Interpersonal Conflicts we all have
- 0May 21, '09 by Poison_IVAn obnoxious nurse decided to "take a turn" at me while I was starting my new job.She is known for this, and probably does it to every new face she meets.
I would to throw her back in her .
Of course, my super' advised me to, "report it straight away".
At this point, I am mostly concerned about my rep.
But...I don't snitch, and I don't let it slide.
Do you report? Or...
Do you build a reputation, dole out the same meds, with ample follow-ups? <<<What ballbusters do.
No textbook answers please. Real work experiences only.
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- 0May 22, '09 by mortei think i get the post, i would guess OP is either a Brit or Aussie......when you are being picked on, you need to set her/him straight that this is not going to "fly" with you......and keep the super in the loop at the same time; try your best to not let her/him rattle you into making mistakes.....and there by building that rep. an occ dose of their own medicine will be tempting, but be careful they can oft be the "run to the sup" type themselves.....good luck
- 1May 22, '09 by 2BSureI have changed my opinion on handling this sort of thing lately. Primarily because my method wasn't working from me and I was not doing myself any great service. What I was doing was "not letting people get away with their crap". I would either give as good as I got or I would attempt to get others who worked with me on my side. All this did was have me be a willing participant of the nasty, overt and passive aggressive behaviour that I so hate.
Reporting someone is an option and if we worked in a perfect system she would get her %&$ handed to her. The fact is, if she has a rep for this then, the culture of your work has been supporting her in this behaviour for a while.
I would deal with it immediately with the offender. Something like "you know when you do/say XYZ to me it really isn't OK". Don't be aggressive or unpleasant. Then walk away and let it be her problem.
Frankly, if your supervisor was there and witnessed it THEY should report it.
Be better than those who do this stuff and good luck.
- 1May 22, '09 by LacieLol, unless as in my case the guilty party was my administrator!! Yesterday very professionally and respectfully responded to a one of the "point the finger deals" (you getting blamed for someone elses actions). My secretary inadvertantedly sent 30 very incomplete re-assessments to the Dr. which have been sitting in an empty room since October last year and were going to be disposed of lol. He completed them all!!!! Boy did the secretary drop the bomb and this one then denied doing it. I have never taken files to him and I got the blame from my boss who is the one who put them in the conference area in the first place herself. (By the way I'm a DON). I asked her why she didnt call me at home to inform me of the situation before pointing blame and her response was "Because I'm the Boss and I can do or say what ever I want when I want". I subtly walked behind her as she was in my office on my computer, reached into my bag and pulled out the already prepared resignation Boy did I get the reverse attitude today although a little too late. Sometimes you have to know when to pick your battles and how but always keep it on a professional level. It was hard but I wasnt about to allow myself to drop to that level to disrespect her as she disrespected me. I think my 30 day notice got the point across for the moment, at least in 30 days I no longer have to witness the "power trip".