Mother Hen - page 3

by Kooky Korky

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have you ever worked with a nurse who thought she needed to be super sweet to get the aides to do their terribly hard work? who frequently brought them food and thanked them all the time for doing what they are paid to do? i... Read More


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    Quote from grntea
    i'm thinking the answer is somewhere in the middle ground between "you get a paycheck for doing your job already," and "you get more flies with honey than vinegar."
    how about a sign-up in the staff room that asks for a treat once a week per shift, and people sign up for that a couple of weeks in advance, and bring the recipe? leave a copy of each recipe up on the board. everyone gets praise for bringing in their something, everyone is on a level playing field (no rank or pay differentials in cookbooks), and a more collegial spirit. keep it simple-- a coffee cake even if it's sara lee, a batch of cookies even if they're from frozen toll house dough, a batch of croissants or biscuits from the refrigerator section, a plate of hummus and salsa and whole-wheat chips, whatever. nobody should go broke or crazy over it-- it's a team-building thang.
    i don't like the "have to" aspect of it at all.

    if i want to bring treats on occasion, i will. if not, though, i won't. besides, if it is a regularly occurring thing, it loses its specialness, doesn't it?

    it becomes a burden to remember to bring stuff, to pay for it. furthermore, resentment builds against those who choose not to participate, even if we don't eat anything that is brought.
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    Quote from tokmom
    Even with all of that, I have yet to win the quarterly award. It always goes to someone who just shows up, does her job and leaves. It really is a good thing I don't need stroking, or a cookie to do a good job.
    I agree, those awards rarely mean anything.
    I had to bust my butt for close to 20 years before I got any significant reward... it was a scholarship.
    That was much better than a bad photo of me tacked to the bulletin board just because someone decided it was my turn to be "Employee of Month" or whatever...

    I don't work for the praise.
    If I had expected that, I would have quit years ago. Egads!

    I also dislike empty praise. It's insulting and embarrassing.
    However, if someone wants to thank me-- fine, if you mean it. Just don't do it to compel me to "perform". I'm not a monkey and I don't need you to toss me peanuts.

    I have even returned or given a thanks to my nurse because it seemed the right thing to do. I felt it and I meant it.

    I am, however, a strong believer in "catching" people when they are doing something right. If I see that someone clearly took the time and put XX amount of effort into something... you can be darn sure I'm going to let them know I see it and like it... and want more of it...

    Maybe some people sort of go over the top with the rewards and praise because they can plainly see that the CNAs have a crap position... maybe trying to keep morale up.
    Yes, the CNAs chose it and can improve their situation... but that is a whole other topic, which has discussed on AN before.

    I think the "Mother Hen" goes way over the top, however, and encourages the nurse to be sucked dry and taken advantage of...
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    Quote from tokmom
    I go to work sick. Haven't called in for almost a year. I'm on every committee under the sun and my manager thinks I'm the charge nurse that holds the floor together. He calls me for advice. I help on the floor and work OT and won't leave my shift until my work is done.
    Even with all of that, I have yet to win the quarterly award. It always goes to someone who just shows up, does her job and leaves. It really is a good thing I don't need stroking, or a cookie to do a good job.
    This is interesting because it happens in every workplace.

    There are two schools of thought on this type of employee incentive. One is to reward expected work of an average employee as a tool to motivate to increased performance. The other is to reward exemplary work of an exemplary employee to serve as a role model for others. More often than not, the former is how the incentive is used.
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    Quote from Hygiene Queen
    That was much better than a bad photo of me tacked to the bulletin board just because someone decided it was my turn to be "Employee of Month" or whatever...
    About this post and the posts where it's a popularity contest...I worked on an employee recognition committee in my former job. The entire committee felt that when a recognition award lost its significance as a reward for outstanding work, receiving it was meaningless.

    Nine times out of ten, employee recognition awards are started with good intentions to recognize outstanding work, and then, over time, they become nothing. I don't know why that happens...it just does.


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