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    I just had a "friend" with an untreated long term OCD/anxiety disorder visit me...she was supposed to stay for 3 weeks with her husband but we have asked her to go home early.

    I know, that sounds rude, but she needed to return to her "comfort" area (which is NOT Alaska) before she imploded and we all killed ourselves. It is sad...she is suffering and her behavior is designed to make those around her suffer...that is part of her manifestation.

    She is too ill to accept that she needs help, and too ill to spend too much time outside of her home, control is a huge issue for her. When she is engaged in her illness she is verbally critical, judgmental, and argumentative...nothing makes her happy and most things make her unhappy. It made her angry during her visit that I would drink my beer too slowly and it would get warm before I was done, it took me 3 days to figure out what I was doing to "make" her angry.

    For 40 years her DH and children have allowed her "needs" to run their household without medical intervention...I do not cater to her fears. This was an "uncomfortable" visit for all as I corrected her rude behavior and indifferent ID behavior when it occurred...this is MY HOME...I deeply wish that she would seek help as she is suffering and could most likely have a much happier life. She is NOT the same person I befriended decades ago, her mental health has deteriorated considerably. Now I understand why she stays in her home most of the time and I wish she had not asked to come visit!

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    herring_RN likes this.

    Quote from StNeotser
    I won't hold my breath. No doubt corporate "citizens" will put a stop to this.
    they will certainly spend lots of $$ to try anyway...

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    Elvish likes this.

    I wonder as well.

    My daughter posted something on FB a bit back... a piece about keeping the American public in fear relative to arming themselves.
    I thought it was a bit crazy and conspiratorial (is that a word?) but my SIL is very right wing, pro NRA while my DD is not so much...I never know what I will hear from them...LOL.

    We are gun people and, therefore, we know bunches of gun people.
    My husband was responsible for the building of one of the nicest indoor gun ranges in SW Michigan. He ran several competitions for all sort of weapons at the indoor and outdoor ranges. It was great fun and we met tons of terrific people.
    We also met many people who were, well, different...and sometimes a bit scary.

    Let's just say the Michigan Militia is alive and well, across the state apparently.
    As well as some "gun enthusiasts" who live very peripherally in our society.

    I wonder what the people who are "hoarding" guns and ammunition are in fear of? My faith encourages me to NOT live in fear as living in fear is NOT living in faith.

    Yes we are to be watchful, yes we are to be prepared...but what are they preparing for?

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    herring_RN and TopazLover like this.

    A transgendered lifestyle cannot be an easy life, although I hope it is one that can be filled with the joys and blessings of a more "conventional" heterosexual life.

    In this regard, the depth of difficulty, sorrow, pain, scorn, etc that is experienced with transgender lifestyle would suggest that it is NOT a choice, at least not in the way we would choose a career, for example. Instead, it is something the person is compelled to pursue as part of their personal contentment in life.

    It is not anti-social.
    It is not hateful.
    It is not an exclusive club (ie: "you can't belong because you are "too black", or "too female", or "too male", or "too Christian"). You may socialize with them if you will.
    It is not judgmental...although some will judge you if you judge them.

    On a civil level, there has to be a way for transgenders to live amongst us in a free and unencumbered way. They do not require special rights, they just require equal rights.

    We will never end individual bigotry and racism and hatred in this country. I have my own individual issues, as each of us do. Figuring out how to minimize our community level bigotry, bias, and fear is the hard part, IMHO

    There will, for some time, be women who will be uncomfortable if they KNEW that a transgendered male was using her bathroom/locker room at the same time. It is not necessary that she/they know. Not their business. That transgendered male is NOT there to look at their/her butt! He/she is there to preserve their own sense of modesty and "correctness".

    The more I think through this (on quiet reflecting vacations into the wilds of Alaska), I know that our civil society must evolve to include these personal freedoms.

    On a philosophical note, how could we possibly accept alien visitors and their values when we cannot even accept other occupants of our own planet?

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    Quote from azhiker96
    Wow, that is amazing! I'm guessing there is personal knowledge of someone in this situation. From my search, it's not the norm.

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    right...too near a school, and there was something else, just the same...

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    Mutiny on the Bounty

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    I watch the Daily Show regularly but have never seen those...funny.

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    Luckyyou likes this.

    Personally, I hope you decide against nursing school...

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    VivaLasViejas and herring_RN like this.

    Quote from Orlette
    So you think he is already breaking professional boundaries and policies by talking to me over professional email about irrelevant stuff and photos?



    I don't think so, I think he'd never contact me first if I didn't send him an email after he finalized my prescription..

    It is clear that you do not see the professional boundary issue for your physician "friend". It is also clear that you are not interested in the cautions of wiser older women, many of whom have walked a similar path.

    I suspect that you will learn a lesson as this "relationship" progresses and then becomes a place of sorrow for you.

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    Baubo516 and VivaLasViejas like this.

    Today the song is "Landslide" by Fleetwood Mac

    ...children get older, I'm getting older too...

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    Turn in your resignation and walk away...

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    SuesquatchRN likes this.

    Hospice Admission nurses generally see the patients and families once, for SOC. So beyond that visit there is no ongoing relationship. Some nurses find that a draw back, others see it as an advantage.

    In my experience those jobs are generally 8-5 jobs that include weekend rotations. Many big hospices will provide admissions "afterhours" so there may be second shifts for admissions.

    Admissions are generally very time consuming and very detail oriented with an abundance of documentation and duties that MUST be completed in a very timely manner.

    Good luck.

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    Consider doing some volunteer work for the hospice you are wooing.
    That will expose you to the patients and the philosophy.
    Get a copy of the algorithms and support texts that the hospice uses for the staff education and become familiar with them.
    Do you know if that hospice cares for children? If not, your skill set may allow them to offer that service in the near future?

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    herring_RN and TopazLover like this.

    True that, not everyone will make such a huge commitment...

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    Back from the "outback" of Alaska. My DH has great fish stories from his boat trip up the Yukon to the Charlie River!
    The mosquitoes were vicious...our first night in the cabin was miserable until we perfected our "screen" door...then it was paradise!
    I found no gold, sigh...but had a ton of fun!


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