Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

Count your blessings that you do not have children that would further tie you down to this woman. The ladies in the other forums talk about this all the time, about the subject of pursuing nursing and dealing with an unsupportive husband (or in this case, a wife). They generally come to the same conclusion; leave the sorry excuse of a man. I have the same sentiment here; ditch the !@#$%.

Leave her, and upgrade to someone younger. Leave her, and upgrade to someone who can support you emotionally. Leave her, and upgrade to someone who will inspire you to be an awesome nurse and to be an awesome person in general. Don't let this current wretch of a woman keep you down!

Leaving someone is never easy, and you might even be financially dependent on her. At the very least, your lives are intertwined and so is most of your owned possessions. Leaving someone at first can seem like a daunting task, because it really is a daunting task, but just imagine the breath of fresh air you will have once it is all over and you've started your new life. Your new life, on your own terms, doing the things that you want to do.

There's plenty of fish in the sea, including pre-nursing students, nursing students, and nurses of all ages!

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

Don't know that I'd go so far as to endorse Bluee's advice--the OP will have to decide that for himself. But, just for the record, lotta cute doctors out there, too. You know, for those who don't mind embracing the stereotype...

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

You might want to remind her that as a general rule, nursing is a resession proof job. You can get a job anywhere and you usually don't have to worry about getting laid off. Being in the food business, of any kind is not a stable job with the economy being the way it is. Go ahead with nursing. You will be better for doing this.

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

I spoke with my sister today. She has really bolstered my decision to become a nurse. I'm not sure about moving to where she is though. Her practice has a tuition program to where I can pay for further education and receive a stipend.. WOW!

She said if I became a CRNA that I can be contracted in on her procedures. Is that true? I need to find out more on this but for now I'm just taking this all one day at a time. First things first. Get the ADN. Then I can think about other avenues of this wonderful world of nursing.

I really wanna thank all of you for the advice and well wishes (including Bluee). I have a lot to mull over but will keep you posted.

All of you.....

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

Originally Posted by moneyline702

Ihe said if I became a CRNA that I can be contracted in on her procedures. Is that true? I need to find out more on this but for now I'm just taking this all one day at a time. First things first. Get the ADN. Then I can think about other avenues of this wonderful world of nursing.

ok I swear you lot do this to see how long it takes me to work out the Jargon...........what is a CRNA?? I think it might mean a certified registered nurses aid?? if so.. what the heck is that?? wont tell you the 'non professional' interpretations I have come up with!!

dont think I'd do very well working in the states.. I'd be the nurse standing there with a stunned look on her face trying to work out what you just said.. and why do you call a ward a floor?? for me, a floor is the whole level.. as in first floor, second floor etc! a ward is a collection of beds that you work on..

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

I found out it is a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist. Without going into a soapbox speech as to their scope of practice, they (forgive me) are essentially Anesthesiologists from a nursing perspective (Performing virtually similar tasks).

And I mean no disrespect to either Anesthesiologists or CRNA's by that rudimentary definition.

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

Originally Posted by moneyline702

I found out it is a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist. Without going into a soapbox speech as to their scope of practice, they (forgive me) are essentially Anesthesiologists from a nursing perspective (Performing virtually similar tasks).

And I mean no disrespect to either Anesthesiologists or CRNA's by that rudimentary definition.

my apologies if you feel I have hijacked your thread..

I would point out that I may have been a nurse for 30yrs.. but I dont work in the States and we dont have the same job titles as in the states. we have only a few qualifications.. here nurses are registered nurses, with a few speciallities such as midwife or health vistor. I'm a Nurse Practitioner- and its not a recognised qualification here yet despite being at masters level. we dont have CRNA's here........ we might have something similiar but thats not a title we use, will have to check what title we use but would be a clinical specialist role, so they will be a registered nurse specialist.

I hate Jargon.. it leads to mistakes.. for example IUD. this can mean inter-uterine death or Inter-urterine device.. so it can lead to miscommunication. I frequently feel I speak a different language to people in the states! so my apologies for asking for clarification about a term I didnt understand. maybe i should start a thread on all the abbrevations I dont understand!


and you just edited your post.. taking out the bit saying i had hijacked your thread!!! I'll leave mine to stand as it is.. and will continue to ask for clarification when i dont understand stuff..

Re: Gentlemen (and viewing Ladies)

We have wards and floors. And you did go on a little tangent on what you don't know as abbreviations. I see you have well over 1,000 posts. Not once you didn't see those four letters bunched together until now (CRNA)?

Anyhow, let's not fight.


Sometimes a ward encompasses an entire floor. Say for example, if you asked where the neonatal ICU was. I could tell you to go to the third floor. Consequently, that floor could also be home to the pediatric ICU. I don't know the facts on that for sure but maybe we can ask someone that works in one..

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I am sorry that your wife seems to be feeling insecure. My husband acted the same way with me whenever I tried to advance in my job by going to college. He would fight and I would give in and quit my classes. I wasted a lot of time and money dealing with his behavior. It would have been better if I would have put up with his sulking and completed my courses. He never seemed to have any trouble helping me spend my wages. I would think that your wife may change her attitude when she sees that you are able to find decent, steady employment and that you are happy in what you are doing. Perhaps you can convince her to go into healthcare also. She may find her own niche in nursing through you. Anyway, good luck in school. I recommend that you do what you want with your career aspirations. It will certainly go some way toward making you happy and your wife should be able to see and appreciate that.

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i did not have the support of my partner but i went ahead anyway,it's tough when the person you lives with does not support you and actively argues against your chosen field,and like you i was 33 when i went back,but once i graduated and it was clear i wanted to be in this field i got the support i wanted,basically it's your life,not theirs,and while you can have input on some subjects,how you spend the hours of your life in work has to be your choice,not theirs...would you choose a career for her ?...good luck