angry co-worker - page 2

by Doey

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I have a situation at work that is very frustrating and turning my insides out. I work the night shift along with 3 other RNs on an 11 bed PCU. One of the day shift RNs is very angry because she feels that there is too much work... Read More


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    Thank you all for your replies. I know this is not an unusual problem but I guess I just had to vent. Management is dealing with this issue and they seem to realize that there is more to this than meets the eye. Oramar I think your post hit the nail on the head and I appreciated your input greatly. It did make me see things in a different light. You know how it is, when you're in the middle of something it's hard to be rational sometimes and to see something that is right under your nose. I realized that I felt my nursing care was being attacked and that is part of who I am. I now feel that the behavior that I and my co-workers have witnessed is a symptom of deeper issues. It's not just what is being said but how it's being said. (body language etc.) Thank you all for your input and support.
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    To Oramar- great input.
    To MJourney - HOW do you deal with these neurotic, obsessive-compulsive control freaks? Especially when she's the charge nurse, has worked there 20 years and mgmt. just looks the other way, stating, "Oh, she'll get over it". She is such an energy zapper... Truly, the nurses are intimidated by her outbursts. I do Charge on her days off. I've had it out with her a couple of times and she has tried to control herself but it's like working with a pressure cooker. Again, how do you deal with this?
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    Doey, I see exactly where you are coming from. It is so hard to deal with, but if you can enlist the help of management and other staff members, I am sure you can come to some type of problem resolution. Some people who work days just automatically assume nights does nothing but sit around. Keep your chin up, and keep doing your best.
    PS: I know the unit you work on is crazy, hope things are going well for you.


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    Doey, I see exactly where you are coming from. It is so hard to deal with, but if you can enlist the help of management and other staff members, I am sure you can come to some type of problem resolution. Some people who work days just automatically assume nights does nothing but sit around. Keep your chin up, and keep doing your best.
    PS: I know the unit you work on is crazy, hope things are going well for you. Please send me e-mail I think we have some things in common.. BlissRN22@aol.com

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    Originally posted by earle58:
    To Oramar- great input.
    To MJourney - HOW do you deal with these neurotic, obsessive-compulsive control freaks? Especially when she's the charge nurse, has worked there 20 years and mgmt. just looks the other way, stating, "Oh, she'll get over it". She is such an energy zapper... Truly, the nurses are intimidated by her outbursts. I do Charge on her days off. I've had it out with her a couple of times and she has tried to control herself but it's like working with a pressure cooker. Again, how do you deal with this?
    Hi earle58. Oramar gave an astute assessment of what may actually be the problem in Doey's case and your case. I would be interested in reading what he/she had to say as well as others on resolving or dealing with the problem.

    I do not feel that every nurse that focuses on qualities of detail has a personality disorder (some may call it a hero complex). Patient care is very subjective, and nurses have always been required to simultaneously focus on details and the big picture. This comes with the territory when you're talking about human life, and it takes a lot of practice and understanding to put care in balance and perspective. What's problematic is the attitude in which we approach one another over work priorities. I think much of this can be diffused by administration which overly relies on old methods of managing people and situations to keep things simple for them. Life is too complex now to rely solely on the old. Doey's post, in my opinion, indicated that most of the c/o of her co-worker, while important, could be considered minor by the nurse who focuses mainly on the big picture. No doubt, as oramar indicated, this person may be "in" with administration. That is another issue that may be a contributing factor in the dispute, but only Doey can admit that. Insecurity and/or strong work ethics drive many people toward perfection and those who work with or around them "up the wall." The question is how to get those who seem to go over the top with their behavior to admit they have a problem?


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