LaneyB 5,451 Views
Joined Dec 9, '08.
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I would avoid becoming involved in this situation. She may have been fb friends with this student long before the situation happened, and may not even realize she is still friends with her. Also, other faculty may resent you monitoring their facebook pages and friends list. I can see why you feel the way you do, and I also get annoyed at these situations. But I would MYOB.
I was a single parent during nursing school, and I only ended up with $20,000 in loans. I worked during school, and I used some of the loan money to live off. I can't imagine $100,000 for nursing school. That sounds more in line with medical school
OP - I still think it's pretty ratty for somebody to ask you about your salary, then act offended and rude toward you when you answer. I am glad you found a different job. It also sounds like you learned an unfortunate lesson - don't trust your coworkers.
I would feel different about the situation had you just randomly started blaring your salary to everyone, but to be directly asked then punished for answering is just wrong. Very immature coworkers.
I am a bit worried that it might make her feel uncomfortable if you regularly need to go to her floor. If you were on a totally different floor, and didn't need to go to hers that would be different. But if she isn't interested and says no then she might feel odd when she sees you.
If you decide to do it, then mention it in a very casual way. If you take the chance I think your plan is a decent one. Move very slowly and watch her reaction to make sure she doesn't seem uncomfortable.
As far as rumors go, I started dating somebody in the building where I work (ended up getting married), and the rumor mill was insane. I would have said I didn't care what people say, but the reality of it was way worse than what I imagined. It got old fast to be the center of attention. And the intensity of the interest was FAR more than anticipated. I really wished I didn't have to deal with it at work, but I am happy I met him so it equals out.
It is the culture of the hospital unfortunately. I worked at one of the top hospitals in my state, and that type of behavior was not tolerated. On the rare occasion it occurred the perpetrator would be informed by both nurse management and the physician in charge that it was not acceptable. I really wish every place would have those safeguards in place. I have also worked in hospitals where physicians acting rude was the norm.
I had a physician yell once, and the next time I saw him I just pulled him aside and told him he owed me an apology. He did apologize, and even though he continued to act like an insane jerk to other people he never did it to me again. I figure he didn't want to have to apologize again.
I decide what I will accept from people, and I do not accept abuse in any form. I just state that in a matter-of-fact way, and I have never had it continue. I don't make a big deal, or let it bother me but I do put an immediate stop to it.
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