How to deal with the old/experienced nurses?!

  1. 1 Hello!

    I m a new RN on A med-surge floor and most of my co-workers are old nurses that have been on that floor for years! They don't seem to like me and i have NO idea why! I am a quiet person. I mean i like to socialize but I am not that loud person ( because I still feel a stranger to the floor). Anyways some of them ignore me if I ask a question, others yell at me for the smallest mistakes ( one yelled at me cause I didn't change the NS bag that was good for another 3hours and even tho I put a new bag in the room, she wanted it change) i am nice to them! I try to talk and use humour but most of them just give me the look and roll their eye!
    How should I treat them or deal with them?
  2. Visit  Anna-s profile page

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    Joined Jan '12; Posts: 23; Likes: 18.

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  3. Visit  mofomeat profile page
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    You could just become an old/experienced nurse like they are.


    Then you'd have the same perspective and you'd see it from their end
    GrnTea, VivaLasViejas, joanna73, and 3 others like this.
  4. Visit  Anna-s profile page
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    Quote from mofomeat
    You could just become an old/experienced nurse like they are.

    Then you'd have the same perspective and you'd see it from their end
    They d always be more experienced than I am helpful answer! Tnx
    AutumnLeavesRN, CloudySue, Kandy83, and 1 other like this.
  5. Visit  metal_m0nk profile page
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    Predicting the arrival of Ruby Vee in T minus 10....9.....8....7.....6.....5.....4......3.....2. .....
    emmylue72, Not_A_Hat_Person, KelRN215, and 22 others like this.
  6. Visit  RNewbie profile page
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    Kill them with kindness and try not to take it personal. No excuse but I work with older nurses everyday that are just burnt out. Sometimes nothing you do will be good enough.
  7. Visit  DeBerham profile page
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    Unfortunately some of the old guard (those who believe that eating your young and the only worthwhile lessons are taught through pain) are having a hard time leaving the field. What I'll say is remember this and don't make the same mistakes when you are in their position, and you will be one day. For the time being suck it up, you will get through it and learn what you can. RNewbie is right, kill them with kindness... and keep yourself sane. Don't let them get you down.
  8. Visit  chrisrn24 profile page
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    I think that some people are just not chatty and friendly at work. Some of my coworkers are that way. Find the ones that are friendly and use them to get connected to the unfriendly ones.
    carolLeeAnn and anotherone like this.
  9. Visit  RNperdiem profile page
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    It is easier said than done, but give up wanting to be "liked" and work on the more doable polite, professional relationships.
    Always be polite and helpful while maintaining assertiveness and self-respect. Over time, if your coworkers are human, you get along better.
    friendlyjane, carolLeeAnn, GrnTea, and 5 others like this.
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  11. Visit  MaleRN4 profile page
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    Just be yourself and do not let them get to you! I work in a PACU and there is only 10 of us that work in there. I am a 32 y/o male and the rest of them are females over 49. They are all burnt out and CRAZY!!! They complain and argue everyday. I'll tell you what I do. I ruffle feathers...I tease and get them all worked up lol. Then I sit back and laugh! I am not going to be miserable just because they are all miserable. I take the negative and use it to my advantage. Works for me anyhow.
    carolLeeAnn, fasnv, student forever, and 9 others like this.
  12. Visit  rita359 profile page
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    You are the newest member of this staff and are young. I don't know how old other members of the staff are but it seems you have come into a unit that has its own culture. If you give it time you will figure out most of that culture. There will be things you agree with and things you do not agree with. You may be able to find one or more older nurses you can safely ask questions of. Use these people. If it is things that are done the way they used to be done but aren't evidence based etc. you can figure out how to address these things without making these nurses feel put down but educated. This is part of learning to work with other people which you will be doing throughout your professional life.
    ER-RN12, carolLeeAnn, anotherone, and 3 others like this.
  13. Visit  subee profile page
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    Tothe OP- it's med-surg. There is no "e" in surgical. I'm 65 and still working. Correcting poor grammer and spelling is about as grouchy as I get. I was so lucky, as a new grad, to go to a floor where all of the nurses who worked there chose to work on a teaching floor and went out of their way to help us orientees learn the ropes. I don't know why so many nurses are so ignorant and ill-tempered. Yeah, I wish my 401K didn't crash but that has nothing to do with you. I wish all hospitals had "orientation floors" where you could feel a part of the team from the getgo before being discharged to work on your ultimate unit. Just remember how you felt when it's your turn to usher in a new grad into the profession.
  14. Visit  porkey2 profile page
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    Quote from Anna-s
    Hello!

    I m a new RN on A med-surge floor and most of my co-workers are old nurses that have been on that floor for years! They don't seem to like me and i have NO idea why! I am a quiet person. I mean i like to socialize but I am not that loud person ( because I still feel a stranger to the floor). Anyways some of them ignore me if I ask a question, others yell at me for the smallest mistakes ( one yelled at me cause I didn't change the NS bag that was good for another 3hours and even tho I put a new bag in the room, she wanted it change) i am nice to them! I try to talk and use humour but most of them just give me the look and roll their eye!
    How should I treat them or deal with them?
    Im an older person but a brand new nurse and Im sorry but maybe its just me, but I don't see why anyone should have to put up with this crap. You are grown just like they are, you a professional just like they are; if they are burnt out or tired of nursing, then they need to move on and stop making eveyone else life around them miserable! Im not sure if maybe they feel threatened or whatever the case maybe they need to remain professional at work, this isn't some social gathering. I use to work for a large company before I went back to school for nursing and that was the most miserable/bitter group of women I had ever come in contact with; but I went in did my job, killed them with kindness and went home. Now I realize that nursing is a team effort, not sure why they are ignoring your questions or yelling but if you can't get answers from them, can you perhaps ask your nm, this is ridiculous and petty.
    My nm has a sign on her door that says "save the drama for your mama". The job is hard enough without coworkers making it that much harder. What type of person is your nm, maybe she can weigh in on this. Not that you should rat your coworkers out, but you are there for the good of your patient and if the pettiness is interferring with that, then it should be brought up to the nm; also if you can find other coworkers to talk to like someone else mentioned, I would ignore them. Good luck and keep us posted. Of course, once you get experienced, you can always find another unit to work on.
    carolLeeAnn and msancheeze like this.

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