co worker sharing her concerns

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i work 12 hour shifts in an acut care setting. At 11 pm, i was told i would be precepting, and got a new pt load. the preceptee is an experienced nurse. one of the patients had been admitted for bleeding, and had gotten 6 units prbc, 2 units ffp, and platelets during the day. last labs were at 4 pm, and none ordered until 6 am. i text paged the treatment team on call resident to ask if he wanted midnight rechecks.

he immed called back, and started yelling into the phone, what do you want hgb for, tell me, and on and on. i told him last checks were at 4....he con't to yell ,and what do you want them for', i said, why dont you think about it, and call me back...he hung up on me.

he shortly afterwards came to the unit, and half apologized, i said why do you hang up on me, he said, you were asking why i am asking you about why i needed a hgb, and to think about it and call you back. he said it was 'half my fault' but he apologized, and said he had previously just been yelled at. later he came back to the u it again, and sincerely apologized.

i worked cooperatively with my preceptee, working together, explaining as we went along, letting her do what she could, ect, trying to make her feel comfortable and supported.

in the later morning, i helped a relatively new coworker get some drips hung and deal with her pt desatting.

as i was leaving in the morning, the clinical specialist 'asst nurse mgr', pulled me aside and said in a very challenging tone, like talking to a child, a coworker had expressed 'concerns' about a md interaction at the desk in front of a preceptee that was awkward. did i not have a scuffle with an md, ect, and that that lacked professionalis in front of the preceptee.

***. i was like 'i treated the preceptee as nice as i possibly could. i called the md for a hgb on a bleeding pt, and he yeled at me, and hung up on me. he came to the unit 2x to apologize. you dont need tohave an accusatory tone when talking to me. i am the last person you need to speak to about conflict, i am nicer to people here than 95% of your staff, and that means everyone fro the janitor to the attending. if this person were uncomfortable, she could have come to me, or not let me help her for the last hour of work. i resent the tattletailing as unproductive ans malicious, but thank you forsharing this with me. i will let you know that at this stage in my life, i will not work with this pettiness, and request a meeting btwn you and the staf person and i, as now this makes me feel awkward....ect, i was very upset...

what do you think of the staff person 'sharing her concer', she is a relatively new grad....

Specializes in Peds, PICU, NICU, CICU, ICU, M/S, OHS....

I would just jot what happened down while you can remember it clearly, then let it go. BUT, don't forget it, especially if you know who the tattler was.

Goodness do I dislike a tattle tale. Our unit has a few but one in particular that is THE WORST TT I've EVER encountered!

I don't see the wisdom in holding a grudge. Let it go. If you go somewhere else, there will still be difficult days and assignments, coworkers under stress, testy residents, and difficult personalities. When you get that upset and talk about leaving, you are in a sense giving up your power. Why should you have to leave? No, continue to do a good job, work on your weaker points (and we all have them), and try not take things so hard. Stay professional at all times even when others are not, and choose your battles wisely.

Good luck.

Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

This is a 2 year old thread...... I would think Beeble has already handled it :)

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