How often do female pts request male nurses? - page 2

I was just reading the thread, "OB Clinicals" and it got me to thinking about something. I am a nurse, I am female, and the two times I've been inpatient I have requested male nurses. I don't... Read More

  1. by   z's playa
    Quote from mattsmom81
    When I have a female patient specifically request a male nurse immediately my radar goes off.

    Any patient who makes such specific requests (except in issues of pericare/embarassment issues) is likely to be manipulative, and may need boundaries.

    Now...some guys are very comfortable even with flirtatious or innappropriate females; and know how to handle them, so we can take things on an individual basis sometimes.

    We've all had the innappropriate male patient who leeringly requests the sweet young nurse. Some women do the same with the good looking young males. We gotta look out for each other in both cases.

    I've never had a male claim a female nurse had molested them; but I've dealt with dozens of females claiming the male caregiver was innappropriate...so we gotta be real here.

    THANK you mattsmom there...... :yeahthat:
    Last edit by z's playa on Apr 10, '05
  2. by   JessicaInOr
    Quote from mattsmom81
    When I have a female patient specifically request a male nurse immediately my radar goes off.

    Any patient who makes such specific requests (except in issues of pericare/embarassment issues) is likely to be manipulative, and may need boundaries.

    Now...some guys are very comfortable even with flirtatious or innappropriate females; and know how to handle them, so we can take things on an individual basis sometimes.

    We've all had the innappropriate male patient who leeringly requests the sweet young nurse. Some women do the same with the good looking young males. We gotta look out for each other in both cases.

    I've never had a male claim a female nurse had molested them; but I've dealt with dozens of females claiming the male caregiver was innappropriate...so we gotta be real here.
    See, this is what I don't get. The automatic assumption is that the female patient is flirtatious or inappropriate in some way. As a female patient I would never dream of such behavior! Not in a million years! But I have to admit, I think it is a sad sad day when people (not just you, others too!) automatically make such assumptions. It's a reaction. I understand that. I just don't like it.

    If I were in labor, if I had GYN issues, if I stripped each time the nurse came in the room and danced, if I was inappropriate... I could understand. But amazingly, some of us just want a male nurse. No strings attached, nothing. I was never nude in front of my nurse, I never had an embarrassing procedure. I have a clotting disorder, nothing more. How many times does a patient have to strip for a blood disorder?? A PE?

    People think nothing of a woman going to a male OB/GYN but a male nurse? The horror! How does this make sense? I think men get their jollies from seeing a female patient as much as women get their jollies from seeing a male patient. We don't. It's a job, it's a procedure, it's the way life is. Just not a biggie.

    Until we get over this male vs. female thing then men are going to continue feeling as some do. They are going to feel like outsiders. In reality we are all professionals, medical professionals. That's all, nothing more and nothing less.

    This thread has made me more sure that any time I am in a hospital I will ask for a male. If nothing else just for the respect factor. People ask for females but clearly they don't ask for males. I will!
  3. by   nitro23
    Actually I don't think its that uncommon for a women to request a male nurse. I have had a couple female patients they prefer male nurses because they are more patient and caring
  4. by   JessicaInOr
    Quote from nitro23
    Actually I don't think its that uncommon for a women to request a male nurse. I have had a couple female patients they prefer male nurses because they are more patient and caring
    While I understand what you write, if I dare to agree I'll be made out to be mentally ill yet again.

    But I will say that sometimes people perceive things differently. While one person perceives something one way, I'll see it a different way.

    Thank you.
  5. by   z's playa
    Quote from AzMichelle
    While I understand what you write, if I dare to agree I'll be made out to be mentally ill yet again.

    But I will say that sometimes people perceive things differently. While one person perceives something one way, I'll see it a different way.

    Thank you.

    OMIGOD!! I NEVER said you were mentally ill!!!!!!!! I SPECIFICALLY said you WEREN'T!!@!!!!! :crash_com

    STOP putting words in my mouth!!! Honestly! :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire
  6. by   NRSKarenRN
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