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- Dec 10, '12 by SwansonRNOh my gosh I have a funny story for this. Once I was removing a foley catheter from a male (sorry to perpetuate the trend here). While I did it he let out a deep groan and afterwards looked me square in the eye and said, "that felt like the best orgasm I have ever had!" WHATTTTTTTTTTTT.
- Dec 10, '12 by ChayaQuote from kayernOK...........You're not going to believe this but I SWEAR this happened.
M/S Tele Unit and alarm goes off as V-Tach. Not having monitor techs we were taught to check the patient first and then the monitor. I go rushing in and what is this
V-Tach??????????A patient being serviced orally by his girlfriend!
The only thing I could say "There is a time and place for things like that and the hospital is not the place!
You can't make these things up!!!!
Yep, that was a typical "toothbrushing" rhythm; any rapid repetitive movement could fit the bill!
- Dec 11, '12 by anotheroneQuote from mustlovepoodles(older thread but...)I dont want to give details but I have had weird inappropriate things happen with 2 women. one started masturbating knowing i was standing there. the other was a very inappropriate gross comment. there was a female pt all the male aides and nurses refused because (and unknowing of other events and different incidents) the pt was very inappropriate and said some sexually inappropriate things. pt would request certain male aides/nurses help her etc. weird but was not THAT weird ever with female staff.Interesting...48 posts and 44 of them are about men being nasty. Why am I not surprised? I started off my career working med-surg and I got enough groping, suggestive commentary, and generalized nastiness to last me a life time. I switched to mother/baby about 2 years into my career, and later to peds, primarily so that i would NEVER have to deal with adult male patients again.
- Dec 12, '12 by big al lpnI was working LTC when a trustworthy CNA came to me to report that Mrs S, who was a pleasantly confused woman,had BM comming from her vagina. I followed the aid to assist in care and assess the "situation". Sure enough when we took off her brief there was brown lumpy discharge. While cleaning her I noticed how this BM didn't smell bad, then I noticed a peanut in it. Now they never served peanuts at this LTC because of the choke hazard. So I smelt the BM and determined it was chocolate! After a bit of investigation we figured out that she had stolen a snickers bar from her room mate and was attempting to use if as a marital aid. We notified the social worker and for Mrs S the proper tool for the job, and a friendly note in her drawer to remind her to put it back when she was done.
- Dec 12, '12 by ChayaQuote from big al lpnOK-gotta say that's something I've never heard of before! (And I didn't think there was anything that could surprise me!)I was working LTC when a trustworthy CNA came to me to report that Mrs S, who was a pleasantly confused woman,had BM comming from her vagina. I followed the aid to assist in care and assess the "situation". Sure enough when we took off her brief there was brown lumpy discharge. While cleaning her I noticed how this BM didn't smell bad, then I noticed a peanut in it. Now they never served peanuts at this LTC because of the choke hazard. So I smelt the BM and determined it was chocolate! After a bit of investigation we figured out that she had stolen a snickers bar from her room mate and was attempting to use if as a marital aid. We notified the social worker and for Mrs S the proper tool for the job, and a friendly note in her drawer to remind her to put it back when she was done.
- Dec 12, '12 by SleeepyRNQuote from MissKayRNI agree. If the resident was confused, that's one thing. But if he werent, thats inappropriate. Even if the resident were confused, you could say something like, "you can do that when you're back in bed under your covers, but right now you're just going to wash up"I'm sorry, but masturbating in front of you two was totally inappropriate. A man getting an erection could be seen as understandable and sometimes uncontrollable, but the masturbation was over the top. I would have been uncomfortable, disgusted and offended. Please don't put the idea out there for female health workers that this is acceptable behavior to encounter.
- Dec 12, '12 by SleeepyRNQuote from MomRN0913Yep. Allowing for private time is appropriate. It is not in my job description to be a watcher to a masterbatory session. I believe those are called hookers and get paid a heck of a lot more than I do. I am being serious. There are people, both men and women, who get off on masterbating in front of people. That's a hooker, wife or girlfriend's job, not mine. It does not make me a prude nor insensitive to human needs. I am female, and to be told that as a female I should get over it is...just wrong. No, I will happily respect the resident's need by offering private time, not by just allowing him to do it in front of me.You seriously think it's appropriate and expected behavior for a guy to masturbate in front of heathcare workers while they are trying to help him because he still has sexual feelings? I guess then it's appropriate for a guy to whip it out in public and start whacking off because he has an urge? Come on now. It should be the last time she ever excounters that, beause if a pt tried that in front of me, I would tell him how highly innappropriate that is and if he wants ot masturbate, he an do that in private. You view on this is disturbing.
- Dec 13, '12 by SadalaI worked in psych as a mental health worker, so... When was a patient NOT masturbating in public or doing something else that would be considered inappropriate (which of course was redirected in terms of when and where it was acceptable, but was still a fairly common issue, particularly on some units).
One teenager - in addition to the public masturbation - used to urinate in cups and leave them in different places in her room on the floor. She could perfectly navigate around them, even in the dark. The staff, not so much... (Which I think was sort of her strategy with the whole thing. Kind of a silent protest in the form of an object lesson, if you will).
btw, one of my fondest memories from psych was developing a caring attitude with that patient and helping her reintegrate into interacting with her peers and then actually seeing her desire to behave in a manner that was more socially effective for her. I guess that in nursing, unless it is ltc or a psych unit, it's not always so possible to see when the good changes happen in terms of behavior. But at least you do get to see when the good things happen medically.
- Dec 13, '12 by SadalaI also have another comment and a question (I usually have lots of both).
Question - When I worked in psych and later in social services, it was my policy to avoid being alone with male clients above a certain age and actually, with some female clients, just depended on the hx and issues. And if I needed to examine a child for injuries, even though I never actually undressed them, I still never did that alone. (Although I'm sure I did change a few diapers along the way during transportation or after family visits, or whatever). Bottom line, I just always felt that it was a good practice both to protect the careers of workers and to protect the client population - because we dealt with clients who had by and large been victimized previously in some manner.
Also, my male physicians have of course always had someone female in the room with them during any more intimate examinations.
But nurses DO need to go into patient rooms (of both genders) alone (which we would never have done in psych). Is it permissible to have another staff member with you for opposite gender patient care if it involves something like cathing, or bathing, etc? I guess I'm asking - basically for which activities is it acceptable to ask another staff member to accompany you with an opposite gender patient?