I think to take something personal that was shared from the heart of a nurse who's father was dying is not appropriate.
I have to tell you that when my 80 year old father was ill and deteriorating quickly... if I heard ONE MORE TIME "Well... after all he is 80 years old..." EXCUSE ME??
YOU want to make this fat old nurse fly into your face and give you instructions and directions straight to Hell...then so be it.
You know what? Before my father became ill with pyleo he was an active 80 year old man. Sharp as a tack! In FULL control of his faculties. He was a member of MENSA and a far better person than anyone else I know. Yes he had rheumatic heart disease, HTN, renal insufficiency, had a valve replaced, and an AICD. But that by NO MEANS diminished his value to his family. He had just flown back to Chicago from visiting my house in New England. He still walked every day and drove to the store. He LOVED HIS FAMILY above all else!
In the hospital , a hospital I used to work at, he was treated as if he was already dead. Yes he went into renal failure...probably due to the fact when I arrived from the airport my father was unconscious from hypoglycemia, slumped over his bedside tray with his ted hose and footies on the bedside table covered in dry skin flakes next to his lunch tray..... my mother was crying because no one would come..as I questioned the CNA she stated she knew he was dozing when she brought the tray...OK sonorous respiration's is dozing! I WAS OUTRAGED!!!!
I mean why be concerned...he is after all 80 years old.
After surgery for his 3rd VAS cath because of incompetency of the staff...one "clotted" one "leaked" could that be from the scissors you were using? To betadine still on his skin with old OR patches 3 days later. To the dialysis tech who at my fathers bedside happily chatted how she wouldn't wish dialysis on her worst enemy. But that is OK he is, after all 80 years old.
As his condition deteriorated my sister and I (ALL RN'S) decided that we would try dialysis....see of we could pull this out. The next day he was his old self! The calm before the storm? Probably.
ON the third day he was due dialysis agai even though his "numbers were "OK" but his LOC had slipped once again. As I watched the dialysis tech...yes tech...touque his vas cath and fracture the hub...after I told her not to and asked her to get help...after I called the staff to help stop her..she fractured the VAS cath.
But it's ok he is 80 years old.
It was decided that because it was Saturday, his numbers were good and he "was 80 years old" it could wait till Monday. I told the MD that I had known for years that I would hold him responsible is anything happened...I had a bad feeling...I mean he had always listened to my bad feelings before..but after all my Dad is 80.
My dad coded that night and we removed from him life support the next day...he wasn't there anymore. I mean that's ok he was after all 80 years old.
I loved my dad like no one else. Who your parents are the luck of the draw and I happened to get a good ones. Oh... he had his flaws but above all else he LOVED his family. To infer that because someone is a pain in the nurses behind that they maybe didn't really love them and are guilt ridden makes me really angry.
I am extremely patient and a peacekeeper. I will go to great lengths to avoid conflict....but...If I am a pain in your behind you need to pay attention.
Don't get me started when my BIL died from bone cancer and the conversation a nurse had with my RN sister about her dying husband in HORRIBLE pain and paralyzed by the tumors in his spine.... how they had to be careful of addiction...and a DNR coughing up clots the size of liver didn't belong in ICU...do NOT START ME!!
That thread was about someones father dying. How can any nurse wiht an ounce of compassion in their pinky ignore the the poiginant story of how one nurse felt as her father lie dying and trying to give a families perspective and that they are just not ready to let go.
There are those who meed to leave those profession but it is not the writer of that post.
Forgive you please, your many sins? Get out of nursing. Get out of healthcare. Get out of this world.
To infer that someone should leave being a nurse outrages me even more. To say get out of this world is outta line.
I seldom get angry and I am angry. I miss my DAD EVERY SINGLE DAY! He was my friend. My cheerleader. My mentor. My DAD.