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Personally I get it however, I feel you come across rude and angry. I hope that you are just venting here and this is not your work attitude. If it is, I don't want you anywhere near my family.
Im really into the health field so im doing a little research in that area incase Nursing doesn't work out.There is a demand for Medical Lab Technologists in my state and the pay isn't that bad.It makes no sense to pursue something that is not in demand.I know a school that has a BS program that is not too expensive.The thing is,im not sure how I would handle working with bodily fluids and sitting in a lab all day when I prefer to "look pretty" lol.I know I would deal with not so pretty stuff as a Nurse,but atleast I'll still get to wear makeup and won't be stuck in a lab for 8 hours a day.This may sound like a silly question,but I had to ask .Does anyone know anything about the field? Do you have to wear a protective head cap aswell ? Im the girly girl type.Does this career sound suitable for me ?
I would most definitely not show up at that salon again for any reason. If you wish to keep in touch with your former co-workers, there is email and telephones. And, maybe an explanation of some of the horrid conditions you endured may clarify for your employer WHY contacting them may not be a wise idea.
In the future, see if any of the stylists would be willing to write you a reference letter. It doesn't have to be sent to the old salon...it can be sent to any place that stylist wishes it to be sent, and also, they can contact the stylist via home or cell phone. The potential employer does NOT have to call that shop.
So sorry you went through this, and pray for better days ahead.
I also would try not to wear my nursing uniform if I had to take public transportation or if you have to walk too far from your car to the facility. Many of the 'gangsta' folks I know really believe that nurses make great money or carry drugs. Or, believe it or not, you can be approached to do strange things.
I work in a city hospital clinic that deals with Medicaid patients, and unfortunately, many of our patients are the type that come in wearing expensive clothing, which we can tell that they sell drugs, or just have dirty dealings in general. Once, while walking to the hospital lunchroom, a patient approached me and offered me money to get ahold of narcartic prescription pads. He wasn't that friendly when I told him, no, either, but, I gracefully pulled away, saying that all of them are numbered and would be immediately traced.
Another time, just when I was about to leave the facility, a person in a three pieced suit came to me and said that he had not been at work for close to a week, and that he needed a note with 'any hospital letterhead' saying that he was being treated there. Only medical records releases that sort of information, I told him. He says "Well, the issue is, I was never treated here, but if I go back to work tomorrow with no note, I will be suspended without pay". I told him that no licensed person would say that they treated someone who actually did not. Then, he asks me if there is another 'more cooperative nurse' around. The nerve of people, really.
It breaks my heart to see how nursing has broken down. Sometimes, I suspect it is managed care, new insurance rules, remodeling the physical structure of the hospital, etc...
I watched my grandmother, who was a supervising RN of the OR work. The CNAs and nurses were a team. I remember when I used to work in psych and would bring my patients to the current hospital I now work in as a chaparone. My mother worked as a CNA in some of the same clinics I currently work at as an LPN. I remember meeting these nurses, and I noted that they ALL pitched in to help each other and the CNAs. I remember sitting and chaparoning psych patients on the med-surg unit and I saw the nurses who had MORE patients than now gather together with the CNAs for bedmaking and bathing. CNAs knew how to do simple dressings, would let the nurses know if the IV was running out. Some even knew how to change normal saline bags for the nurses. LPNs were not considered to be 'less than' as much. The team nursing model had more successful outcomes to me than this primary nurse model. And, I also noted that NO ONE went home physically or mentally tired, unless the day just went BANANAS!
Nursing staff had productive lives, then. Even the ones that work evenings and nights. No exhaustion to the point of neglect of their homes, families, etc... Now, with all of this charting ridiculous crap, computers timing how long it takes a poor nurse to care for patients, more cut throating,etc, the stress has hit it's all time high.
I remembered wanting to work in my hospital. I already knew everyone, because they watched me grow up. Now, only a few people that remember us are there, and sometimes, I feel that the minute I walked through the door was when I noted a decline in the morale of the nurses and patient care.
Nostalgic? Yes, I am. So, I do understand.
I am happy to see another allnurses success story where this site has provided support and positive energy to a member to succeed. I suspect that part of the challenge of the previous programs were probably the way the information was presented. Some professors have a knack of presenting even the most difficult and boring concepts, making them fun, or allowing you to see the relevance. You probably have an excellent foundation for the RN program, now. Best of luck to you and again, Congratulations!
Not sure, but when you work with a phenomenal team, that can outbeat alot of the negativity. But, for me, if my work atmosphere is calmer, I am a better person. Volunteering may be a good idea. Or maybe you just miss the people. Invite them for an outing, share some stories. Just talking to them may make you feel that you made the better decision to leave.
I'm not comfortable agreeing or disagreeing with sensitive issues like politics and religion, because even if we 'agree', sometimes, this leads to a patient thinking that they have an ally in their entire hospital stay...preferential treatment such as extra attention, etc... I had that happen to me once years ago. A patient and I agreed with many metaphysical ideas. Well, her attitude was no longer that way after that! Demanding that she should be seen first, wanting to dominate the time I spent with her, asking for special favors, etc... No more.
I tell them as kindly as possible that those subjects are off limits and that is it. I'd rather remain neutral.
I have seen it done in my clinic...shouting out the weight of obese people. Do you REALLY think that patient wants everyone in sight to know they are 400lbs? Even though I am not overweight, it cringes me when I see it happen. And, when I see it happening at my own place of work, I immediately tell the aide this is inappropriate.
Actually, I prefer Mosby's better than either of them (have all three). Too bad that wasn't added to your choices.
Things happen. I would call and sincerely apologise, while stating that you know that this set staffing in a tailspin. Most times, if you are perceived as a reliable person, you're forgiven.
Are YOU okay, now...that is the question. Have you settled your situation? Are you calmer, and have you rested? Hope things get better.
I would take the mentorship, because any additional help is advantageous for a new RN, but I also believe I would have asked for a meeting with some of the people that complained. It can be done without anger on your part. Express your confusion, ask for constructive criticism and explain yourself without being defensive or hostile, but to be open to listen. I don't see anything wrong with saying to your unit manager "I really thought about our conversation last night, and it disturbed me a bit because I am trying hard to be an efficient nurse, and was unaware that my honest attempts to be so may have been misperceived. I'd like a chance to explain myself, if possible".
I am the sort of person who likes to grab the bull by the horns. If I feel uncomfortable, I can't rest until it is addressed somehow. I am also open to listen and try to understand how people perceive my actions, because while I believe I project one image, it may actually come across as something else unintentional.
Best of luck!
Best of luck to you!
Last year, I went to a convention. Had breakfast with a woman who had a truly elegant name. It was something like Veronica Lake or Atwater. Just went well together. I told her that her name was beautiful and it suited her.
Her reply: My Mama gave me a white girl's name and I hated it growing up. Then she looked at me and went "oops, didn't mean that the way it sounded". I'm white, she's black, and it never fails to amaze how different Americans and Canadians are despite living on the same continent.
I never thought of black v. white names. We get all sorts of made up names up here. People wanting to celebrate various ethnic heritages. I do remember the "Roots" era fad for bizarre names. But then I live in a province where the surnames "Running Buffalo, Yellowbird, and I kid you not Ugly Old Woman" are common. I mean how would you like to go through life as Mrs. Ugly Old Woman???
There's a mentality of "I can do whatever I want and nobody should judge me for it." Which is great, but well, there's reality. If you have 50 piercings and a tattoo on your face, getting a job in an uptight attorney's office probably won't go too well. If you name your kid with a "-" in the middle of it, don't get mad when people don't realize that it's not a silent "-" but you're actually supposed to say "dash" in the middle of the name.
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