innappropriate/weird encounters with patients? - page 3
i was just wondering what everyones weird/ innappropriate encounters with patients where as a nurse (Ex. people touching you weirdly, saying innappropriate things thing you, stuff like that) im in... Read More
Feb 6, '11I think that the only solution , is to separate between male & female . ( i mean for male ward only male nurse who can work , female nurse can only work in female ward ) this is my opinion.
Feb 6, '11Thank you for pointing out that agency policy may dictate residents not be left alone in the shower room. That was the policy in this agency, and in this situation that would not have been a safe option. I can't speak to whether the resident had dementia or mental illness or not, but his actions certainly speak for themselves. I'm not saying it's appropriate, just that it happens and redirecting the patient isn't always effective.
Feb 6, '11Ya know... should the word "masturbate" be Googled I am sure Allnurses links would now be returned
Feb 6, '11I work in long term care. We had a guy who was basically nonverbal. He would masturbate where ever he happened to be sitting. One day I said to him, "You have 2 choices. You can stop or you can go to your room." He said as clearly as ever "I'll go to my room."
Three days later I was helping the CNAs at lunch. His wife was sitting at the table with him. She was one of those extremely proper women, dressed to the nines, hair perfect...so there we were at the table...his hands were in his lap....and he started to masturbate. The whole table started to shake. His wife looked around and exclaimed, "Oh, dear. I think we're having an earthquake."
I had to get up and leave the room I was laughing so hard.
This guy was quite demented. If he had been alert and oriented I would have told him to stop. Sexual urges aside, it is never okay for an alert, rational person to masturbate in front of a care giver.
Feb 7, '11I have had several older men ask me if I wanted to see how their penile implants worked.
Uh, no, thanks..... LMAO
Feb 7, '11I have had pretty good luck with people not being inappropriate around me, it would seem.
Once when I worked in a community health center, I was working a pt up for his physical. Nurse's job is taking the health history, which also includes a sexual health history. Most of the time people, even if it was a male pt/female nurse situation, handled it for what it was - just a part of the whole - without it ever getting weird. One of the questions on the form was how many lifetime sexual partners the pt had had. I asked one fellow that question and he looked at me with his 'bedroom eyes' and asked me, "Do fantasies count?" Ewww, ewww, ewww. His SO was also a patient of ours. I resisted the urge to tell her how much her partner creeped me out.
Now that I work OB, that kind of thing has gone down by a good bit. There is the occasional husband/boyfriend that will blurt out how glad he is his partner had a c/section because she'll still be 'nice and tight' for him. Gag me.Last edit by Elvish on Feb 7, '11
Feb 8, '11I urge you to expect this type of behavior from time to time and to deal with in a direct, professional manner. When I have had patients or visitors say inappropriate things to me, I clearly tell them that their behavior or conversation is inappropriate and that I am requesting that they refrain from saying or doing what ever they are saying or doing. If they persist, then you should go up the chain of command. If they are physical with you, you should seek assistance quickly. Threats should be taken very seriously.
Feb 8, '11Quote from CinquefoilYeah I had a resident who would purposely pee his pants and then smile a creepy smile and say, "Now you HAVE to touch it." He was very much aware and with it and continent. I used to toss a towel and some washcloths at him with a basin and say, "Have fun!" He used to talk about my chest too, ewwww.I work in LTC
1) Resident used to crap himself EXPRESSLY so that we could wipe him off, then lay there as we did with a big goofy grin and a you-know-what. He miraculously regained the ability to toilet himself when he got banned from having female caregivers.
Feb 8, '11Quote from DizzyLizzyNurseEeeewww is rightYeah I had a resident who would purposely pee his pants and then smile a creepy smile and say, "Now you HAVE to touch it." He was very much aware and with it and continent. I used to toss a towel and some washcloths at him with a basin and say, "Have fun!" He used to talk about my chest too, ewwww.
I love it. It's like they're holding their skin integrity hostage to their penises.
I *do* care about their skin integrity, but amen to not standing up for shenanegins!
I am one of the few staff who has not been groped by our resident groper, partially due to luck, partially due to the fact that I can turn on a very authoritative voice on demand. "Resident X, you NEED to let go of my hand, NOW." "Resident X, that is INAPPROPRIATE!" LOL
My husband is now saying I use the same voice with him sometimes, "but not quite as bad"
Feb 8, '11I'm not a nurse yet but I work at a pain clinic and had a patient say to another patient "well isn't she a pretty kitty" when I walked past. He was incredibly inappropriate the entire time he was there. He said being married, for women, is like eating the same hot dog every night. Sicko.
Feb 8, '11Correct me if I'm wrong -- but the theme of this thread is " innappropriate/weird encounters with patients?' i understand "patients" to be of both genders. But this
entire thread is about men. Should we assume that there are just no inappropriate
or weird encounters with female patients? Or, is it fair to assume that this may be
a gender thing. If you've read some of my past posts on gender issues, one point
I make is that there's a danger of any profession becoming dominated by one
gender. It's common to talk about the "old boys club." Well, my perception is that
this thread shows the "old girls club" at work.
Feb 8, '11At the risk of getting flamed...
perhaps no one has written about disgusting/inappropriate things women patients have done is because women aren't as icky as men. I have male colleagues who have told me that a few of the really demented female patients have called them cute or studley...but they tend to keep their hands to themselves.
Feb 8, '11I would see no reason to flame you. I think we can discuss this
civilly. I'm not suggesting that some men don't do the kinds of things
described. Some men. But I also believe that a significant number
of men may not feel comfortable being treated by a female
nurse in intimate situations, won't speak up and ask for a male
nurse, and may act out in order to maintain some control over
their situation. I'm not defending what they may do -- but rather
just suggesting what may be happening.
I am also suggesting we're getting a
predominant female perspective here. If some female nurse
consider some basic male sexual needs as ikky, (I'm not talking
about groping here or rude remarks) -- perhaps they shouldn't
be working with men in these situations and contexts. Why is it
essential for two female nurses to help shower a male? Perhaps
the male would feel more comfortable with a male nurse helping
him shower. I am also suggesting that when a thread like this
turns completely to ikky male behavior, the appearance is that
of stigmatizing men in general. I'm also suggesting that, on this
blog, you'll never find a group of male nurses complaining about
ikky female behavior -- not because it doesn't exist -- but because
it's not politically correct and could get them into trouble, not
necessarily professionally, but certainly socially and interfer
with their work life. Gender is not the be all and end all of
life, but it can matter and can make a difference.