weirdRN 3,373 Views
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Have you ever looked into the eyes of an expecting mother that has decided to have an abortion? Eyes exhausted from crying over days of tumultuous debate regarding the fate of her child. Tired eyes that reveal how long and hard she has struggled with this decision every hour of every day and often every hour of tortured sleep at nite. A decision neither right nor wrong but one whose burden she will carry with her every day for the rest of her life.
She has come to you to carry out this decision.
You begin her ultrasound and turn the monitor toward her face. She looks into your eyes, attempting to avoid the screen. With pleading eyes she softly requests that you turn it away. You gently explain that this is not possible. Her focus shifts. A single image, seen only for a split second, is burned into the depths of her memory. The image of her unborn child - perfect and defenseless. No longer able to contain herself, she turns away as tears stream out her tightly closed eyes. She shudders slightly and cries in silence. Between her labored breathing, you hear her whisper a prayer for her child and a plea for forgiveness.
She is steadfast with her decision and chooses to proceed. She is not dissuaded but her burden is a little heavier, the scar a little deeper. She will carry this image of her child with her always. A picture worth a thousand words of the perfect life she could not keep.
I sometimes wonder if my hospital isn't happy to have the senior staff burn out and leave. They are the ones with chronic health problems driving up the sick leave cost and insurance rates, they get top pay scale and have the most vacation hours. Senior nurses also have a better chance of recalling when the health care system was in better shape and gripe about the lack of resources available now- that brings everyones expectations up. I honestly don't feel in todays market, many hospitals see QUIALITY nursing care as an asset they can't live without. Adequate or minimal to meet JCAHO standards of care is all they can strive for. More nursing care than that, including experienced staff, is something they can't afford.
IMHO, maybe what they really mean by 'compassion fatique' is that the management is sick of caring about (having any compassion for) the nursing and ancillary staff.
Programs for Nurses to Combat "Compassion Fatigue
Well, I've always believed that if a person cannot care for themselves, how in the heck can they be expected to care for others!
I am guilty of this.
When I first started Nursing many years ago, I always worked through my breaks and lunches, stayed OT and picked up shifts because the facility was desperate. "Hey everyone, look at me, Martyr Mary! Look how hard I work. Look how dedicated I am! I will even let my health and personal life suffer for YOU"
I was naive.
I thought my co-workers and employers would have more respect for me. Pretty much the opposite happened and I soon realized I was a door-mat. I quickly learned that few people respect a person that cannot take care of and stand up for themselves.
I now take care of ME first! No, it is not selfish. It is my life and I only get one crack at it.
I am so much healthier and happier.
Who has time for this? No matter how well we're staffed, the constant demands of new policies, ever-increasing documentation, constantly changing equipment, physicians who pop up at the most inopportune moments, and most of all, the hordes of telephoning, callbell-light ringing, hallway stalking, bedside-vigiling family and friends who come and stay and stay and never go away, makes it a luxury to spend two minutes in the bathroom attending to the most elemental needs. /The whole patient-care model needs a serious restructuring, starting with deciding to let the nurses nurse and not hostess. But what administration cares enough to do that? Especially if their competitors won't do it first?
Interesting...hospitals creating programs for nurses to help them combat compassion fatigue...How about lets get ENOUGH staffing so the nurses can do the kind of job they were educated to do and ENOUGH staffing so breaks and lunches can be taken routinely; and lets get enough supplies stocked so the nurses do not have to run around finding what they need to do their job; and lets get enough secretaries to do the phone answering and clerical duties;and let's not forget to give compassion classes to managers, doctors and administrators so they will treat the BEDSIDE NURSES WITH THE RESPECT AND COMPASSION THEY DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH!
I'll just say if I didn't get paid I damn sure wouldn't come in to work.
Due process is following the law as laid out by the government and in this circumstance it is probably following the policy and procedures of this facility along with the contract this person had signed.
Some circumstances in nursing would be excessive call offs, not following policy and procedure and all of these would not be first offenses. Generally a verbal warning is first, then a written then possibly time off without pay then firing.
I would guess that the nurse commenting "due process" about someone being fired it would be about a known non compliant employee and that firing is expected by co-workers.
What a croc!! Sorry for the pun, but we have a nationwide nursing shortage, burnout at an all time high, decreasing positions available for nursing students, a healthcare system that is dangerously at the brink of imploding......and administrations everywhere are wanting nurses to wear white so the patients know they are nurses, infection control is banning the most comfortable shoes ever made, nurses having to wear sensors so admin can know how often they go to the bathroom.....and we wonder why there are problems.
Beam me up Scotty, there is no sign of intelligent life down here!:angryfire
I did it! I did it! I did it! And it went GREAT! We had breakfast this morning after shift! OmG! OmG! OmG!......
I am still smiling and still breathless....Guess we'll see...
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