Re: The 10 REAL Reasons Men Don't Go to the Doctor

Yours points are very valid about; worrying, invasive exams, cost and fear. In the United States I can understand why an uninsured person might avoid a physician’s visit. They may not have the money for the exam in the first place. Even if they did they may not be able to afford cancer treatments, open heart surgery or a transplant. So what would the point of the exam be in the first place? To find out you have a disease that can’t be treated?


I agree with you BATMAN24, the Doc leaving the door open like 58flyer talks about has an easy solution. Send him back to kindergarten for reeducation! A person with 21 years of education (13:school, 4remed, 4:med) who does not have the common sense and/or decency to close the door behind a naked person, yes even a male naked person, is pathetic. Most 5 year olds have more common sense! If any caregiver did that to me or my family I would say something to them alright, albeit in a firm but very politically incorrect, non-polite, way!

As an OB/GYN I would never let anyone in my practice get away with showing such disrespect for a patient who is in such a vulnerable position. That is not to say it did not happen at my practice. Once someone on my team was working on a patient and left the room to take a personal call. This was against the rules. They then just left the door open while the patient was exposed. She yelled for someone to please close the door but no one was in earshot. I happen to walk by and heard what was happening.

She was screaming and weeping at the same time. I immediately closed the door and went over to the patient and apologized. Since it was my practice I felt ultimately responsible. The worst part is when she cried, “why did she do that to me?!” The offending nurse came in the room about 3 minutes later. I asked what happened and she said, I had to get a call. When the patient asked about the door, she replied, “it is not a big deal, I am a professional, you don’t have anything I haven’t seen before.” I immediately terminated her and made a report to the State BON. From what I heard the patient has not gone to an OB/GYN since that experience. So for the last 10 years she has had no GYN care.

I have the feeling some of you will think I am extreme. Although after that I never had problems with idiots leaving doors open.

Re: The 10 REAL Reasons Men Don't Go to the Doctor

Originally Posted by Paco386

The doctor who wrote this is an idiot, for lack of a better word. Clearly she does not speak on my behalf because I'm a man that definitely does not have a problem going to a doctor and getting anything done that needs to be done to keep myself healthy. It should be titled:

The 10 REAL Reasons Some Men Don't Go to the Doctor

One bad apple spoils the whole bunch. Tired of women making blanket statements about men as a whole. This is one man that does not make them about women.

I wanted to say thanks and say I dislike stero typing myself and I am tired of men making blanket statements about women. It is nice to see one that shares my opinion. Kudos to you.

Re: The 10 REAL Reasons Men Don't Go to the Doctor

Batman, some of the experiences I mentioned in my post occurred at an early age. By early, I mean adolescence or early adulthood, before one develops the social and communication skills that maturity and life experience brings. If I could go back in a time machine now and put myself in the difficult situations I encountered, they most certainly would have never happened. But it's the young people who most often encounter this kind of crap. They are easily pressured into submitting to something that will haunt them for the rest of their lives. It was at age 16, when I went in for surgery for my broken finger, that I had the horrific experience I mentioned in another thread. That might not have happened to someone much older. I can remember my mother telling me in earshot of the nurse, "these people are here to help you so do exactly what they say." I had every intention of being the good compliant patient. Oh, how I regret that.

I have to disagree with you Batman, about being "polite but firm." How can I be polite to anyone who disrespects me? To me, standard of care is the polite request to respect a patient's modesty. If I have to speak up and remind someone to do something so basic as provide privacy, then it's really the second request and I have the right to get forceful. Experience has taught me that asking nicely will not get the desired result. Only when I have snapped at them, with liberal use of the "f" word or "b" word, and demeaning them in the process, did I ever get the result I expected. A cleaned up example; "Shut the door moron, were you born in a freaking barn or what?" Yea, once I had a doc tell me I was not nice, only once.

Before I retired from my last law enforcement career, I spent several years doing off duty employment as security in a hospital. I noticed that when medical people spoke to each other, it was direct, succinct, to the point with no sugarcoating. When communication was corrective in nature, it was often demeaning. I have found that approach works well when dealing with medical staff.

Re: The 10 REAL Reasons Men Don't Go to the Doctor

In regard to women being treated better than as patients.......it must be a real upper end world you live in.

TuTonka

Re: The 10 REAL Reasons Men Don't Go to the Doctor

TuTonka...the ladies are given a great deal more consideration to their modesty issues....and any male doctor making the equivalent statements about females that the lady did whose article caused this thread ..that male provider would be in a world of trouble.