I have a charge nurse that is not out and out mean to me. Instead, her meanness is subtle. In my face, she smiles. But then she is constantly doing things that later I realize were done to be mean like giving another employee a slew of gifts on her birthday. That went right over my head until I realized this employee that received the gifts was being mean to me all of the sudden and I hadn't gotten even a card for my birthday. We have a bulletin board where we can put up nice comments about people. She has put comments up about the people who suck up to her but I noticed there isn't anything about me. Hmmm. Another subtle attack? She is amazing at being able to put me down every single time I work and make me feel inadequate in very subtle ways. I could go on and on here. I mean these things by themselves mean nothing but when you put them together, they are downright demeaning and disrespectful. To go the management seems stupid because how can I pinpoint the problem? She would say it was all innocent. I know others have seen in though. Has anyone out there found a way to deal with this that works?
Aug 4, '12
by nursel56 Guide
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She tried to actually get me fired by writing me up, which totally backfired because it was proven that what she said wasn't true. It's a long story but let me put it in a nutshell. We have a nurse who yells at people for no reason. When I first started working there, the first night I met her, she yelled at me. So I said something but asked that it be handled in a way that would end amicably. In whatever way it was dealt with because of this yelling nurse's past history, it did not go well for her and my head nurse was offended by that.
If you went over charge nurse's head and complained to her bosses after working just one shift with yelling nurse, who suffered negative consequences as a result of that you can reasonably expect charge nurse to be ****** off about that for a variety of reasons. You made her look bad to management. She may be friends with yelling nurse outside of work, so in her mind she may believe you screwed both of them over. She can't fire or suspend you now because it will be seen as retribution. Even if you asked that it be dealt with amicably, managers will just go right ahead and do things their way.
Realistically, unless something is done to clear the air, she will attempt to sabotage you, keep you in a deep freeze environment until you either quit or one of their false accusations sticks. Having emotional maturity isn't always the case with those in leadership positions.
You could write a glowing message about her and stick it on that bulletin board. At least it will mess with her head and throw her off her game for a while.
Wish I had the advice that would make it all get better - I had a job somewhat like that - in was almost a year of living hell before I finally bailed. If I have the sequence of events wrong please excuse.
Last edit by nursel56 on Aug 4, '12
Aug 4, '12
I had to re-do this comment after checking the history of your posts! It reads like an episode of Dynasty.
Wow, nothing is ever your fault, everyone is always out to get you, all those writeups are bogus, everyone is just so mean.
Flame away folks, but I would avoid you too.
Last edit by eleectrosaurus on Aug 4, '12
: Reason: yikes