Nurse Mobbing/bullying - page 11

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  1. by   chadash
    Quote from arblunt
    i don't know if the form means anything or any more but i see alot favortism here. and you tell me that its not in your work place.
    Arblunt, could you explain a little more what you mean?
  2. by   Daffodildeb
    You need to document and document and document. You present some kind of "threat" to these narcissistic, jealous, insecure individuals. Remember: Only the best are bullied!

    Be blessed!

    Deb
  3. by   LPN1974
    Quote from HHC_LPN
    When I worked last week, we had a re-admission come in via transport ambulance. The am. guys brought the res. into her room and helped me get her into bed, we covered her with the bed sheet and the bed cover. I then went to an aide and asked her to get her a warmer blanket to cover her with and put her bagged items away. I signed the paperwork for the amb. men and then set out to get her admission underway by someone who knew what to do (I've never done an admission.) After a few more incidents that day by the bullies, I went to my DON and she confronted me about that re-admit res. She said she found her in her room without any covers on her what-so-ever, and her stuff all over the floor. I was flabbergasted and tried to argue my point with her that I had NOT left the res. cold and uncovered, but she didn't believe me. I think the one bully went in there and took her blankets off of her. ???? I can't figure it out, that is the only conclusion I can come to because when I left the room she was covered by a sheet and the bed cover too. The DON said there were no covers at all in the room. Everything had been removed. I really feel sabotaged and how do I protect myself against attacks like that????????? I can't be everywhere constantly. I'm worried about my licensure coming under attack. Who knows what these two are capable of? :angryfire

    Well, you do have some witnesses that you did cover the resident.
    The ambulance guys and the aide.
    Ask for their assistance. That will show that you did what you were supposed to do.
    You're going to have to fight this head on, toe to toe.
    I was bullied once by two people on my job. They told some lies on me, and my DON believed it, and when I tried to tell my side of the story she wouldn't even listen to me at all.
    I had no witnesses, no one to back me up. So I just had to shut up and take it. But if you have some witnesses. I would go get them to validate my side of the story.
    Last edit by LPN1974 on May 28, '06
  4. by   chadash
    Quote from Daffodildeb
    abridged quote

    Only the best are bullied!

    Be blessed!

    Deb
    I will take that as a compliment!
  5. by   PolandM
    Just read all the posts of this thread and being a male nursing student I am curious about something. All the complaints I've read are in regards to the female nurses. I've read a few about male doctors but has anyone experienced this with male nurses as the source of these problems? I know males make up the minority of the profession so maybe it's harder to come across.
  6. by   LPN1974
    Quote from PolandM
    Just read all the posts of this thread and being a male nursing student I am curious about something. All the complaints I've read are in regards to the female nurses. I've read a few about male doctors but has anyone experienced this with male nurses as the source of these problems? I know males make up the minority of the profession so maybe it's harder to come across.
    I'm not sure exactly what you're asking, but I'll answer what I think is the answer.
    In reference to my last post, where I stated I was bullied by 2 people on my job....one of those persons was male. He was not a nurse, but was in a position that would be equal to a Certified Nurse's Aide.
  7. by   chadash
    Interesting but, frankly, all my personal bullies have been girls. This, of course, is purely anecdotal.
  8. by   Natkat
    This is an excellent book about violence between women.

    http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/156...Fencoding=UTF8

    I don't know what it is about women not being able to get along the way men do. I grew up with 5 brothers and as a result I usually say what's on my mind and don't second guess everything someone says. For example: If you say to a man "Are you going out for lunch?" he will think you are truly curious about his plans for lunch. If you ask a woman if she's going out for lunch her thoughts my run along the lines of "Why does she want to know that? Does she want to go to lunch with me? Is she going to ask me to pick something up for me? Is she going to talk about me while I'm gone? Is she trying to go to lunch first so I have so I have to cover for her?..........and so on.

    I once had a therapist tell me my interpersonal relationships were difficult because I don't understand "girl games." Since I grew up with brothers I never learned that delicate dance of friendship and language that girls learn to get along with other girls. I try to use this to my advantage and let other women figure out that I mean what I say. I don't couch meanness in friendly language and I won't stab them in the back. Once they get to know me they come to find out they can trust me, and usually any hostility that gets directed at me goes away. I can' say it's foolproof. I've been run out of places where it didn't. Still, I believe in the power of human nature and I try to set a good example. I try to lead by being a good, decent person that others can trust, and hope that others will follow my example. If they don't, I just go someplace else.

    BTW, what's a sticky?
  9. by   HarryPotter
    Sounds like a good book, I'llcheck it out.
  10. by   vloho
    Paper work would have backed me up, but DON, acting , Said she wasn't goingto argue with me, all this in front of the aadministrator.
  11. by   chadash
    Quote from Natkat
    This is an excellent book about violence between women.

    http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/156...Fencoding=UTF8

    I don't know what it is about women not being able to get along the way men do. I grew up with 5 brothers and as a result I usually say what's on my mind and don't second guess everything someone says. For example: If you say to a man "Are you going out for lunch?" he will think you are truly curious about his plans for lunch. If you ask a woman if she's going out for lunch her thoughts my run along the lines of "Why does she want to know that? Does she want to go to lunch with me? Is she going to ask me to pick something up for me? Is she going to talk about me while I'm gone? Is she trying to go to lunch first so I have so I have to cover for her?..........and so on.

    I once had a therapist tell me my interpersonal relationships were difficult because I don't understand "girl games." Since I grew up with brothers I never learned that delicate dance of friendship and language that girls learn to get along with other girls. I try to use this to my advantage and let other women figure out that I mean what I say. I don't couch meanness in friendly language and I won't stab them in the back. Once they get to know me they come to find out they can trust me, and usually any hostility that gets directed at me goes away. I can' say it's foolproof. I've been run out of places where it didn't. Still, I believe in the power of human nature and I try to set a good example. I try to lead by being a good, decent person that others can trust, and hope that others will follow my example. If they don't, I just go someplace else.

    BTW, what's a sticky?
    Hey! another me!
    I am ssoooo bad at girl stuff. I really like other women, but I get alot of the same responses that men get from women: I am clueless about what they need. And I totally get my husband and son. Go figure. Oddly, I am estrogen laden (well, until I was 50 or so ) and no tomboy, but my brain works like a guys. But I still throw like a girl.
    Probably my dad's fault, I spent alot of time in the garage.
  12. by   JessicRN
    Quote from PolandM
    Just read all the posts of this thread and being a male nursing student I am curious about something. All the complaints I've read are in regards to the female nurses. I've read a few about male doctors but has anyone experienced this with male nurses as the source of these problems? I know males make up the minority of the profession so maybe it's harder to come across.
    My situation was with a male nurse as well.
  13. by   NurseyTee
    Quote from chadash
    Hey! another me!
    I am ssoooo bad at girl stuff. I really like other women, but I get alot of the same responses that men get from women: I am clueless about what they need. And I totally get my husband and son. Go figure. Oddly, I am estrogen laden (well, until I was 50 or so ) and no tomboy, but my brain works like a guys. But I still throw like a girl.
    Probably my dad's fault, I spent alot of time in the garage.

    Oh!! I get it now! I grew up with only brothers in a neighborhood with only boys. So I played with all boys my whole life as a child and only grew up with boys. I am a total girl, inside and out, but I guess my brain is more boy thinking. My husband and I totally understand one another and I get my sons' too. I have 2 daughters though, that I've never understood all the high school drama and fighting.

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