Lacking Conflict Resolution and Delegation Skills...Really? - Page 2

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  1. Guide
    Aug 8, '12 by
    Agree with Asystole RN's post -- the organization would be shooting itself in the foot to promote someone who has obvious disrespect for coworkers, and possibly the organization itself.
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  2. Aug 8, '12 by
    Quote from determined2doit
    Let me first thank everyone for their replies, albeit, some are very short, curt, and a bit disrespectful. Nevertheless, I did ask for ALL comments, so that's what I get. Please understand that this was a mere vent, that is all.

    What doesn't suprise me is the typical attacks that I received, especially from Ms. Ashley, PICU RN, but it is quite unfounded, Ms. Ashley, hardly knows me, and definitely doesn't know the staff that I've discussed. However, she politely puts her worthless 2 cents in unabashedly. Well, I guess that's it for expressing my feelings, but again, I can't expect anything less, especially coming from nurses, who are under the mindset of attack, attack, then attack some more. Pity.
    Well, I for one am not blown away by your conflict resolution skills displayed here....

    What kind of help would you like? You are the one on this site telling us your view of the situation as you see it. No one here can tell you manager what to do or how she could improve the situation. All we can do is give you suggestions that YOU can run with. So the focus will be on YOU. If your post was off-putting and the very opposite of a respectful tone during conflict, of course the irony would be mentioned. You've decided everyone here is worthless and you're giving up. Why isn't that surprising?

    If you want this, you're going to have to figure out how to improve what your DON expects you to improve. Period. Dragging people through the mud will absolutely not get you there. Rise above
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  3. Aug 8, '12 by
    Quote from determined2doit
    Let me first thank everyone for their replies, albeit, some are very short, curt, and a bit disrespectful. Nevertheless, I did ask for ALL comments, so that's what I get. Please understand that this was a mere vent, that is all.

    What doesn't suprise me is the typical attacks that I received, especially from Ms. Ashley, PICU RN, but it is quite unfounded, Ms. Ashley, hardly knows me, and definitely doesn't know the staff that I've discussed. However, she politely puts her worthless 2 cents in unabashedly. Well, I guess that's it for expressing my feelings, but again, I can't expect anything less, especially coming from nurses, who are under the mindset of attack, attack, then attack some more. Pity.
    Had Ashley Picu Rn responded to my post in such a way I would not have been offended. Sometimes it's really hard to take criticism through these forums. I've been in your shoes reading something I didn't like. Nurses respond to these posts not to be mean, but to give you the benefit of their experience. Their knowledge is priceless if you can set your ego aside and consider it.
    You don't have to agree, just think about it.
  4. Aug 9, '12 by
    Determined2doit plainly stated that she had no backing from management when she did write staff up. It sounds to me like the current manager and DON did nothing to help improve things.
  5. Aug 9, '12 by
    Quote from determined2doit
    Let me first thank everyone for their replies, albeit, some are very short, curt, and a bit disrespectful. Nevertheless, I did ask for ALL comments, so that's what I get. Please understand that this was a mere vent, that is all.

    What doesn't suprise me is the typical attacks that I received, especially from Ms. Ashley, PICU RN, but it is quite unfounded, Ms. Ashley, hardly knows me, and definitely doesn't know the staff that I've discussed. However, she politely puts her worthless 2 cents in unabashedly. Well, I guess that's it for expressing my feelings, but again, I can't expect anything less, especially coming from nurses, who are under the mindset of attack, attack, then attack some more. Pity.
    With a reply like this, I can see why your boss has doubts.
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  6. Aug 9, '12 by
    When I read the title of the thread ... "Lacking Conflict Resolution and Delegation Skills...Really?".... my first thought was that an easy way to demonstrate both at the same time would be to simply say "get someone else to do it" and turn and walk away..... delgation and ending a conflict in one fell swoop, so to speak.
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    Aug 9, '12 by
    When you post on the Internet, you might not always get the answers you want. However, sometimes anonymity works in that, you are getting unbiased answers from people that have experience. Not agreeing or disagreeing with anyone, just that anonymity does sometimes cloak us so that we make comments that we might not feel comfortable making in person.
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  8. Aug 9, '12 by
    Once again, I thank everyone for their comments...have a blessed one!
  9. Aug 9, '12 by
    It's rare for staff to be promoted to management , even in the best circumstances. This is because the staff has learned the working relationship at a mutual level and that is difficult to change.

    It sounds like your concerns with the staff are legitimate, maybe even right on. However, if you express those concerns with even a hint of anger/disdain/exasperation... the "professional" demeanor is lost.

    Therefore... the impression of your conflict resolution and delegation skills is out the window.

    "All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players"
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  10. Aug 9, '12 by
    @determined2doit - well your manager gave you feed back of why you wouldn't be hired "lacking Conflict Resolution and Delegation Skills" given your current outlook BUT the fact that she agreed to interview you means that you still have a chance should you prove yourself worthy. Ask yourself why do you want the position? what can you contribute, how can you solve those problems you mentioned?.

    Yes its probably true staff is lazy, doesn't give a dam, is partly incompetent, won't listen etc BUT whoever gets hired into the management spot has to deal with all of those issues and needs to come up with a way fix it. So if you really want the job think about it and find a away to address those problems and make it work.
    Last edit by Inori on Aug 9, '12
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