Do women find male nurses attractive?

  1. Hi

    So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

    Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

    I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

    Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

    Regards - Sykadia
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  3. by   Wile E Coyote
    You're projecting your insecurities, amigo. Any lady worth knowing won't overlook you for being a nurse.
    Edit* Visit the 'men in nursing' section here to see that this question gets asked somewhat often. Usually it's young dudes like yourself that just need to experience life a bit more to feel comfortable in their chosen life.
    Last edit by Wile E Coyote on Aug 17, '16
  4. by   quazar
    I find intelligence, kindness, and a sense of humor attractive....regardless of profession.
  5. by   meanmaryjean
    Quote from Sykadia
    Hi

    So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

    Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

    I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

    Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

    Regards - Sykadia
    Could you please cite your source for this information?
  6. by   mystory
    I don't particularly find it attractive. It's not a deal breaker but it doesn't tickle my pickle either. I'm quite indifferent. I doubt most women have strong opinions about it, and I assume they lump it in a tier with other BA/BS middle class jobs like teaching. What women will strongly respond to, however, is any perceived insecurity.
  7. by   SnowShoeRN
    Actually anecdotally, over the course of my career, of every single male nurse I've ever worked with (probably about 2 dozen?) only one has ever been gay. I've found it much more likely to run into gay doctors or CNA's.

    Be that as it may, your original post kinda sounds like "Do women find men who work in a particular profession attractive?" The "right" woman isn't going to say "eww" and recoil if you tell her you work as a nurse. Generally people are attracted to who the person is, not what they do for a living. It's up to them to make any assumptions, but the less comfortable you are the more likely you are to come across as someone who is insecure. And *that* tends to be universally unattractive.

    One of the reasons I was attracted to nursing in the first place was because I was excited to break the paradigm and question stereotypes I (and others I knew) held in regards to nursing. I had a shaved head and a girlfriend when I started nursing school and was proud to be unique among my peers.

    As is the case with every profession, nurses come in all shapes, sizes, and flavors. I've worked with nurses who: rode motorcycles, were ballerinas, had side businesses at a vineyard, had side businesses as tatoo artists, traveled to all 7 continents, had never left their hometowns, had 8 kids, had no kids, survived cancer, survived 5 miscarriages, had their wives leave them, raised foster animals, were LDS, were atheist, etc. As you get further along in your education and career you too will come to realize that there is no set mold that defines a nurse. And I imagine you will consequently become more confident with yourself as well.

    Best of luck.
  8. by   Sour Lemon
    Some of the male nurses I know are gay, but most are not. Males in nursing are not even interesting or remarkable these days because there are so many of them.
  9. by   Horseshoe
    A woman who is not attracted to you would probably say it has nothing to do with your profession, and everything to do with your insecurity and lack of confidence.
  10. by   roser13
    Quote from Sykadia
    Hi

    So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

    Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

    I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

    Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

    Regards - Sykadia
    Are you seriously asking females if they "like" a man taking care of them?? As in being attracted to a manly nurse? (Which, by the way, has no place in the discussion of appropriate nursing care.)

    In my opinion, male nurses put way too much thought into their gender/genitalia.
    Last edit by roser13 on Aug 17, '16
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Seriously????

    I am married to a non-nurse and overjoyed at it. I don't eat where I poop. I think you are way insecure and too worried about the wrong things.

    I am attracted to men who are confident, caring, compassionate and masculine. Being a male nurse does not make a man "special" to me in any way.
  12. by   pixierose
    Oh my, I can't get past "the ones that aren't ... are often gay."

    Well. Thank goodness I married one of those rare, heterosexual nurses !

    I think you're just meeting the wrong women. The right one wouldn't give a darn, and why would she?
  13. by   NightNerd
    This is kind of a ridiculous question. If you want to know if women find male nurses attractive, you need to tell the women you're talking to and find out the hard way. However, any man who initially lied to me about his career choice would be throwing down all kinds of red flags from the get-go.
  14. by   Wile E Coyote
    ^^^These replies are a part of why men "bottle it up" folks.

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