pagandeva2000 22,447 Views
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I tend to check 'do not contact'. Things can get very dicey when they know for a fact that you are looking for something else. Sometimes, supervisors take it personally, some are upset because they worry about who to hire to take your place, sometimes, additional responsibilities are assigned to workers that they trust because they know that particular employee is efficient...many reasons.
I have seen it happen more than enough times to other people that it is best to be as discrete as possible with the current employer.
You guys are going to make me call my husband...LOL! I remember when I first laid eyes on him. I was a psych tech working evenings and he was making rounds. I said to myself "WoW...what a handsome man!!". Never thought for a moment that he would be interested in me, because he is so low keyed and soft spoken at work. He always smelled good, has a wonderful smile...Awww, this thread is making me sentimental! Get your man!!
While it shows good sportsmanship to call the charge nurse to share concerns, many times, you still don't know what you are getting into until you are actually there and are no longer in a position to turn around, because it will be perceived as you 'accepted the assignment'. Hate to say it, but at my hospital many (not ALL, but MANY) of the senior nurses are witches who prey and dump on the agency or floaters. As mentioned, it is TOO much to look up and recall in the case of any emergency. And, a frazzled nurse=deadly nurse.
I have also heard that if a physician is treating a patient in his private office, that he can refuse to continue treatment as long as he notifies them in advance and allow them the chance to find another provider. Hospitals-not sure, but I suspect it would not go over very well.
As previously mentioned, you WILL hear plenty of practitioners vent and say similar things if not worse, but go in with a different tune. And, don't be surprized if you do it yourself occasionally. There are some patients that will just not comply and there are plenty of them who will just LIE....yes, LIE.
Here is an example: I work in the OB/GYN clinic at my hospital. Nurses do a great deal of teaching, of course, and we provide them with anticipatory guidance on what to expect each trimester-you know...danger signs, fetal movement, early labor, etc... Now, our facility is empathsizing breast feeding teaching and offering our Lamaze classes...which we introduce in the 2nd trimester. I worked the high risk clinic with a woman pregnant with twins. Most of our high risk patients are seen every two weeks. I gave her literature and discussed in great depth about the risks of twin pregnancies, benefits of breast feeding, positioning twins for breast feeding, etc... even got her into the Lamaze classes earlier than the 27 weeks as per policy, and asked the Lamaze instructor (who is a lactation consultant) to take extra time with teaching breastfeeding with her twins. She reported to someone that I did not provide ANY teaching for pre-term labor or breastfeeding. Looked me in the eye and told me I didn't. Yes, when the patient left, I certainly did say some not nice stuff. But, I would have to still treat her. I understand how the doctor felt. I think he was just venting.
It is true that a bridge was burned, and sometimes, facilities retailiate by making up lies. But, you did what you felt you had to do. I know you did not mean to burn that bridge, but nothing can be done now-we can't undo the past. I am the sort of person that thinks of worst case scenerios, imagine what I may have to do if this happens and keep a plan of action just in case. I don't mean to wallow in this forever, just to face that fact that it has the possibility of becoming a tit for tat issue.
Somehow, though, I doubt that would happen, if they already lost a director of nursing and 8 nurses within a few weeks. Take it as you walked onto Noah's Ark with the rest of them into safety.
If your boss is giving you an opportunity to transfer, leave on the first thing smoking. It could be that this is a toxic unit, or it just is not a good fit for YOU. Write ups are sometimes subjective...unfortunately. One supervisor may think you are the best thing since sliced bread, while another may think you are a nightmare. Take your chances with a new unit and see what develops.
I met my husband at my job, and now, we have been blissfully married for 11 years. He is my absolute soul mate. Each time I look at his gentle smile, when he holds me with those protective arms, I KNOW I made the right decision. I have never been happier with another man.
However, I also know that on the job relationships can get dicey, especially if you two work in the same department (not the case for my husband and I-we also work different shifts, now). And, I have been burned from previous on the job romances to the point that I was sincerely uncomfortable even hearing his name.
You say that you love your job. And, it seems that this is not a fling...that both of you are taking great pains to get to know each other. Sometimes, life is about taking chances. For what it is worth, I would just have a discussion with him about worst case scenerios and say that no matter what happens, let's be mature and discrete about it and take love when it knocks on your door.
I can understand it. If you have not touched pediatrics since school, it may not be safe. Doses of meds have to be calculated, not recognizing signs and symptoms from a patient that may not be able to communicate with you...the list is endless. I would have been intimidated and would have probably said no, also.
I work in Ambulatory Care (clinics) at my hospital. I have not been oriented to the pediatric clinic. They have a boatload of vaccinations that they have to receive, of course. Once I floated to one of our off-sites with my nursing supervisor; I worked medical and OB, she did peds. It was awful busy for her, so, I offered to ASSIST and said to her that I wanted for her to coach me along, because who knows? One day, I may be transferred to pediatrics. Now, it would not be a choice of mine, but, I told her that I wanted to feel/practice safely. She did come with me, and thank goodness. I would have been confused on which vaccination to give based on age, etc... Totally different considerations. And, you may not know what you'll experience once you actually go to that unit. You may have worked with some witches who dumped everything on you, not assist, etc... I would not have taken the chance either. But, I would sure ask for an orientation there since it seems that they are indiscriminate on where they will float you.
Thank you all for your kind expressions of sympathy. While I did ask for your opinions-I am feeling totally judged. To the person who told me to consider putting my child first instead of myself: Please come walk a few days in my shoes. I firmly believe that you must take care of yourself before you can take care of others. What good am I if I sit home depressed all day everyday? I feel that some of you (most of you) get the impression that my son is not my priority. Honestly, when it comes down to it I don't care what anyone thinks or assumes-no one can truly understand my situation. I just wonder if my friends and family who seem so supportive are really thinking these things in the back of their heads.
Thanks for the answers and I know my personality probably has a lot to do with it. I'm not a partier so I really won't have to worry about that kind of thing. As far as condemning them too quick? I don't think I've done that either since I've been friends with them for the past three years in pre-reqs, so I definetely know how they are for the most part. It doesn't shock me and I really don't care for study groups much anyway because I like my own style and method of things (probably too picky if you've noticed) lol.
The only reason it rubbed me the wrong way as someone else said is because I'm in NYC, getting into a nursing program is competitive and I know plenty of people who would probably have the first 3 chapters of every book read before class just to have a chance. There are also a good number of older students in our program who took it all very seriously, so I dunno, maybe I'm just much older than I need to be LOL.
I agree with the poster that suggested LTC to get your feet wet. As mentioned, they are more stable. But, before you even do that, see if there is another RN that will be available for you to lean on, because from what I have seen when I worked as an aide at a nursing home was that the evening and night shifts only had one RN supervisor...the rest of the nurses were LPNs. You would definitely be the 'go to' person if a patient goes south.
Agencies have no concern about our licenses. They are only interested in maintaining their contracts and sending warm bodies for their cut.
I feel like I am going to graduate with a "knowledge deficit" diagnosis. I do study but it is just so hard to remember things by heart. I thought when you learn something in the first year of nursing school it is going to be the same thing in the 3rd year of nursing. I don't know who is right, the 1st ,the 2nd or the 3rd year instructors ...they all provide different info. I get so confused.
I have met many people like this. And, while it is disappointing, don't let it slow your stride. Also, there are people who give themselves a few days before applying themselves fully to the grind. It is Labor Day weekend, the last 'official' weekend of summer, and some folks probably just want to let loose one last time.
You'll see who is for what very early when classes begin. And while study groups can be great, don't completely depend on them. Some people arrive to study groups just to take, having no contribution at all. You'll see early, too, as time goes on-who is playing games and who is not.
You sound like you will be a dedicated, orderly student and that is great, because believe me, you will need this in the nursing program.
If you are passing, then, try and stick with it. And, if none of the professors are specifically targeting you, then, even better.
I hated nursing school, also. For me, it was a nightmare that I have no intention of visiting again. But, I played their game, stayed to myself and got the heck out of there.
People who enter nursing for the money are weeded out in the clinical courses.
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