innappropriate/weird encounters with patients?

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    i was just wondering what everyones weird/ innappropriate encounters with patients where as a nurse (Ex. people touching you weirdly, saying innappropriate things thing you, stuff like that)
    im in nursing school but know a few nurses and i have heard them tell me storys about men telling them some off the wall stuff, people grabbing the in certian areas, one lady who i know who is a nurse went to get a urine sample from a man and apparently the man was mad and instead of pee well he gave her something else in that cup hahaha.
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    That last line has me bursting out in laughter. OMG! That is crazy. I am not a nurse yet, but I think this would be difficult to overcome at times when people are acting inappropriately. I know being a former MP as a female I have had people give me hard times before but I couldn't imagine getting a surprise like that.
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    I had a situation in nursing school that was sort of sad, understandable and could be seen as inappropriate. I had a male patient during my LTC rotation that started masturbating while I and a female CNA were giving him a shower.

    As a man myself, I can empathize with a long-married man who still has sexual feelings, but no intimate contact with his wife, and no privacy in his shared room. I acted as if it was normal and didn't react, but the CNA offered him a wash cloth, and was clearly uncomfortable with it. Personally, the only thing that made this situation mildly inappropriate, was that it made the aide self-conscious. However, I'd hope that if she stays in the business very long, she'll get over it, because I doubt it was the last time she encounters that, as sexuality does not expire just because you age.
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    Quote from bookworm78910
    I had a situation in nursing school that was sort of sad, understandable and could be seen as inappropriate. I had a male patient during my LTC rotation that started masturbating while I and a female CNA were giving him a shower.

    As a man myself, I can empathize with a long-married man who still has sexual feelings, but no intimate contact with his wife, and no privacy in his shared room. I acted as if it was normal and didn't react, but the CNA offered him a wash cloth, and was clearly uncomfortable with it. Personally, the only thing that made this situation mildly inappropriate, was that it made the aide self-conscious. However, I'd hope that if she stays in the business very long, she'll get over it, because I doubt it was the last time she encounters that, as sexuality does not expire just because you age.

    I'm sorry, but masturbating in front of you two was totally inappropriate. A man getting an erection could be seen as understandable and sometimes uncontrollable, but the masturbation was over the top. I would have been uncomfortable, disgusted and offended. Please don't put the idea out there for female health workers that this is acceptable behavior to encounter.
    catlvr, wantmyBSN, sharonp30, and 70 others like this.
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    Had a 30 something male patient ask me to help while he was walking into his bathroom just prior to discharge. He didn't know that the male CNA was also in the room having come in just behind me. I asked how he was feeling, and he said I'll be fine in a minute, I need you to hold my penis for me because I'm feeling a little wobbly . So I said, you know I will just ask "Mike" here to help you with that so I can get your discharge papers in order. The guy spins around and there's big 'ol Mike with a huge grin on his face standing in the doorway of the bathroom. I quickly said, excuse me, and slipped around Mike and out the door. Mike told me he and the guy had a "moment" and then the guy suddenly felt fine.
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    I had a pt offer me his beach house if I could climb into his bed with him "for just a minute". I told him that I had my own beach house, and that I was so sorry that policy hindered me from being with him for just a minute!
    sharonp30, Medic2RN, ComeClarity, and 9 others like this.
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    Quote from MissKayRN
    I'm sorry, but masturbating in front of you two was totally inappropriate. A man getting an erection could be seen as understandable and sometimes uncontrollable, but the masturbation was over the top. I would have been uncomfortable, disgusted and offended. Please don't put the idea out there for female health workers that this is acceptable behavior to encounter.
    If the resident was safe, a little privacy would probably have been the best thing to do. LTC residents may not always be as clear thinking as the average 40 yo male and sometimes their "filter" for what is appropriate and what is not isn't there anymore. Also remember privacy for a nursing home resident is little or nothing, and those normal barriers are blurred. They are not in a hospital, they are in their own home and may not have the soundest of minds. Maybe suggesting a male CNA in the future and allowing a little private time would be a good start.
    SleeepyRN, Hygiene Queen, handyrn, and 5 others like this.
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    OK...........You're not going to believe this but I SWEAR this happened.
    M/S Tele Unit and alarm goes off as V-Tach. Not having monitor techs we were taught to check the patient first and then the monitor. I go rushing in and what is this
    V-Tach??????????A patient being serviced orally by his girlfriend!
    The only thing I could say "There is a time and place for things like that and the hospital is not the place!
    You can't make these things up!!!!
    SwansonRN, imintrouble, bree*, and 7 others like this.
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    It's not a daily thing but it does happen. It just happened to me yesterday...my patient complimented me on my "perfume" (it was actually my hairspray) when I knelt down to assess his petals while he was sitting on the bed. I said thank you because he didn't seem creepy but then he decided to take it somewhere else by saying "it smells like that pear stuff from victoria's secret...it smells good enough to lick off of ya"

    There really is only one way to handle it and that is shut it down while maintaining ur patient repor and professionalism. Don't make enemies, but kindly say that is innapropriate. If I know a patient can be innappropriate at times I usually introduce myself, explain my position and what I am in the room to do. I set boundaries and don't let them try to veer off the plan of care to get me to stay in there longer. If they still don't get it I will use the buddy system with a male, like a RT or aid that can "tag team" and both get things done instead of looking like your bodyguard.
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    Recently had a patient that began licking my bare arm while we were repositioning him. That really wasn't very nice
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