Eh, people are so catty and passive aggressive. I lose respect for people who gossip. It shows lack of a back bone and fortitude.
Ever notice the ones who gossip the most are the ones who are:
In bad relations but dont have the assertiveness to get out of it.
Have kids who are completely out of control at home and make their lives miserable.
Get pushed around by management/administration more than the avg. employee cause, well, they are the ones who never have anything to say back.
Are in debt to the point of drowning despite doing OT every single week.
Never have their work done but for some reason think pointing out everything that was not done when they came on makes up for it.
More often than not are gossiping about someone for doing something they themselves are guilty of.
What would I do. Find out who said it and approach them. Just say "I was wondering why you had so much to say about me to the ICU nurse the other day. Have anything to say now that we are face to face? I'm giving you an opportunity to get whatever it is thats getting your panties all in a bunch off your chest." They will clam up, maybe try to save face, but for sure wont have anything left to say to you anymore. The threat of being approached by an assertive personality is their greatest fear.
I had this problem at my first job. There were a few midnight nurses who spent the whole night sitting at the nurses station discussion everything and anything that was wrong with the other shifts. I'm not kidding here, they did it for a minimum of 2 hours EVERY SINGLE night. Yet the majority of them couldnt get their AM nurse draw labs off in time and averaged a good half hour OT staying late because they didnt get their late shift meds passed either. OMG, but dont go outside for a cigarette and let one of them see you. You'd be the topic of the night for sure..........how can you care for anyone when you are off the floor a whole seven minutes twice a night?
One of them started targeting me because the manager refused to give her OT (and yes, I was the one helping with nights making it so they didnt have to give it to her). Lord knows what kinds of things she made up about me during their nightly two hour seminars. I approached her just the way I described above and, I doubt she stopped, but she was very carefull that nothing got back to me and she was less brave about making things up after that point.
Assertiveness. Thats what people who gossip lack and thats what they fear most.
Pfffft. Nursing field flooded with these types and we wonder why nursing gets not respect.