Feel extremely hopeless

  1. I am about to retake my boards for the 4th time on Dec. 28th. I found myself to be not studying recently (last week to week and 1/2). Shouldn't I be feeling confident by now?
    I feel so bad ...I honestly feel like if I don't pass this time I wont take it again. Each time you see the words "fail" is very very unbearable and heart crushing. I honestly thought of suicide for a second ..which is very scary to me. I know I wouldn't really do that but I feel that bad.
    I know every time I have taken it is was due to test anxiety. Even through high school til now I have had test anxiety.

    I don't know what to do.
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   EricJRN
    I don't blame you for being frustrated at this point. Tell us a little more about how you're preparing, what you've tried differently this time, etc. How long has gone by since graduation?
  4. by   nurseangel47
    Please get a session with a professional counselor. You definitely need to ventilate to someone with this kind of relentless pressure on your shoulders.
    Keep in touch on here and please know that we're thinking of you. Good luck on the next testing.
  5. by   Dabuggy
    Hello,

    I also had a hard time with that test. They gave me all 205 questions and invited me back to take it again. They are so nice. What got me the first time is I tried to use common sense and answer the questions. I had no classes on which pt to take first, which is what got me the first time, along with meds I had not heard of. A BSN friend of mine told me you always do the ABC's, which on this test is tricky. Can't say the questions but the second time I went the ABC route and passed. As silly as the answer was I went with it.

    The second time I received all 205 questions again, so nice of them, and passed. I knew this stuff, and thought it should have shut down at 85.

    If you do not have any of the NCLEX books go to the library and check one out with the CD. If you have not used this in the past, use it for the week before the test. Many of my questions were very similar to them. Or they came from the explanations of the answers.

    Hope this helps

    Dabuggy
  6. by   ISM
    Quote from PACU queen
    I am about to retake my boards for the 4th time on Dec. 28th. I found myself to be not studying recently (last week to week and 1/2). Shouldn't I be feeling confident by now?
    I feel so bad ...I honestly feel like if I don't pass this time I wont take it again. Each time you see the words "fail" is very very unbearable and heart crushing. I honestly thought of suicide for a second ..which is very scary to me. I know I wouldn't really do that but I feel that bad.
    I know every time I have taken it is was due to test anxiety. Even through high school til now I have had test anxiety.

    I don't know what to do.

    i am a third timer 12/28/06 and don't know how i did thus far. I totally appreciate how you feel because right now i feel hopeless as well. on the other hand always know the everything we go through in life has a reason; either to make us stronger, to depend on God and get closer to him, increase our faith and the list continues. what ever the reason, know that what you are going through is known by God and perhaps the time is not right. What i can say to you is never give up, never give up and never give up.
  7. by   Silverdaisyd
    Quote from PACU queen
    I am about to retake my boards for the 4th time on Dec. 28th. I found myself to be not studying recently (last week to week and 1/2). Shouldn't I be feeling confident by now?
    I feel so bad ...I honestly feel like if I don't pass this time I wont take it again. Each time you see the words "fail" is very very unbearable and heart crushing. I honestly thought of suicide for a second ..which is very scary to me. I know I wouldn't really do that but I feel that bad.
    I know every time I have taken it is was due to test anxiety. Even through high school til now I have had test anxiety.

    I don't know what to do.
    I will be taking the boards for my third time, and I must say I have the exact feelings you have....I do know too that if I fail one more time, I don't want to go through having to take it again. It is treachorous and think of all of the study questions we have done? It seems as if the test is nothing like the study questions I have done. I am now before my third time meeting with my advisor from nursing school to help me on what I am doing, or what is wrong with my thinking process. I think you should do the same. I am also following Suzanne's test plan. I know how you feel about the studying too, I find myself saying, "what good will it do?" "I have done over 1000, or more questions" "I am just plain sick of studying" I too have test anxiety, and I have done things that has calmed me in the past, and they have not worked.....I must say though you need to talk, even to us, I talk to my husband, and of course crying when I think about how confident I felt when I went in to take it, I don't think I can handle a fail again. I like this forum just because there are other people in your situation and can relate to you. Keep plugging away, I am, soon we will both pass!
  8. by   luv2shop19mall
    oh wow.. i thought i was alone.. well i took my nclex more times than any of you on this forum.. i dont know what to do.. and i just took it on the 20th . .still no resutls.. i feel extremely hopeless, going thorugh so m uch stress, start of the new year.. i hate my job..they all boss me around. i drive through traffic every morning knowing that i am wasting gas.. and my husband and i have been fighting since the 1st.. i honestly dont know what to do.. when i was drivign home from work . i had tears going down my eyes becuz i thought of the cliniclas i went through and staying up late to study for my exmas and where am i @? i feel so low and so sad. ;(
  9. by   luv2shop19mall
    Quote from PACU queen
    I am about to retake my boards for the 4th time on Dec. 28th. I found myself to be not studying recently (last week to week and 1/2). Shouldn't I be feeling confident by now?
    I feel so bad ...I honestly feel like if I don't pass this time I wont take it again. Each time you see the words "fail" is very very unbearable and heart crushing. I honestly thought of suicide for a second ..which is very scary to me. I know I wouldn't really do that but I feel that bad.
    I know every time I have taken it is was due to test anxiety. Even through high school til now I have had test anxiety.

    I don't know what to do.
    i didnt knowo what to do either... voices kept gettting into my head. its really hard when you have to face this challenge alone.. i hated studying but i love pens and all them school supplies. i dont really have much support and i just finidhed takeing my test also.. everything i told myself that i wouldnt do.. nothing.. same problem as test 1, test 2 test 3 test 4..and so on .. dont feel hopeless... please pm me.. im in californa.. i do need a study buddy.. im looking for one.. .pm me... take care..your not alone.. and i know how you feeel.. i feel the same way but maybe worse..:angryfire
  10. by   Born2bRN
    I guess I'm not alone. I have been out of school since May 06. I've taken the NCLEX RN twice and failed. My manager told me to try to take the PN while I studied for the RN, so at least I can work while I study. I will be taking it soon, so I hope that works out for me. I must be the only one left in my class that haven't passed this test.
    I feel like such a failure even though everyone keeps telling me "IT'S JUST A TEST" and "IT DOESN'T DETERMINE HOW GOOD OF A NURSE YOU ARE".
    My husband has been so supportive, but he's the only one working right now, and that is really stressing me out. Bills and everything are fine, but I just feel like I'm doing absolutely nothing.

    I am trying to be positive, and strong, but it's hard. I'm not going to lie. I am going to take this test until I pass it. I guess it's the price I have to pay for my DREAM JOB...

    I am on Suzanne's 1st tip. She's my only hope left for this Nclex. Hopefully, 3x will be a charm.


    KEKE
  11. by   Leilah75_RN
    Good luck to all of us i too is feeling rough not getting it the 1st time. i have been self supporting since after college, been earning well before, got promoted to nurse grade E 6 months after being grade D. Got married to a US Navy/Citizen 2 years ago. left my job in UK a year ago just to be with my husband to start a family and bec i am too scared that he might go to iraq again. been jobless since then. i feel really down knowing that i cannot even help my husband financially and by failing means i have added more financial pain on him. he didnt say a word when i failed. altho hasnt been smiling a lot lately, he said take the test again & dont think about the fees. we took his lil brother's legal custody just recently which cost us a lot really and now this.
    all im trying to do now is taking a deep breath, pray and study and hope that my brain retains what i need to know and learn to pass nclex.
  12. by   mickey1234
    Hello

    youll dont know how much this website is lifting my spirits. I also have taken the PN exam three times. I am so depressed, i dont like leaving the house, i shut off all my friends,etc. I ask myself why is this happening to me, my friends took there test and passed, and im left back, but everday i wake in say, i will pass this test, this is only a test, i will not let this test defeat me. I know what kind of nurse i am, and will be, and the name of jesus amen.
  13. by   Leilah75_RN
    amen! there are people here who failed the test couple of times, tried more, then they finally got what they want..they passed...we will have our chance soon, just dont loose hope and keep on reviewing. ask God for help and guidance.
  14. by   RNKay31
    Wishing you the very best

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