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Ever had a patient refuse you based on your gender? - page 4

It happened to me twice in one night, the funny thing is that it wasn't the patients refusing me it was their husbands. One of them was really rude about it, I felt like asking them if they had any... Read More

  1. Visit  DesertRN2 profile page
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    Quote from Rock
    When it comes to giving a pill or changing a dressing, any gender may preside.
    But, when it comes to very personal care involving breasts and genitalia, it would be prudent to have a female nurse, attendant or doctor perform the function. Don't set yourself up for a lawsuit.
    I don't know seems very sexist to me ..... just be a professional and most of the time no one should care. What about personal care female nurses give to male breasts and genitalia? Should they too find an available male attendant, nurse, or doctor? To me as long as we continue to make it or think of it as an issue it is an issue. It really should not be.
  2. Visit  MrChicagoRN profile page
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    Quote from DesertRN2

    I don't know seems very sexist to me ..... just be a professional and most of the time no one should care. What about personal care female nurses give to male breasts and genitalia? Should they too find an available male attendant, nurse, or doctor? To me as long as we continue to make it or think of it as an issue it is an issue. It really should not be.
    No, no one should care, but that doesn't make it so. Traditionally, women aren't seen as potential sexual threats while men are.

    Female staff are at risk to being groped, hit on, or having a male patient way too happy to see them; men are at risk for being accused of inappropriateness. I'll perform care of (or near) genitalia; but if they seem uncomfortable with the thought, I'd offer a female to do the task. Most will decline, but they appreciate being asked.
    Last edit by MrChicagoRN on Aug 13, '11
  3. Visit  NickB profile page
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    I haven't had anyone refuse yet. I do have the occasional pt who you can tell is a little uneasy and a little bashful. Normally when it comes to breastfeeding. I will let them continue to struggle on their own until they get so tired and frustrated that they have no choice but to have me help them. I get the baby latched on in a matter of minutes and then they call me everytime they need to breastfeed after that.
  4. Visit  acl0727 profile page
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    Just remember, if a pt feels uneasy to be under your care due to your gender, change assignments! Protect that rn license!
  5. Visit  ITSSOSIMPLE profile page
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    Quote from MrChicagoRN
    No, no one should care, but that doesn't make it so. Traditionally, women aren't seen as potential sexual threats while men are.

    Female staff are at risk to being groped, hit on, or having a male patient way too happy to see them; men are at risk for being accused of inappropriateness. I'll perform care of (or near) genitalia; but if they seem uncomfortable with the thought, I'd offer a female to do the task. Most will decline, but they appreciate being asked.
    A quick review of state nursing disciplinary boards reveals female nurses have sexually assaulted their male patients
    and thus female nurses rank highest in boundary violations. So, equally true is the fact that male patients are at risk of being groped,hit on and having a female nurse way too happy to see them. Male patient privacy is low on the agenda and for
    good reasons.

    Male nurses have been considered predatory perverts and discriminated against in nursing schools and hospitals. I have
    never seen male nurses at L & D suites nor will you see any male mammographers. It is the institutions themselves that
    discriminate against males, not the female patient population.

    My urology experience is just as unique as your childbirth experience,yet there are no male cna's nurses etc at urology
    clinics,despite the fact that men apply for these jobs.
  6. Visit  Karl Farmer profile page
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    And there are always patients looking for a reason to sue, and if they claim something happened, good luck proving your innocence. I worked LTC forEVER, and every day told male CNAs never to take care a female alone, to always work with another to dissuade any false allegations. Also, I don't think one person (male or female) should ever turn or transfer an old patient alone, in any case. It's just easier on everybody, prevents falls, complaints, back pain, etc.

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