Quote from squatmunkie_RN
I work in an environment where everyone smiles to your face while they are stabbing you in the back. With nurses who will lie and exaggerate the truth telling the NM on you in emails and phone calls, then smile and joke to your face. How can you work like this? When you're constantly looking over your shoulder worried about what mistake will go in your permanent file? If I find something wrong, something missed by the previous nurse I fix the problem and move on. (the shift is WAY too busy to stop and write emails on what the previous nurse missed by accident) But, now that writing emails and vindictiveness is what the NM wants from his staff, I guess I will give him that.
I learned something last week. Trust NO. ONE. EVER.
Please give me your thoughts!
All I can say is, unfortunately, there are many negative environments like this. Personally, I'm tired of trying to theorize about why they occur. The simplest sense of things to me is that people can be insecure, and/or they dump their junk on to others, and/or they want to get ahead my making others look inferior. They play all kinds of games--like looking like hero-mentors to some, while totally screwing someone else on the down-low. People are complicated.
I pretty much look to the leadership--if they are discerning and have integrity that extends beyond what they do for their own advancement, and if they truly care about the good of the whole--and if they set that tone--also, if they call all staff to accountability, regardless of likeability, influence, or other subjective factors, then there is a good chance the ill behaviors can be stopped. True integrity in leadership IMHO is the key. If you don't see it on the floor or unit in the leadership, you will see all kinds of toxic, subversive, and backstabbing nonsense occur within the staff. They may cover it up well. It gets selective attention or just gets ignored by leadership. That's a bad situation and environment in which to work.
It's like a bunch of kids in a high school class. If teacher lets them get away with the nonsense--if he or she is not discerning or looks the other way, or is selective in terms of fairness and integrity, you will have an unhealthy toxic environment. The leadership sets the tone. One of the most important things to assess in a new job-roll is the integrity of the leadership
. Very few leaders are naive unless they want to be--although there are a few that may mean well but somehow seem clueless about the behavioral dynamics amongst certain staff members. More times than not, however, they are looking to get through their current role so to make some career advancement or change that they want for themselves. So they will turn the other way, especially with certain strong and influential problem children within the group. And those staff can go to directors and try to get some satisfaction for the NMs that overlook junk and are without have some true leadership integrity, but then you have to look at the directors and upper administration in general--to see where the wind blows with them. They may equally be focused on their career roles and advancement and are willing to sacrifice true integrity.
I'm telling you, if the leadership clearly doesn't care that much, or is in some way is capricious with its use of justice, fairness, and integrity, the nonsense will go on. So, unless you are one of the players or favs, you will be miserable. People talk about reporting systems, but often that's a joke. It's as good as the overall leadership within the organization, period.
I just don't have the time in life, or the inclination anymore, to deal with administrations or "reporting systems" that essentially don't care and ignore things--or that make mountains out of molehills for some strained or idiotic issue, but disregard the behavioral elephants in the room. If I see such things in the leadership, I have to make plans to move on.
Does that approach help the environment to change? Perhaps not; but if the culture is set and it is allowed to persist as such by leadership, there really isn't a lot you can do about it. That's the very sad reality. Unfortunately things within and for the leadership will have to come to ahead, and that can take years.