Quote from Larry77
I would think it wouldn't be anybodies business if your partner is HIV positive. Why would they need to know? To say that you are at "relatively high risk" I think is a slight understatement however. If you are sexually active with an HIV positive person it would be hard to get at any higher risk (maybe sharing needles.)
I simply cannot understand why you would be putting yourself in this situation. You seem to be planning for a life with HIV simply because your partner is positive. I have known couples in a similar predicament as you, but they were not sexually active because the risk is just too high.
Become a nurse and do not plan on becoming a nurse with HIV unless you already are positive. Then for me, it is not anyone's business what my medical history is. If you are using standard precautions the risk to your patients is almost unmeasurable.
You are so wrong on so many levels I don't know where to begin,this is the stuff that continues the stigma,being sexually active with an HIV+ person does not automatically put you at high risk.You have no idea what precautions they are taking,the use of condoms and latex dental dams will prevent the spread of HIV,I know of many couples where one person is pos and the other neg who have been together for years and having sex without problems.
As to why the OP would be putting his/her self in this position,it's probably the same reason anybody falls in love with another person.Or maybe they were together before the person found out about being HIV+.Remember you can be pos for years without any symptoms so unless you get tested regularly you don't know for sure.
I was diagnosed with AIDS over four years ago and it has not stopped my yet,I have dated men who are negative and it has not been a problem they are always aware of my dx and if we end up having sex we use the proper precautions no one has gotten HIV from me.
Please take the time to read up about the disease,make sure the info you have is up to date,and if you have any questions PM me.