The "Flirt" - page 5

The 'Flirt" is on the loose. How many women flirt with you? Not just your customary flirting, but serious double entendre, risque stuff? No I am not trying to incite some sort of ego competition... Read More

  1. Visit  Bluebolt profile page
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    In response to the original posting: I agree that there is a bizarrely large amount of flirting and sexual innuendo in the medical field. I think it would be remiss to just focus on the nursing aspect of it. It is the RT's, Phlebotomists, PT's, Radiology dept, Nurse Techs, Transporters, CRNP's, MD's, RN's, etc. All these groups of people float around in the hospital flirting and making inappropriate comments to male/female co-workers all day. Perhaps it's because we're trained to walk into people's rooms and pull off their clothes and insert things into their (No No zones). We see and do gross and invasive things all day that violate modesty and human decency and are desensitized to it.

    Perhaps this is why women feel free to get aggressive sexually and flirtatiously. I've actually listened to a (3rd shift) RN talk about how she doesn't like the smell after anal sex. Granted 3rd shifters are kinda odd, but still! I just try to remind people that I'm happily in a long term relationship with my nurse girlfriend and if I wanna talk dirty to a nurse it'll be her.
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  3. Visit  drowningdaily profile page
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    Wow, I wish I had the free time to flirt. In my experience, I have seen security, janitorial and food service staff flirting with CNA's. But, most of the nurses are too busy trying to get 18 hours of work squeezed into a 12 hour shift.
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  4. Visit  murberry profile page
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    Quote from tiffanydef

    Agreed !!!!!! As I've seen ... The only guys that get "harassed" are the ones that put it out there ! And in nursing school who has time to flirt ? And I agree when I look for someone it's not a fellow nurse it's a doc sorry .......
    Very true!! Im going into nursing and I wouldn't want to look for another nurse, I'd def go for the doctor! Lol most of my girlfriends who are nurses would agree.
  5. Visit  Rhi007 profile page
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    Quote from RickyRescueRN
    I think one would be hard pressed to find one of us who has not had the women flirting in the work situation. As much as most, if not all hospitals and employers would discourage this type of thing, it still happens all the time. I guess it all depends on how one handles the situation. I just brush it off and have a good laugh.It makes me feel great that the women find me attractive despite the fact that I'm gay LOL
    But that makes it even better!!!! Because we know we can't give you what you want but we feel safe in doing it knowing forwell it won't go any further!!!!
  6. Visit  jadelpn profile page
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    I am an old lady, so there is no flirting. I am friendly by nature, and will make conversation when the situation warrants it.

    As a pp said, the things we do and see desensitize nurses. No excuse for inappropriate "coming on" to ones co-worker, (and perhaps it is just an attempt--no matter how poor to lighten things up a tad)

    It is curious, however, as to how many have made "the woman in rm 432 is here for her blah, blah, blah....giggle giggle, YA, I BET.....'' or some other such innuendo regarding patients.

    Some people have no filter. And I am not thinking that boyfriends/husbands/wives need to get up in arms about this stuff. Poor reflection of one's own security in one's self, in one's relationship....and seriously, there is not a reason in the world that women and men can't be just friends--literally, just friends. Not every woman who is a nurse is throwing themselves at male nurses for sport.

    And I really am not one to believe that all female nurses are one dimensional. Many have had lives and even some have had alternate careers before nursing. That is akin to saying that men who can not become doctors are nurses. Just ignorance.

    Being friendly doesn't equate flirting. Not everyone wants you, wants your man, nor has the time or energy to pursue something other than a bathroom break, a meal break, and a hot shower and bed after a long shift.

    Some people just need to get a grip, and get over themselves. Most female nurses do NOT aspire to get into a big drama with y'all.
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  7. Visit  jadelpn profile page
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    Quote from Esme12
    Just a word of experience....there aren't THAT many hot nurses out there and even less are there hot nurses that throw themselves at every male figure in the medical profession.....and if they are throwing themselves at men it will be the ones that make over a good six figures. Not a bedside nurse or student nurse struggling through school.....I'm wondering if your boyfriend is exaggerating JUST a LITTLE on the throws of female throwing themselves at his feet.

    I feel your boyfirend may not be telling you the whole truth and is he really telling them he is not available. AND there isn't THAT much fooling around....trust me on this.

    Just food for thought.
    BAHAHAHAHA Yes, Esme if I was gonna throw myself at anyone it would be someone with lots and lots of money....however, I dunno, I have my husband just the way I like him,and don't wanna start over with another one....
  8. Visit  fasnv profile page
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    Quote from stelat2010
    I flirt with them - not because I'm interested, but because I'm gay. They love it!
    I keep that in mind, but it doesn't bother me and I'm not a flirty person(since I married my bf). However, I'm not a nurse, but a pre-nursing student.
    Last edit by fasnv on May 21, '13 : Reason: .
  9. Visit  YoungStud profile page
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    I wouldn't be able to focus on flirting and taking care of my patients and their best interests simultaneously
  10. Visit  MassED profile page
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    Quote from exit96
    The 'Flirt" is on the loose. How many women flirt with you? Not just your customary flirting, but serious double entendre, risque stuff? No I am not trying to incite some sort of ego competition here. I come from a background of carpenter work and factory work, so the dominant female workforce is new to me...well new as in 2 & 1/2 yrs in the biz. Age range of these flirtatious beings ranges from 20-50ish...I am not extremely handsome nor am I gruesome. Do the ladies just constantly flirt and tell you you're hot as a common way of conversing throughout the day? Obviously I like it because I am a man, and love the smell of perfume and vitamins :-), but I already have trouble driving my car down the street in danger of hitting something when there are females in my field of vision...
    Just yackin' here fellas, do you find that the women you work with are just that way or what??
    I know this is an old post, but wanted to point out that being female and working with predominantly females, I find that women really flirt and hound men around us at work. I was in the military, surrounded by males, and found them much easier to be around than women are in nursing. Women seem to always have sex on the brain where I work. This is my own comparison from working in two separate fields. I realize we all have biases and our own experience, but it's an interesting debate. I know women's lib has set this debate on its ear, because now women are almost like construction workers catcalling to men in the workplace. I wonder if men really are bothered by it? Certainly not all of theses guys reciprocate or even like these women. Perhaps their egos like it?

    How is that acceptable? If it were a group of men in a male-dominated profession, they would be accused of sexual harassment. It has been so PC for so long about sexual harassment, but it's never addressed for the reverse. It is a huge double standard. Somehow women are less predatory or less of a threat? Men should just take it? It embarrasses me as a female working around other females who display this. Can't people save their personal lives for off work time?

    On the other hand, like the OP, some men just eat it up and really use it to their advantage, much like a female working in construction who will be sought after and provide a distraction at work.

    My issue is when women behave this way, it sets those that don't behave that way in the same light. We work harder to be respected and to be treated as a professional and to pull ourselves from the fray. Not every person at work is using their career to flirt, "hook up" or find a partner.
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  11. Visit  MedChica profile page
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    I work with a guy who is just a 'flirty bird'. He flirts with everyone with his suggestive comments.

    In the beginning, it was 'whatever'. Now, he just gets under my skin. I've cooled to him and some of what I told a fellow coworker reportedly got back to him because he keeps the flirting to a minimum now. He's pretty attractive but that's just irrelevant to me. I don't want him. We're at work. I spent most of my life in more professional environments so it really puts me off. Doesn't make me uncomfortable; I just think it's inappropriate. I don't date coworkers (cause you don't poop where you sleep!). I don't want to be on the receiving end of flirtations at work.

    Most of my distaste for this behavior has to do with the fact that he's got a ring on his finger.
  12. Visit  anothergrumpyoldRN profile page
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    meh...

    there have always been "dirty old men" who are sometimes neither old nor men...

    The problem is that sexual harassment and discrimination has been institutionalized against women forever, so we are numb to it.
    But look what happens when women do that to men in a primarily female work environment...the men finally get to appreciate what GENERATIONS of women have endured in the workplace for decades.

    This is not to say it is okay...NOT OKAY...it is simply to point out how we in America accept our institutional bigotry, racism, sexism, and discrimination UNTIL it touches us personally, then some of us "evolve" while some cling to the security of the "good ol days".
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  13. Visit  MassED profile page
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    Quote from anothergrumpyoldRN
    meh...

    there have always been "dirty old men" who are sometimes neither old nor men...

    The problem is that sexual harassment and discrimination has been institutionalized against women forever, so we are numb to it.
    But look what happens when women do that to men in a primarily female work environment...the men finally get to appreciate what GENERATIONS of women have endured in the workplace for decades.

    This is not to say it is okay...NOT OKAY...it is simply to point out how we in America accept our institutional bigotry, racism, sexism, and discrimination UNTIL it touches us personally, then some of us "evolve" while some cling to the security of the "good ol days".
    well said.
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  14. Visit  DrkCocoMurse215 profile page
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    I'm a young, 22, and handsome guy so I guess it's expected to have a little flirting going on but I've had comments and things done that are borderline too far and if the tables were turned I'd probably have many complaints. Don't you just love double standards.
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