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- Nov 5, '09 by nursel56Quote from cop2bnurse41I generally fall into the "less uptight" category because I know the difference between innocent banter and real cases of stalking and/or sexual harrassment. But, I think what you described as innocent fun around your co-workers butt was inappropriate because 1) in front of a doctor and a patient 2) referred to a body part associated with sexuality 3) you goosed your co-worker (actual contact) If you were out having drinks, at a party or something like that, no prob!! If the radio was in the chest pocket of her scrubs, would she have said, "Ha, you just wanted to touch my t*t " Then, you copped a feel, and said, "I would have done this if I wanted to touch your t*t!!"You are entitled to your opinion! Certain people will continue to perpetuate an environment thats is more difficult to work in that it needs to be, by being overly uptight and nitpicking every interaction between male and female co-works as something more then what they are.
This is why a double standard will contiue in the work place. I am sure that in your 20yrs of service at some point you have said something that could be taken out of context. Hopefully and thankfully for you the person it was directed at was "blazie" and took it with a grain of salt instead of getting all upset like some other people might get! Just a thought! :spin:
Point being, I've learned from sorry experience that people will laugh in front of you, then go home and compose an indignant blow-by-blow account of the antics to the CEO of the hospital. Guess what I'm trying to say is that it's better to stay on the safest side of the blurry line between flirtatious humor and dour, soulless drone.
- Dec 6, '09 by heelhook80do me and my guy friends laugh at how attractive some women are???? yes we do. Personally I'm married and try not to look at other people for their looks, and at the very least I won't comment on someones looks of course NEVER while at work whether they look like a supermodel or are the most unattractive person you have ever seen, that is not what I am at work for. I have a marriage, I'm there to help folks and earn a living doing something I can feel good about and utilize my education in the human body.
will I be judgmental if some women comment on how attractive someone is to their particular preference? NEVER, chances are I will laugh about it and appreciate their honest.
- Dec 23, '09 by daryl stephensI am an LVN I worked with a director of Home Health for several years. She would make comments to the male staff Like "Is their tallywacker the same as there shoe size these guy were between 6'0 and 6'4( I'm 6'0 235) shoe size 12-14 or she would ask them "How they like to get it" Mind you if she heard any other employee say anything about how sexy Denzel or Ricky Martin or Beounce or Fergi was she would call you in her office and say you were being inappropiate.
So it can be a double standard in my view. People did not report her because they feared for their jobs.
- Dec 23, '09 by rph3664A year or so ago, I was called into the manager's office and asked if I had observed a female technician, who was just out of high school, making inappropriate sexual remarks to some of the men in the department. I replied truthfully that I hadn't, and was told that more than one man had reported that she had done this. The men we usually worked with were single guys in their 20s, and she might have reacted differently to them than to middle-aged married men, which most of the guys we work with are - or older. I do not know exactly what she said or did.
In addition to being so young, she was also home-schooled until her senior year and her father is a registered sex offender; I don't know what he did but he does not live with her and her mom even though they are still married, so she might not have known appropriate boundaries.
I never heard any more about this, and she still works there and is actually a very good employee.
- Apr 28, '10 by WSteven1Although I am NOT a Nurse (but a Nursing & Allied Health Librarian) I could see how it might make some males uncomfortable. As a husband and father (three daughters and two stepdaughters) I have been around breastfeeding females for several years so it is not a big deal. That having been said, if it were to happen in our library, I would be inclined to get one of the female librarians to speak with the individual....just my $.02 worth.
- Apr 28, '10 by WSteven1I can also understand the 'boner' part. While my stepdaughter's breastfeeding might not bother me, the sight of my wife's naked breast would cause a 'rise in the Levis'...sorry ladies but that does have an effect on some men, myself included...just so you know!
- Apr 29, '10 by nursel56Quote from WSteven1Why? I'm not sure how your stepdaughters breastfeed (meaning how much skin they show, basically), but most of us who have breastfed our children put a blanket over the shoulder, and you would need to be really looking to be aware of it at all. I have never seen a woman make a big fuss and display in a public place about nursing her baby.Although I am NOT a Nurse (but a Nursing & Allied Health Librarian) I could see how it might make some males uncomfortable. As a husband and father (three daughters and two stepdaughters) I have been around breastfeeding females for several years so it is not a big deal. That having been said, if it were to happen in our library, I would be inclined to get one of the female librarians to speak with the individual....just my $.02 worth.
Quote from WSteven1This is because most normal adults can perceive a body part as sexual in one context, and that same body part no more sexual than an arm or leg in another context. This applies to men and women. Sometimes it's hard for the significant other of a healthcare worker to understand this. Every so often we get a post here from someone who's s/o adamantly rejects their decision to become a nurse because they fear that the prospective nurse will "be looking at guy's d---ks all day" or a man might do a procedure or treatment on a female patient.I can also understand the 'boner' part. While my stepdaughter's breastfeeding might not bother me, the sight of my wife's naked breast would cause a 'rise in the Levis'...sorry ladies but that does have an effect on some men, myself included...just so you know!
Believe me, WSteven, we women know boobs in a certain context have that effect on men, and it's especially heartening to see that your wife is still the one that provokes that particular "response". The young man who posted about "popping a boner" and running out of the room because co-workers are nursing their babies in a break room, in my view is just immature and inexperienced. Very, very rarely does a male nurse view females through a sexual prism, and if they do, they creep everybody out and they will not last long in nursing.
- Apr 29, '10 by vegas2009lol
Hey Nursel56, I thought some people NEVER get married because they're afraid they'll STOP having sex?Last edit by vegas2009 on Apr 29, '10
- Jun 29, '10 by BILLIE39Again we have to be careful about the parameters and boiundaries in which sexual harrassessment is faceted. What about female nurses who work in the ER or Correctional institutions where they may deal with the drunken male or the incarcarated male, who in the process of receiving care are more likely to be young males who are full of testosterone and bravado? I would like to know how the issue of sexual harrassessment is dealt with in non-traditional nursing settings.