emsboss 4,567 Views
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You can if you maintain a permanent residence in AK that you don't rent out and "return to regularly" in the words of the IRS. It is too much work for most people to depreciate vehicles and use actual costs for deductions, and those that do usually have a tax person do it (and pay them extra). You will also have to separate your work related use from your personal use - a difficult task with actual expenses. It is far easier to just use the IRS rate (currently 56.5 cents a mile and includes depreciation) to figure miles between home and assignment, and commute miles from assignment housing to assignment facility. You can also expense actual housing costs, and use the GSA per diem tables for a daily M&IE. From all of these numbers, you have to subtract tax-free allowances or stipends from your agency.
It is better if at all possible to take the maximum tax-free allowances and lower your taxable hourly from agencies. If you try to deduct expenses instead at the end of the year, you will run up against a number of filing thresholds and are unlikely to come out ahead.
So you are NOT a Nurse? And you came to an ALLnurses board for what? An opinion we can't possibly give correctly?
Nurses are called professionals, expected to act like professionals, but are treated like a commodity. More like factory workers than professionals.
She needs to act like a professional, not a b****.
The parent should be referred to the primary physician. This is between the parent and the MD. Chart the request and the referral.
the best dept is the one that gives you moral support and encourages you to learn.
Doesn't sound like the best time to start it right now. If your job isn't mandating it by a certain time, why not give yourself some time off and enjoy your family? There is plenty of time to finish the BSN; you are already an RN.
The kids will only be little for a short time, now is the time for them. My son turned 20 today, I only have one teen left at home... and finished my master's last year. Nothing says there is a time or age limit on going back to school!
Your mental health is more important than the degree, and your family (at least mine is) the most important thing in life.
I wish I had a dollar for every post I've read claiming that "nurses are so mean," "nurses are nasty to each other," "nurses eat their young" or "my preceptor is picking on me for no good reason." And then if you add in all the nurses who are "fired for NO reason" or is hated by their co-workers because they're so much younger and more beautiful than everyone around them or just can't get along with their colleagues no matter what they do -- well, I'd be a rich woman. I could retire to Tahiti and lounge on the beach sipping margaritas and eating bon bons. Or whatever. You catch my drift.
I'm beginning to believe that the nurses, nursing students, new grads and CNAs who claim that everyone is being mean to them are revealing far more about their own charactor than they are about the people around them.
It's usually pretty much a pattern -- someone who is new to nursing, new to a specialty or new to a job posts a plaintive lament about how everyone they work with is just so MEAN. Often times, when the poster goes on to describe the situation, it's just that they had a negative interaction with one nurse -- and often just that one time. It's as if no one is allowed to have a bad day. There are no allowances made for the colleague who may be a bit brusque because they've been up all night with a cranky baby or a wandering parent with dementia or their dog just died or even -- heaven forbid -- they're weary of answering that same question over and over without any learning occurring.
People have bad days. It's just one of those things. We cannot all call in sick every time we've had to stay up all night with a child or parent, put the dog to sleep or take antihistamines. We can't all not come to work every time the sewer backs up, the roof leaks or the car won't start. Some of us on any given day have worries and responsibilities outside the job. If you happen to encounter a colleague on the day she discovered her husband was cheating on her, her child crashed another car or the space heater fried a whole circuit they might just be rude to you. They probably don't mean it, possibly don't even realize they WERE rude to you. Cut them some slack. Even preceptors have really bad days when nothing goes right. If you're looking for nurses eating their young or being mean and nasty to their co-workers, you'll find them. Whether or not they actually ARE young-eaters or mean nurses.
Another common theme is a poster complaining about how mean her new co-workers are to her. She's never done anything to deserve it, she's always been pleasant and helpful and she thinks (or someone has told her) that they're picking on her because they are just so jealous of her relative youth and beauty. I'm suggesting that if that's what you believe -- that you're perfect, but your co-workers are jealous of your youth and beauty -- you ought to perhaps look a little deeper. Much of the time, there will be another reason that you're not getting along with the people at work. Perhaps you're not being as friendly and helpful as you think. Perhaps you're not carrying your full share of the work load, or aren't learning despite asking the same questions over and over or are rude to people you percieve as "old dogs who ought to retire" or "ugly old hags."
If you're writing in to complain that "mean people follow me everywhere" and "I've had five jobs since I graduated six months ago, and my preceptors have all been nasty" or "nurses eat their young and I know that because I'm always being eaten," stop and think for a minute. If the same problem follows you everywhere you go, it may not be them. There's a good chance that it's YOU. You can change jobs as many times as you like, but everywhere you go, there you are. Since the only person you can change is YOU, stop and think about what you might be doing to contribute to your problems. A little self-assessment and introspection can only be a good thing.
I wish the phrase "nurses eat their young" had never been coined. Thirty some years ago when I was a new grad, the phrase hadn't yet been coined. When I had problems with my co-workers, I could only look at my own behavior. I was young, fresh off the farm and totally unprepared for my new job as a nurse. When I grew up and learned more, my co-workers became muchy nicer people. While I know that lateral violence does exist, I don't think it exists to the point that some people seem to think it does. Or to the degree that a regular reader of allnurses.com could believe it does. Every time you have a negative interaction with a co-worker, it's not necessarily lateral violence. It could very well be that someone is having a very, very bad day. Or week. Or it could be that rather than your co-workers being jealous of your extreme good looks, you're regularly doing something really stupid or thoughtless that irritates or annoys them. Quite possibly, the problem is you. Maybe you're not studying enough, learning enough, understanding enough or doing enough. Certainly if you're always having the same problems over and over again, everywhere you go, the problem IS you.
The only person you can "fix" is you. I really, really wish that people would at least consider the possibility that they are part of the problem before they scream that "nurses eat their young."
I see docs try it with females. As a male, at 6'0" and 250lbs of line backer build, they usually yell over the phone, look for me the next day, and then call me by my first name. I always repeat what they say that is inappropriate, so they hear what they are saying.
Too many women take this, and they need to stop. I notice docs yell less when you have male nurses there, it's like they are afraid to step out of line when a male is there.
I would hope that a group of girls can let that Doc know whats what also.
That would be a definite NO.
Some people are just not cut out to be a nurse. I happen to love it very much and would not want to do anything else.
I'm sure that it felt like a slap in the face to be presented with the article by your preceptor. However, it may be a bit like having her point out you have a little something stuck in your teeth...kind of embarassing at the time, but it's kind of nice she thought enough of you to say something...
I think she really IS trying to help. Think of it from her perspective...she wasn't sure how to approach the issue, but she wants you to succeed. She could have ignored it, she could have been snide, she could have given you a "talk" that would have been embarassing for you both. Instead she opted for the article.
I find that all of the listed points are things that I do at job interviews/in my professional interactions to present a professional demeanor. However, I don't consider it phony because it's just a part of what I see as my professional personality (though I also introduce myself, have a great handshake, and am courteous when I meet someone at the bar too!)
I'll tell you it is a tough, TOUGH job market, and you'll need every edge you can get. The reason they write these tips down is because we all need reminders, and we all have room for improvement.
Take her advice in the spirit in which it was given.
Just my opinion,
That's exactly what it is, a privilege.
There have been many times in my career when I wished it away.
I wished I didn't know so much, didn't see so much, didn't care so much.
In the end, no matter how hard it was, I wanted to be there.
To be there for the woman no one ever visited...
sit in her room & do my charting through out the night.....
when she called out for a loved one,
hold her hand when she reached...
looking for a connection....
A connection now broken, by time or circumstance....
I don't know why she's alone, perhaps she's all that's left of a family now gone. Maybe there's been an un-mended hurt that's gotten in the way....time & wrongs...whether real or imagined, can leave a soul, alone & frightened, dying with no one to care, no one to say "I love you"...that one last time.
I may not be Charlotte or Mark.
I may not be "sister" or" beloved spouse."
I'm may not be the one she's searching for......
And I thank God for this blessing,
for this privilege.
I thank God for giving me the opportunity to be able to say......
despite all the venting we nurses do, nursing really is such a privilege.
Munchausen's is horrible, but Munchausen's by proxy folks have a special place in hell reserved for them.
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