innappropriate/weird encounters with patients? - page 6

i was just wondering what everyones weird/ innappropriate encounters with patients where as a nurse (Ex. people touching you weirdly, saying innappropriate things thing you, stuff like that) im in... Read More

  1. Visit  Chaya profile page
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    Quote from netglow
    Ya know... should the word "masturbate" be Googled I am sure Allnurses links would now be returned
    It is what it is!
  2. Visit  anotherone profile page
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    Quote from mustlovepoodles
    Interesting...48 posts and 44 of them are about men being nasty. Why am I not surprised? I started off my career working med-surg and I got enough groping, suggestive commentary, and generalized nastiness to last me a life time. I switched to mother/baby about 2 years into my career, and later to peds, primarily so that i would NEVER have to deal with adult male patients again.
    (older thread but...)I dont want to give details but I have had weird inappropriate things happen with 2 women. one started masturbating knowing i was standing there. the other was a very inappropriate gross comment. there was a female pt all the male aides and nurses refused because (and unknowing of other events and different incidents) the pt was very inappropriate and said some sexually inappropriate things. pt would request certain male aides/nurses help her etc. weird but was not THAT weird ever with female staff.
  3. Visit  big al lpn profile page
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    I was working LTC when a trustworthy CNA came to me to report that Mrs S, who was a pleasantly confused woman,had BM comming from her vagina. I followed the aid to assist in care and assess the "situation". Sure enough when we took off her brief there was brown lumpy discharge. While cleaning her I noticed how this BM didn't smell bad, then I noticed a peanut in it. Now they never served peanuts at this LTC because of the choke hazard. So I smelt the BM and determined it was chocolate! After a bit of investigation we figured out that she had stolen a snickers bar from her room mate and was attempting to use if as a marital aid. We notified the social worker and for Mrs S the proper tool for the job, and a friendly note in her drawer to remind her to put it back when she was done.
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    Quote from big al lpn
    I was working LTC when a trustworthy CNA came to me to report that Mrs S, who was a pleasantly confused woman,had BM comming from her vagina. I followed the aid to assist in care and assess the "situation". Sure enough when we took off her brief there was brown lumpy discharge. While cleaning her I noticed how this BM didn't smell bad, then I noticed a peanut in it. Now they never served peanuts at this LTC because of the choke hazard. So I smelt the BM and determined it was chocolate! After a bit of investigation we figured out that she had stolen a snickers bar from her room mate and was attempting to use if as a marital aid. We notified the social worker and for Mrs S the proper tool for the job, and a friendly note in her drawer to remind her to put it back when she was done.
    OK-gotta say that's something I've never heard of before! (And I didn't think there was anything that could surprise me!)
  5. Visit  SleeepyRN profile page
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    Quote from MissKayRN
    I'm sorry, but masturbating in front of you two was totally inappropriate. A man getting an erection could be seen as understandable and sometimes uncontrollable, but the masturbation was over the top. I would have been uncomfortable, disgusted and offended. Please don't put the idea out there for female health workers that this is acceptable behavior to encounter.
    I agree. If the resident was confused, that's one thing. But if he werent, thats inappropriate. Even if the resident were confused, you could say something like, "you can do that when you're back in bed under your covers, but right now you're just going to wash up"
  6. Visit  SleeepyRN profile page
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    Quote from MomRN0913
    You seriously think it's appropriate and expected behavior for a guy to masturbate in front of heathcare workers while they are trying to help him because he still has sexual feelings? I guess then it's appropriate for a guy to whip it out in public and start whacking off because he has an urge? Come on now. It should be the last time she ever excounters that, beause if a pt tried that in front of me, I would tell him how highly innappropriate that is and if he wants ot masturbate, he an do that in private. You view on this is disturbing.
    Yep. Allowing for private time is appropriate. It is not in my job description to be a watcher to a masterbatory session. I believe those are called hookers and get paid a heck of a lot more than I do. I am being serious. There are people, both men and women, who get off on masterbating in front of people. That's a hooker, wife or girlfriend's job, not mine. It does not make me a prude nor insensitive to human needs. I am female, and to be told that as a female I should get over it is...just wrong. No, I will happily respect the resident's need by offering private time, not by just allowing him to do it in front of me.
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  7. Visit  Sadala profile page
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    I worked in psych as a mental health worker, so... When was a patient NOT masturbating in public or doing something else that would be considered inappropriate (which of course was redirected in terms of when and where it was acceptable, but was still a fairly common issue, particularly on some units).

    One teenager - in addition to the public masturbation - used to urinate in cups and leave them in different places in her room on the floor. She could perfectly navigate around them, even in the dark. The staff, not so much... (Which I think was sort of her strategy with the whole thing. Kind of a silent protest in the form of an object lesson, if you will).

    btw, one of my fondest memories from psych was developing a caring attitude with that patient and helping her reintegrate into interacting with her peers and then actually seeing her desire to behave in a manner that was more socially effective for her. I guess that in nursing, unless it is ltc or a psych unit, it's not always so possible to see when the good changes happen in terms of behavior. But at least you do get to see when the good things happen medically.
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    I also have another comment and a question (I usually have lots of both).

    Question - When I worked in psych and later in social services, it was my policy to avoid being alone with male clients above a certain age and actually, with some female clients, just depended on the hx and issues. And if I needed to examine a child for injuries, even though I never actually undressed them, I still never did that alone. (Although I'm sure I did change a few diapers along the way during transportation or after family visits, or whatever). Bottom line, I just always felt that it was a good practice both to protect the careers of workers and to protect the client population - because we dealt with clients who had by and large been victimized previously in some manner.

    Also, my male physicians have of course always had someone female in the room with them during any more intimate examinations.

    But nurses DO need to go into patient rooms (of both genders) alone (which we would never have done in psych). Is it permissible to have another staff member with you for opposite gender patient care if it involves something like cathing, or bathing, etc? I guess I'm asking - basically for which activities is it acceptable to ask another staff member to accompany you with an opposite gender patient?
  9. Visit  sawice profile page
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    I was thinking about starting a post on this same topic as I recently had a male patient say "I like your smell". I also had another patient tell me he couldn't wait to feel my arms around him again - while helping him transition from bed to chair.

    Also had a woman sneaking chewing tobacco into her room since she couldn't smoke. I couldn't figure out why she was so possessive of what I thought was an empty smoothie container until I realized she was using it as her personal spittoon.... She'd also managed to poop in the drawers of the nightstand in her room.
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  10. Visit  calivianya profile page
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    Had a guy at my last job too weak and fat to hold the urinal. Of course, he had BPH and peed around 100ccs each time, and was getting Lasix. He started flirting with me halfway through the night. I just wanted to die I felt so awful. I requested not to have him back the next night... fortunately, he got to be someone else's problem.
  11. Visit  Glycerine82 profile page
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    The first thing that comes to mind when I hear LTC and masturbation, is dementia. In that case, it's not at all uncommon for them to masturbate or act otherwise inappropriately. If you are able to leave them, that's what you do. IF you are showering them, you re-direct until you can leave them. It's 100% not their fault and they should never be yelled at or anything similar.

    Someone who is alert and oriented doing this kind of thing is a whole different situation than someone who has dementia/Alzheimers.
  12. Visit  not.done.yet profile page
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    Alert, oriented male patient in a shortie robe and nothing else came up behind me while I was charting at my work station in the hall and started massaging my shoulders. Ewwwww.

    Older gentleman whom I was discharging stated "MmmMMM MM! I love to watch that walk away!" as I was leaving the room. He propositioned me for sex as I was handing him his discharge paperwork.

    both situations when I was a new grad and both flustered me immensely at the time. I would have no problem dealing with that now.
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  13. Visit  Gooselady profile page
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    Quote from meghan91
    i was just wondering what everyones weird/ innappropriate encounters with patients where as a nurse (Ex. people touching you weirdly, saying innappropriate things thing you, stuff like that)
    im in nursing school but know a few nurses and i have heard them tell me storys about men telling them some off the wall stuff, people grabbing the in certian areas, one lady who i know who is a nurse went to get a urine sample from a man and apparently the man was mad and instead of pee well he gave her something else in that cup hahaha.
    To be honest, I've had many more 'weird/uncomfortable' encounters OUTSIDE of nursing than I ever have while being a nurse at work. I doubt I'm the only one that can claim this
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