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  1. Jan 26, '07 by
    It's my birthday today... and I came into this thread pretty down, between losing my g/f and being so indecisive on a career choice. I really appreciate everything everyone has said, and I'm extremely impressed.

    I'm actually taking A&P, microbiology and chemistry right now, trying to make it into the nursing program in May, but I have had my doubts every day. For years I have quit and began things incessantly, so indecisive on what I want to do. I worked both IT jobs and kitchen remodeling jobs for that time, and it wasn't for me. I really like helping people (I am a personal trainer right now, for the last 5 months). I have tons of energy and don't mind working long hours. The classes I am taking are the only ones that have ever interested me. It seems right. I've talked to people in the profession. The hours are great, flexibility is there... the pay is excellent. But I guess I am afraid to pick one thing and go with it, I guess because I feel time is running out or something stupid like that. I think my biggest concern, for reasons that I think I understand, I was afraid of how it would affect my personal life with women, dating or being married.

    This thread has helped me tremendously in pushing me towards a decision, and I just want to thank everyone for their opinions.

    I would like to add one thing to the discussion: To those in relationships who are nurses or are dating relationship, how does shift work affect your relationship/marriage? Having to work weekends, nights... odd hours.
  2. Jan 26, '07 by
    I think men who ignore gender stereotypes are HOT!!!! Nothing more boring than one of those cookie-cutter frat boys trying so hard to be like everyone else : )

    P.S. I'm a woman
    Last edit by SonicnurseRN on Jan 26, '07
  3. Jan 29, '07 by
    Quote from wildfire2098
    I would like to add one thing to the discussion: To those in relationships who are nurses or are dating relationship, how does shift work affect your relationship/marriage? Having to work weekends, nights... odd hours.
    Welcome to Allnurses!

    It's not easy. My ex-spouse held a traditional 9-5 job and for about a year I worked 12-hour nights, and had to work every other weekend. The weekends I worked I slept. So the spouses days off I slept through. We were always having to tiptoe around each other because of opposite sleeping patterns. Eventually because of this I decided to switch to day shift. Nights was wearing the old body down as well. It worked out better, even though I still worked every other weekend.

    You just learn to adjust, spending what quality time you can together.

    When I was single working 3-11 shift, that was very isolating to me and hard to date because most people I knew were free in the evening time when I was working.
  4. Feb 5, '07 by
    I'm sensing it's the maturity of those you are hanging around with. I also have gotten the advances from those who believe a nurse will sleep with anything anytime. Well, we're not all like that. Most women I have met are exscited that I'm into the profession and wish to see more of us. Most men can't understand why I would ever go back to school at my age into such a technical field.

    BTW, I have never used nor will ever use the moniker "male" nurse. I do the same job as my female counterparts and hold the same title. I also found that the only thing that changes is your sense of humor and it changes for both male and female. No one but nurses could laugh at the same things we augh at.

    Check the maturity level of those who think you less manly. When they truly understand what a man is, it will be too late, you'll have all new friends.
  5. Feb 5, '07 by
    Quote from gdean1
    No one but nurses could laugh at the same things we augh at.
    LOL, nor get excited about the strangest things. Horray, so and so finally had a large BM or look at that beautiful clear, yellow urine.
  6. Feb 5, '07 by
    Quote from wildfire2098
    It's my birthday today... and I came into this thread pretty down, between losing my g/f and being so indecisive on a career choice. I really appreciate everything everyone has said, and I'm extremely impressed.

    I'm actually taking A&P, microbiology and chemistry right now, trying to make it into the nursing program in May, but I have had my doubts every day. For years I have quit and began things incessantly, so indecisive on what I want to do. I worked both IT jobs and kitchen remodeling jobs for that time, and it wasn't for me. I really like helping people (I am a personal trainer right now, for the last 5 months). I have tons of energy and don't mind working long hours. The classes I am taking are the only ones that have ever interested me. It seems right. I've talked to people in the profession. The hours are great, flexibility is there... the pay is excellent. But I guess I am afraid to pick one thing and go with it, I guess because I feel time is running out or something stupid like that. I think my biggest concern, for reasons that I think I understand, I was afraid of how it would affect my personal life with women, dating or being married.

    This thread has helped me tremendously in pushing me towards a decision, and I just want to thank everyone for their opinions.

    I would like to add one thing to the discussion: To those in relationships who are nurses or are dating relationship, how does shift work affect your relationship/marriage? Having to work weekends, nights... odd hours.
    My wife and I have been married for 25 years. She has been a nurse for 27 years (she started when she was 2 ). I have dealt with a lot of absences over the years, but the children and I understood my wife's comittment to her career. I retired from career number one in 2004, and I'm now an RN working at the same hospital as my wife, which makes the schedule a lot easier to bear. There are days when the only time I see her is on the elevator, or passing in the hall at work. I think that if you have a solid relationship, the weekends/holidays/off-shifts don't matter.

    As far as women being drawn to male nurses, I find that more than a few are drawn to me when their patient needs a boost up in bed .
  7. Feb 10, '07 by
    Quote from gdean1
    Check the maturity level of those who think you less manly. When they truly understand what a man is, it will be too late, you'll have all new friends.
    I agree!

    Quote from jimthorp
    LOL, nor get excited about the strangest things. Horray, so and so finally had a large BM or look at that beautiful clear, yellow urine.
    :chuckle - strange but true
  8. Feb 12, '07 by
    To Roy's first post, man... I love you!!! ((disclaimer: this is in no way gay)) I wandered into this site just by chance, and wow, great group of people, and with this posting I wanted to share something that was bought for me by a friend of mine. She said it was all me, and she knew me in nursing school and how I cared for every patient that was in my charge, and that hasn't changed yet. I don't understand why people look at me, with the Army style short short hair cut (yes I was in the Army), six foot tall and all 185 lbs of me and say, "your a nurse?", or get the jokes about being gay, or Focker jokes. To tell the truth this is the only job that has made sense to me, as a man and as a human being. Why is it considered so unmanly to care for those that cannot care for themselves? Why is it considered so unmanly to wipe someone's bottom that can't do it for themselves? Is this only a job that a woman can perform? I say nay-nay. I think all of you will agree with me that what we do takes a certain type of person to be able to do what we do, whether male or female.

    Anyhow I thought i'd share this with you all. This is something I keep by my door and look at before every shift I go on.

    Nurses Prayer.

    As I care for my patients today--Guide me Lord, each step of the way. Send me your wisdom from above, to perform each task with faith and love. Help me give comfort to all I see. Lord, I give my thanks to thee.


    Wayne.
  9. Feb 12, '07 by
    Thank you Wayne

    to allnurses! Hope to see more of your posts in the future!

    cheers,
  10. Feb 15, '07 by
    actually, i take a lot of pride in being a male nurse. when women ask me what i do and i tell them that i am a nurse they are just like "wow". sometimes, the way that women respond may seem a little awkward, but deep inside, they know that you are something different from the rest of men.

    i was walking a girl to her car after class yesterday and she asked me what i do, i told her that i was a nurse and she seemed really impressed and it seemed like she was more interested in me(cause im a nurse and i got a job and im caring, etc etc.) today, i saw her in class and she gave me this stare, it was the good kind of stare, the kind where the woman is trying to tell you that shes interested or something.

    all in all, i look at being a male nurse as an advantage. you should too.