Do you love your boss?(no, not in "that" way)

  1. I don't mean in that way. I mean in a caring way, like brotherly or sisterly love. I know there are a lot of bosses who can be tyrants, but my boss did something today that kind of makes me misty-eyed. I guess this could be called a rant. I'm still a little upset that I have been back stabbed by other employees I thought I got along well with.
    Turns out a little office "clique" has formed between a few employees, and when that happens, trouble is easy to come by. They succeeded in running off one employee (she was devastated, left in tears), and I guess now the little club has started in on me (what they don't know is I won't be run off as easy as the other one was).
    Anyway...
    We had a nurse who was teetering on the edge of being canned, anyway, but she was part of this little clique. She was mouthing off things about me today (things to make me look like such a loser while she was so virtuous, and apparently the little clique had banned together against me, like a bunch of chickens who gang up and peck another chicken to death) and the boss told her to get out and not come back. I knew things had been going pretty bad with her for awhile, she did not take direction well, she was very loud and constantly complaining about any work she was expected to do, a lot of times flat out refusing to do her patients and delegating the task to me because she always assumed I never had much to do (and I'm pretty sure she didn't care, either) Yes, she was loud and abrasive but in spite of all this I thought I liked her, thought I liked the other employees, and thought I was liked as well (I'm a little thick, I admit). I guess this little attack on me was the straw that broke the camel's back, though, but I feel humbled that the boss thought enough of me not to tolerate the slander.
    I've never been very popular, really quiet and shy, but very friendly. I mean embarrassingly friendly, almost to the point of being a butt kisser. I just want people to be happy and I go out of my way to be easy to get along with. This is why it really hurts my feelings. I've done nothing to these ninnies. I can't believe how childish and sheep-like some women (and yes, I say women)can be. It's like the little schoolyard cliques where a group of girls would get together in their "club" and ridicule anyone who didn't fit their image. I'm really disgusted. No, I'm not at work to win friends and influence people but I would have liked to get along with my coworkers and be on good terms with them. Not anymore, I'll never speak anything but the neccessities to them again. And there was one of them I though I had a really good rapport with, we are two of the "old timers" because this job has a pretty high turnover rate but we've lasted longer than any of the others (with the exception of the boss lady)...what a fool I am.

    I would feel comforted to know I'm not the only person who has been a victim of office gossip and bullying. I'm feeling a bit angry right now. I thought about saying something sarcastic about it today to call their bluff but I thought I had better wait for a better opportunity.
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  3. by   TheCommuter
    Quote from motorcycle mama
    I would feel comforted to know I'm not the only person who has been a victim of office gossip and bullying.
    As long as workplace cliques exist, certain employees will always become targets for gossip and bullying. If you are not a member of the workplace clique, you have exponentially increased your chances of becoming a target. If you lack certain 'desirable' personality traits, you increase your chances of becoming their target.

    I am glad I work full-time weekends only, because I can totally bypass having to mingle with the Monday through Friday clique. I am also introverted, which is a personality trait that does not rub well with extroverted workplace cliques. I have been a target of clique gossip previously, but I try to choose my battles wisely.
  4. by   bethin
    Quote from TheCommuter

    I am glad I work full-time weekends only, because I can totally bypass having to mingle with the Monday through Friday clique. I am also introverted, which is a personality trait that does not rub well with extroverted workplace cliques. I have been a target of clique gossip previously, but I try to choose my battles wisely.

    :yeahthat: I love working weekends only. During the week I worked with an aide who wouldn't get off her butt if there was a code going on but yet she still has a job. A fellow aide started a rumor about me that I was admitted to the hospital in July because I needed time off from work. Yeah, I get admitted to the SAME floor as I work on to take a vacation two weeks before I actually leave the country on vacation. Nipped that one.

    When I was first hired I of course, wanted everyone to like me. Don't care so much anymore. This is what I do: I do my job, I get along with most nurses, a few gripe that I can't start the IV's, but that's ok. I know when I go home that I took great care of the patients because afterall, that's why I go to work. It's pt satisfaction, not co worker satisfaction. Mind your own business and do your work. If they want to snicker like 12 year old girls, let them. Take the higher road. It's hard but don't be drawn into them. They have this super energy gravity force that will suck you in and before you know it - you're one of THEM.
  5. by   SaderNurse05
    Quote from motorcycle mama
    I don't mean in that way. I mean in a caring way, like brotherly or sisterly love. I know there are a lot of bosses who can be tyrants, but my boss did something today that kind of makes me misty-eyed. I guess this could be called a rant. I'm still a little upset that I have been back stabbed by other employees I thought I got along well with.
    Turns out a little office "clique" has formed between a few employees, and when that happens, trouble is easy to come by. They succeeded in running off one employee (she was devastated, left in tears), and I guess now the little club has started in on me (what they don't know is I won't be run off as easy as the other one was).
    Anyway...
    We had a nurse who was teetering on the edge of being canned, anyway, but she was part of this little clique. She was mouthing off things about me today (things to make me look like such a loser while she was so virtuous, and apparently the little clique had banned together against me, like a bunch of chickens who gang up and peck another chicken to death) and the boss told her to get out and not come back. I knew things had been going pretty bad with her for awhile, she did not take direction well, she was very loud and constantly complaining about any work she was expected to do, a lot of times flat out refusing to do her patients and delegating the task to me because she always assumed I never had much to do (and I'm pretty sure she didn't care, either) Yes, she was loud and abrasive but in spite of all this I thought I liked her, thought I liked the other employees, and thought I was liked as well (I'm a little thick, I admit). I guess this little attack on me was the straw that broke the camel's back, though, but I feel humbled that the boss thought enough of me not to tolerate the slander.
    I've never been very popular, really quiet and shy, but very friendly. I mean embarrassingly friendly, almost to the point of being a butt kisser. I just want people to be happy and I go out of my way to be easy to get along with. This is why it really hurts my feelings. I've done nothing to these ninnies. I can't believe how childish and sheep-like some women (and yes, I say women)can be. It's like the little schoolyard cliques where a group of girls would get together in their "club" and ridicule anyone who didn't fit their image. I'm really disgusted. No, I'm not at work to win friends and influence people but I would have liked to get along with my coworkers and be on good terms with them. Not anymore, I'll never speak anything but the neccessities to them again. And there was one of them I though I had a really good rapport with, we are two of the "old timers" because this job has a pretty high turnover rate but we've lasted longer than any of the others (with the exception of the boss lady)...what a fool I am.

    I would feel comforted to know I'm not the only person who has been a victim of office gossip and bullying. I'm feeling a bit angry right now. I thought about saying something sarcastic about it today to call their bluff but I thought I had better wait for a better opportunity.
    Excellent post. I am sure a lot of us have been in your shoes. It is a fine line between friendly and butt kisser. I will say that the older I get the more I realize that this kind of behavior is more often the norm than not. Very few places have people that can all function as a team and not slide into unprofessional behavior. I try to stay out of developing cliques and for the most part people respect me for that. I am glad your boss stuck up for you. I have been the one who was run off before because I thought it was also part of my job to make sure every body liked me. If at all possible continue to take the high road and do not drop to their level with sarcasm. Just remember you are a part of us here and feel free to come and be as sarcastic as you wanna be

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