I refuse to be a punching bag - NO MORE ASSAULTRegister Today!
- by abbaking Apr 17, '11I am writing this post because I am trying to empower all nurses regardless of title to stand up to this mentality that we have to take abuse.
Where did this myth come from? Why is it that we are seen as punching bags and sounding boards for the crazy and insane?
After taking my fair share of abuse and assault over the years, I have taken a stand - ENOUGH IS ENOUGH NO MORE!!!
Like many nurses, I used to think that being slapped, punched, bit, scratched, hair pulled, poked, spit on, yelled at, cursed out and assaulted in general was just part of our job. Nursing school teaches (indirectly) to be submissive and subservient to your higher ranking employee's and the institution you may work for. The overall nursing workplace politics are such that the bedside nurse is the target/victim of all things under the sun and as nurses we are supposed to take it - "If you have integrity you will thing of this as a learning experience".
I have news for everyone - NO MORE!
The fact that nurse assault/abuse posts are so little discussed is a major issue to me. We all need to step up and face this issue.
And face it with realism and honesty - No more justifications for the patient or there friends. So what if they are under stress! Does being under stress justify assaulting the person who is trying to help the situation? Don't bite the hand that feeds you. Just because the patient has a terminal diagnosis does not justify them from hitting the nurse.
We as a profession need to challenge this myth that we are expected to take assault.
I for one refuse to allow any patient to lay a finger on me without appropriate consequences. Sometimes its the show of force from security (our security are ex-cops with Tasers, billyclubs, and mace - you do NOT want to mess with them).
I am begging for open discussion on this issue - Stand up and empower yourselves and your profession. Assault is assault - If a patient is confused and assaulted you and you have a broken nose, does that lessen the pain or the implications from being victimized? -NO!!!
Lets all discuss this and realize that we are not to be taking this on the job. We all have had horror stories. We all need to stop making excuses / justifications.Last edit by brian on Apr 18, '11 : Reason: formatting
- Apr 17, '11 by AiridisI find when being yelled at hit,bitten or slapped by someone mentally compenent telling them I do not appreciate their behaviour and it is inappropriote is sometimes a lightbulb effect.
- Apr 17, '11 by gentlegiverIt is a federal crime to assault a Police Officer, Fireman, EMT or Doctor. And still if you are assaulted at work by a patient or their family/friends, the first thing asked is "What did you do to provoke it?" "How could you have prevented the situation from spiraling out of control?" And God help you if you have the patient/family/friend arrested! You are the one punished by being written up or fired it looks bad in the news to have that a Nurse was assaulted & had an arrest made. After all those people wont want to come back here and spend thier money (or ours for that matter). We need to make it a law that Assaulting a NURSE is just as serious as any of the above professions. How about we all flood our Congressmen with requests for such a law.
- Apr 17, '11 by leslie :-DQuote from gentlegiverwhile i agree that we should absolutely reject any type of assault on us...We need to make it a law that Assaulting a NURSE is just as serious as any of the above professions. How about we all flood our Congressmen with requests for such a law.
i struggle with some professions/people being cited as more important than everyone else.
i believe we are all equal, and the law should be applied accordingly.
we've always had the chance to press charges.
i think the more applicable concept here, is to un-brainwash nurses into believing that we did NOT do anything to deserve it.
once that is accomplished, it's much easier to take action.
- Apr 17, '11 by deyo321Another reason I love my job. An inmate tries to take a swing at me he will be kissing linoleum. And he will definately be picking up charges. I am so much safer here than even in the nursing home where over the years I have been scratched, pinched, spit at, and slapped.
- Apr 17, '11 by deyo321I think leslie that I disagree. Never thought that would happen. My rationale is because we are pretty much compelled to offer help. You can't just walk away from a bleeding person because they are combative, or tell that little old Grandma to take a hike when she scratches you, you still need to provide care. That in my mind raises the level of a medical professional to someone who should be better protected by the law. I don't even like saying that because I also like to believe that everyone is equal. Ahhh the dichotomies of me.
That being said it wont prevent it from happening, but maybe it would make more people aware of the issue.
- Apr 17, '11 by Missjewel22What can we Nurses do about the disrespectful way we are treated by some physicians, administration, patients and family members?
For example, a patient of mine in labor and delivery didn't want to go home, but she wasn't in labor and the physician wrote the order to send her home. The nurse following me explained to the patient that she wasn't in labor. The patient then proceeded to call the nurse a "*****" and a "f..... *****". She then turned the whole story around and wrote letters to our nurse manager who totally kissed up to the patient, apologized profusely and gave her cell number to the patient, in case she had any further problems.
I know the nurse that was verbally abused and she is a young, very kind nurse. She in no way deserved or illicited this.
I am so tired of the lack of respect that we get. I wonder what would of happened if she said that to a doctor?
- Apr 17, '11 by TheMoonisMyLanternQuote from Missjewel22What can we Nurses do about the disrespectful way we are treated by some physicians, administration, patients and family members?
One thing I do with difficult patients, is to contact my manager/supervisor before they get a chance to so that they hear my side of the story first. I also document EVERYTHING the patients says so that when/if the notes are pulled they can read what transpired.
I think nurses everywhere need to stand up together and say to their employers, "We have the right to a harrassment free enviroment, and instead of treating us like battered wives treat us like the professionals that we are!"
And since our employers are always inservicing us about WHO our customers are: patients, EMPLOYEES, physicians, visitors, and vendors, WE should be allowed to do a customer satisfaction survey as well in which our managers and upper administration's payscale would be affected by what their employers fill out on the survey. I bet things would change then.
- Apr 17, '11 by 86toronadoWe have signs all over our ED that say it is illegal in NY to assault a nurse. I had a patient ask me yesterday why they were there. He had no idea that nurses often get punched, kicked, scratched, etc in the course of their everyday job. Educating the public would apparently be a good step to help make it a national law.
- Apr 17, '11 by AltraQuote from AiridisSomeone hits you or bites you and your response is that you "do not appreciate their behavior"?I find when being yelled at hit,bitten or slapped by someone mentally compenent telling them I do not appreciate their behaviour and it is inappropriote is sometimes a lightbulb effect.
Quote from gentlegiverNo, that's not correct. Every state has statutes which make it a specific crime to assault a police officer. Most states similarly protect fire fighters and EMS workers. Twenty states, most recently Virginia, have enacted legislation which specifically cover emergency department staff including physicians and nurses. That means 30 states are not yet on board with this concept ... for nurses or for physicians.It is a federal crime to assault a Police Officer, Fireman, EMT or Doctor.
I'm sure there are federal codes which apply to the assualt of federal law enforcement officers such as Border Patrol, Federal Marshals, Customs agents, etc.