will cause you problems.

    Have you thought about the military? It would not be a huge issue there I wouldn't think.

    Can you be a little warm & fuzzy and work in urgent care or somewhere like that where you see them once and quickly?
    Last edit by StuckInTheMiddle on Jan 22, '13
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    There is an urgent care on every corner around here. When I graduated 20 years ago I was already done with the whole hospital environment so I can relate to what you feel.

    Also, workmans comp case management maybe?
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    Have you thought about a research position until you graduate? It's still helping people but you don't have to put up with he nuances of bedside care. Or even the OR. There are other non clinical positions that people have posted. If there are other non clinical positions in your area I say apply for them.

    I can relate to where you are coming from. If you have no other choice but the bedside then look at it this way. And I said this earlier to someone else. For me working towards my career goals helps me to get through my day. I say to myself I'm one day closer to leaving the bedside and I can get through this. It is tough and I'm a float nurse so I usually get a tough assignment and have to put up with more crap. But I know I won't have to endure this for too much longer.

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    Last edit by DoeRN on Jan 22, '13
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    Quote from StuckInTheMiddle
    I need to find other work for now though. I am absolutely on the edge, dread going to work, and even more so I hate actually doing the work. The neediness of patients infuriates me. I can't go back to where I was, and I hate myself for thinking I could feign an interest in this field.
    I think I understand your issue. I think I do. . .

    I believe you dislike the amount of time you must spend with patients in a bedside setting, kissing up to them, pandering to them, spending godawful amounts of time on needy patients who can be ill-tempered or outright rude. In addition, you are stuck with the same group of needy, demanding patients for 8 to 12 hours, or however long your shift may be.

    Do I understand your issue?

    If I have correctly pinned your issue with bedside nursing, you may wish to consider areas such as clinic nursing, the ER, or same day surgery because these specialties all have something in common: patient turnover! You will not be stuck with that same needy patient until they discharge from the hospital. You treat them and they leave.

    Some nurses admit to loving the ICU because their patients are sedated. One nurse said, "Once my patients start riding the hell out of the call light, they're stable enough for me to kick them off the unit and send them to the med/surg floors!"

    I truly wish you the best of luck. I have the same issue with overly needy patients and belligerent family members, so my method of survival involved going PRN and working only two shifts a week. Also, the demands for high patient satisfaction scores are making things almost unbearable on the floors.
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    Sorry - gotta agree with GrnTea on this one. I think the OP is doomed to disappointment & dissatisfaction (misery?) with a career in nursing. Nursing care is based upon our acknowledgement and understanding of the mind-body-spirit connection. There's no way to separate them. Illness affects all aspects of a human being and we have to understand and deal with it all. My background is ICU - with lots of Neuro-trauma (patients, not me). Even completely decerebrate patients have families/SOs that we need to deal with. And these days, reimbursement is tied inexorably to patient (or whoever fills out the survey) satisfaction -- so you can treat them like widgets, but your livelihood will suffer.

    Maybe 'pure research' would be a better fit. Dealing with tissue samples and molecular interactions rather than people.
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    Thank you, Doe. Your thoughts are similar to mine, and that's how I've managed to make it this far. I took a recent vacation, came back to work, and was immediately flooded by how much I can't stand it. Having it off of my responsibility list for a while was a Godsend. Now, that I'm back at it though instead of being rejuvenated I feel even more soured. But each day is another day of pay and a step closer to this chapter of my life.

    Quote from DoeRN
    Have you thought about a research position until you graduate? It's still helping people but you don't have to put up with he nuances of bedside care. Or even the OR. There are other non clinical positions that people have posted. If there are other non clinical positions in your area I say apply for them.

    I can relate to where you are coming from. If you have no other choice but the bedside then look at it this way. And I said this earlier to someone else. For me working towards my career goals helps me to get through my day. I say to myself I'm one day closer to leaving the bedside and I can get through this. It is tough and I'm a float nurse so I usually get a tough assignment and have to put up with more crap. But I know I won't have to endure this for too much longer.

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    You sound goal oriented, low emotion, high yield. I don't think NP is going to be a good fit. MD maybe. OR perhaps. ER. Informatics. Research. Places with little patient interaction and more goal oriented tasks. As an NP you are going to get ten times the complaints, me-centered interactions and lengthy self-oriented speeches from patients than you do as a bedside nurse.
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    To the OP: since you thanked my previous post on the matter, I think I correctly pinned down the issue you're having with bedside nursing.

    So here are other areas/specialties that involve patient turnover to the point where you will not need to spend the entire shift with needy, demanding patients. The PACU (patient anesthesia recovery unit), radiology suites, Coumadin clinics, developmental disabilities nursing, case management, workers' compensation nursing, the OR, home health nursing, and occupational health all involve relatively limited time spent with the patient.

    In the case of the OR, you might be spending 8+ hours with the patient, but at least they'll be out cold during most of that time and unable to bother you.
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    To a T!

    Quote from not.done.yet
    You sound goal oriented, low emotion, high yield.
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    Maybe paramedic would have been a better choice.


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