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"Nurses Eating Their Young" - page 12

In homage to an Allnurses member who wrote a wonderful article entitled "Nurses Are So Mean", I'd like to provide excerpts from my personal blog which I wrote not to long ago. I give enormous kudos... Read More

  1. Visit  Steffy44 profile page
    Thankfully no one ever treated me horrible when I started as an RN almost 2 years ago. Everyone at my hospital is kind and willing to help. Seems this isn't the norm. Some of the experienced nurses were intimidating at first but I went in with a "only know enough to be truly dangerous...let me suck your brain dry" attitude and they were more than willing to share. Maybe it helps I'm older and I'm not out to prove I'm better or smarter. I just want to be the best me.
  2. Visit  Ruby Vee profile page
    Quote from Steffy44
    Thankfully no one ever treated me horrible when I started as an RN almost 2 years ago. Everyone at my hospital is kind and willing to help. Seems this isn't the norm. Some of the experienced nurses were intimidating at first but I went in with a "only know enough to be truly dangerous...let me suck your brain dry" attitude and they were more than willing to share. Maybe it helps I'm older and I'm not out to prove I'm better or smarter. I just want to be the best me.
    Bullying or "eating their young" is not the norm. It's a myth perpetuated by those who would rather blame their problems at work on bullies or "young eaters" than take a good solid look at how they're contributing to their own problems.
  3. Visit  staceylee67 profile page
    Great article that gives an idea, helps us understand why some nurses are so mean. Any mean nurse that reads this may actually take a step back and reflect on his or her behavior and learn something.
  4. Visit  Saiderap profile page
    Quote from Ruby Vee
    Bullying or "eating their young" is not the norm. It's a myth perpetuated by those who would rather blame their problems at work on bullies or "young eaters" than take a good solid look at how they're contributing to their own problems.
    I think the real myth is more that no one ever takes a good look at how they're contributing to their own problems. Some of these people really don't know why they're being humiliated and that's why it's so frustrating.

    Most of my R.N. teachers helped to empower me and also explained where I went wrong out on the floor in a private conference. If they had not told me what I was doing wrong, I would never know and no amount of introspection would have helped.
  5. Visit  Ruby Vee profile page
    Quote from Saiderap
    I think the real myth is more that no one ever takes a good look at how they're contributing to their own problems. Some of these people really don't know why they're being humiliated and that's why it's so frustrating.

    Most of my R.N. teachers helped to empower me and also explained where I went wrong out on the floor in a private conference. If they had not told me what I was doing wrong, I would never know and no amount of introspection would have helped.
    You have a very good point. You were lucky that your instructors were brave enough to take you aside and explain to you where you were wrong, but more than that you were smart enough to take advantage of the information and learn from it.

    A huge part of that introspection is in being able to "hear the message" rather than concentrating on what you don't like about the delivery. If you weren't open to hearing the message your teachers gave you, you would not have been able to learn from it and correct what you were doing wrong.

    Many, many of these posters who are complaining about being surrounded by bullies have been told what they're doing wrong -- and have discounted the information because they didn't like the delivery, because they were absolutely certain that they never made mistakes, because (in one case I remember vividly) the instructor delivering the message was "not our kind of people" or some other "reason" that relates directly to their inability to take criticism. That is what is so frustrating. As a preceptor, I WANT my orientees to succeed. It reflects poorly on me as a teacher and a colleague to have orientees that don't succeed but more than that, I have genuinely liked my orientees and wanted to work with them as colleagues. To have an orientee that I've worked hard with keep making the same mistakes over and over because I cannot get the message across to them that they're MAKING the mistake is a failure on my part, and I take it as such. It is also a failure on their part, however, and I have to keep in mind that while I can present the information, I cannot make them learn it or profit from it.

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