Masturbation roll call (and other, TMI conversations at nurses station)

  1. OK, I'm no prude. We have lots of fun and I can be as ribald at times, there's lots of humor in nursing, especially in ER. But, what is it with some of my coworkers, who want to talk about pretty personal stuff at the nurses station? There has been more than one recent conversation glorifying masturbation, as an example. Then the instigator wants to make sure everyone in the group also indulges, asking each person, and goes on to vilify those totally crazy people who claim to maybe disapprove, not participate, or simply don't want to discuss it. No, my dear co-workers, a vibrator is not a necessity of life that every woman must own.

    Is this a generational thing? In my day certain subject matters were off limits. I've tried to point out that, really, certain things ARE NOT to be discussed. Like telling the doctor that he has a small member. And, I'd like to see less profanity tossed around. There are some co-workers who toss around the F-bomb like I say 'you know' or 'um'.
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  3. by   Fiona59
    I honestly think it's generational. My coworkers are all over 40 for the most part except for a couple of very young new grads.

    What I object to are People wanting to convert me at work.
    Last edit by traumaRUs on Jul 8, '14 : Reason: Tos
  4. by   TraumaORnurse
    I work with a nurse in her mid-50s who is all the time talking about sex, which in turn gets the other 50+ year old women started, while I, at 30, would rather not partake.

    I will confess to the language, but no more than my older coworkers. But when you work in a high stress environment, it's bound to happen.
  5. by   hiddencatRN
    Masturbation is glorious, it doesn't need further glorifying at work.
  6. by   Ruas61
    I'd call security if demonstrations ensue.
  7. by   TriciaJ
    Once upon a time, nurses lived in nurses' residences, had curfews and some were not even allowed to date. I don't advocate we go back to that, but OP is describing some really low-class behaviour. How long are we going to enjoy our present level of credibility if we demonstrate such poor social awareness?
  8. by   vanessaem
    Quote from Ruas61
    I'd call security if demonstrations ensue.
    This made me lol!

    Honestly OP, what kind of people are you working with? You all are coworkers working in a hospital not sorority sisters in a sorority house and even if you all were, I'm sure you wouldn't be interesting hearing about their "self-care" habits or needs. I never understood why people get so personal with people they work with. I really don't think it's a generational thing because some people, no matter what age group they fall in, think it's a good idea to put their business out there.
  9. by   Ruby Vee
    I think it's partly generational, but partly regional as well. The folks I work with here just aren't as classy as folks I've worked with in the past. So the discussions do get pretty down and dirty at times. Sometimes, it's easier just to find something to do in my patient room than participate in "shock the old nurse" conversations!
  10. by   chrisrn24
    I talk about that with friends not coworkers...there's a line!
  11. by   Delicate Flower
    I don't think profanity is generational. I feel like the older I get, the more I use swear words. Not at work, though. I feel like it helps me deal with stress, and get my point across in a more colorful way.
  12. by   nursel56
    I am very reserved about that kind of stuff and so are my kids, ages 24 and 27. Although I can't help recalling someone in a prior thread about this saying they always masturbate while stopped for a red light because "what else are you going to do?"

    Swear words don't bother me unless they are aimed in my general direction such that it can't be chalked up to paranoia. In fact, I have a theory that if two people drop a heavy object on their foot the one who says "gosh darn it" will have a higher subjective pain level than the one who says "*** damn it, son of a ***** blank-me", etc.
  13. by   jadelpn
    Be really, really careful participating in these type of conversations with co-workers.

    It is all ha-ha's fun and games until someone files a sexual harrassment lawsuit.

    And I would find a grilling of my personal sex practices at work by a co-worker CREEPY....
  14. by   VampyrSlayer
    They say swearing helps deal with pain... Or is that stress...

    Eh, I'll do it for both just incase