Dating Patients - page 3

Anyone here ever date/go out/marry a patient. I personally have never done it, but have seen it happen....i recall one time a male nurse dated a patients daughter...We got her on our floor one day... Read More

  1. by   nursemary9
    I never have, but I worked with a CNA years ago, who married one of her patients. They were both elderly at the time--It could have been better, I guess, but it wasn't too bad for her.

    Mary Ann
  2. by   nursemary9
    CurlySue.

    That's so cute!!
  3. by   palesarah
    Quote from kmrmom42
    Since all of my patients are either pregnant women or newborns I guess I will never have this issue!!! LOL (Since I am now divorced maybe I should change my specialty to find myself a new guy??!! Just kidding)
    :chuckle
    icky and way unethical but, sadly, true- a nurse who works on my unit PRN ended up dating the boyfriend of one of her labor patients. I did not know her at the time but she's quite open about it. She has a history of crossing personal/professional boundaries and befriended the patient, which led to a friendship outside the hospital which opened the door to the relationship with the FOB. Ick, yuck, bad.

    I also work with a nurse who married a former patient of hers many years ago, before she worked OB. She's a very proper, quiet, older woman; it's practically scandalous for her They're a very sweet couple
  4. by   Thunderwolf
    This whole topic deals with what is called "dual relationships". Many BON have in place strong language against it. For one thing, it is unethical. It has to deal with the real potential for and the actual abuse of power...in this case, the nurse taking advantage of a patient, regardless how the two come together. The patient is seen, in a nurse-patient relationship, as being in a weaker power role or in a weakened frame of mind. Some states sanction licenses for it. Usually when the BON is aware of it, it is because a dual relationship existed and went terribly wrong with the patient contacting the BON afterward. So, dating really is and should be a no-no. You may need to look up your BON's rules and guidelines in your own state.
  5. by   mattsmom81
    Dating a patient would be unprofessional behavior at its worst IMHO and one would risk their job and their license. I'm sure it happens (hopefully loooong AFTER the nurse patient relationship ends) but people wisely keep mum.

    I worked with a nurse once who had an open fetish for black men...she hit on every one who came into our unit, doc, staff AND patients. I found it disgusting to be in that kind of unprofessional environment and didn't stay long. I complained to my manager numerous times, but only after a married patient complained was anything ever done about it.
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    how would nurses dating patients be any better than psychologists/therapist dating their clients? I don't think it's right. I still say, ewwww.
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from 3rdShiftGuy
    True but the idea of dating him isn't gross is it?
    Actually it is. I don't flip for him. He doesn't do anything for me.
  8. by   live4today
    I've never dated a patient, but I've had patients that I've felt an attraction to...........just kept it alllllllllllllllll to myself. Patients are human beings and human beings are attracted to each other, so regardless of where you see a good looking person, the attraction is the same AS LONG AS your feelings are kept in check......remain mature and professional....don't pursue those feelings!!!
  9. by   bobnurse
    Interesting..........
  10. by   z's playa
    Quote from cheerfuldoer
    I've never dated a patient, but I've had patients that I've felt an attraction to...........just kept it alllllllllllllllll to myself. Patients are human beings and human beings are attracted to each other, so regardless of where you see a good looking person, the attraction is the same AS LONG AS your feelings are kept in check......remain mature and professional....don't pursue those feelings!!!

    This pt must have ben HOT! :chuckle

    I can't imagine yet how I could be attracted to a pt attatched to i.v's, foleys, and looking...well....not their best.

    Of course you may work in an outpatient facility..I don't know.

    Y'a never know who you'll meet.
  11. by   traumaRUs
    Yuck - I work in the ER and can't imagine dating my barfing, drunk, high or just completely stupid patients.
  12. by   live4today
    Quote from z's playa
    This pt must have ben HOT! :chuckle

    I can't imagine yet how I could be attracted to a pt attatched to i.v's, foleys, and looking...well....not their best.

    Of course you may work in an outpatient facility..I don't know.

    Y'a never know who you'll meet.
    He was HOT alright! Stopped me dead in my tracks when I entered his room to admit him. He was only in for hand surgery. Nothing wrong with him that I could tell. And...he was an inpatient on an ortho floor years ago. I've seen some lookers since that time who were only in for minor issues, but still would not date them. Now...IF I had met one of those lookers again months later, and THEY ASKED ME for a date, I might have taken them up on it.
    Last edit by live4today on Jan 7, '05
  13. by   z's playa
    Quote from cheerfuldoer
    He was HOT alright! Stopped me dead in my tracks when I entered his room to admit him. He was only in for hand surgery. Nothing wrong with him that I could tell. And...he was an inpatient on an ortho floor years ago. I've seen some lookers since that time who were only in for minor issues, but still would not date them. Now...IF I had met one of those lookers again months later, and THEY ASKED ME for a date, I might have taken them up on it.
    On a more serious note..what is the time limit a nurse has to wait until they can date a pt? I know it sounds like a wierd question..I'm not in it for the dates..I swear...here we were told one year but that seems a bit extreme.

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