Re: Adoption

I couldn't agree more. The instability that I think babies in foster care & those as mentioned by Hopefull2009 by "yanking" children in & out of their homes when they are perhaps "unfit" & unstable is what makes children how they are.

I know many people that are adopted & they tell me all the time hwat it was like growing up for them. It's hard when you go from home to home not knowing where your going to end up next.

Thats why I don't understand our SRS system. I see children who's parents are COMPLETELY "unfit" with the wrong type of responsibilities, have never came to visit or called for that matter, but yet they want to "integrate them back into the family." I don't understand. I guess I just have to trust the system?!?

Re: Adoption

Our family has really got in touch with foster care recently.

My father's, sister's, daughter (everyone get that?)...is drug addicted and lost custody of her 10-year-old to foster care recently.

The judge stated that if my 1st cousin cannot secure a job, a car, and a place to live for a minimum of 6 months, he is not considering returning her daughter back to her.

Her parents, are in their 80's and are not able to take care of her.

No one else in the family will take this child in.

We are so financially strapped to the limit, we can't take her in, but I have promised my aunt if by next year, she is still in foster care, when I start working, I'll take the child in. I can't stand the thought of that.

Keep in mind...I have NEVER seen this child...but the fact she is family, is making me sick.

This poor girl was in a foster home for 5 months, and fell in love with her foster mother then for reasons no one knows, she was pulled out...and this really devasted the little girl...we have no idea to this day, why such a decision was made.

Re: Adoption

See I don't understand why things like that happen. Sometimes they get put in foster homes where they are absoultely adored & they just yank them out. I don't get it. And our state's SRS/foster system SUCKS! Really sucks!

Re: Adoption

Hi I just wanted to find out if you were able to adopt the child. I'm single and considering adopting a baby from my NICU but his mom hasn't made a final decision yet. The parents never told anyone that they were expecting a child and they still havn't told anyone that she had it so maybe there won't be any family stepping in.

Re: Adoption

I'm in Australia (as opposed to being American like the majority of people on this board!) however my mum works for our Department of Community Services (which basically deals with adoption, foster care, removing children from families, reintegrating them etcetc.) She's a solicitor, so she doesn't see to much of the "emotional" side (I can't imagine my mum as a social worker!) However she's attended several "raids" along with policeman and social workers where the children get removed from the home/family, run a lot of cases (court cases) against parents who want their children back and aren't fit to keep them, certified end-of-life plans for neonates born addicted to heroin or crack etcetc. Sometimes, the system really fails these kids (and their families) and sometimes, it saves them. It's almost luck of the draw.

I work in a long term care facility for children with severe mental and physical disabilities. We see a lot of "shaken babies" who are admitted in the care of the state. At the moment we have an eight month old with a foster family interested... I hope they love him.