Chaya 7,544 Views
Joined Mar 5, '03 - from 'Bosstown metro area'.
He has '15' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'Rehab, Med Surg, Home Care'.
Posts: 1,124 (19% Liked)
Started at 47 and never looked back after the first week of asking myself "What am I DOING here?". That's just me- would've had the same doubts at 20, with less confidence. My kid was in middle school at the time. Just make sure you get used to being a parent first and hopefully wait till the baby is sleeping a little more!
You would think by now I would know better than to even think there was nothing left that could surprise me...
I wish you the best. You sound like a caring, responsible caregiver. Hang in there.
The other name I see used for "they" is "TPTB" or "The Powers That Be", meaning those who actually hold and wield the power to make those decision and take those actions that impact our policies and resources to care for our patients.
I am heartened to hear from so many nurses who have not forgotten what it's like on the clinical side and genuinely struggle to balance budgetary prioroties with excellent patient-and staff-care. There need to be more of you.Please keep on fighting for our patients AND those of us still in the trenches with them, Quixotic though it may seem at the present.
I'm so sorry for what you and your family went through and that your experience with hospice, instead of easing some of the difficulties and pain of your family's last hours together made them that much more difficult.
It is heart wrenching to read your words and I'm sure even more difficult for you to relive these hours in sharing them with us but know that your story will stay with your many allnurses friends and remind each of us to see the situation thru our patients's/ family's eyes and go that extra mile.
May you find peace.
I have heard "picking" described as a archtypical end-of-life behavior and have seen it on occasion in pts that were getting close (ie-weeks to days).
I became a nurse at 50. For me, it was easier to study than it would have been in my 20's because I was steadier; more focused and less distractable in general than when I was younger. I found I was better able to handle it emotionally after a lifetime of working in a variety of positions with coworkers having a wide range in temperment and personalities. I had also seen and weathered many life events and crisises in my life and those of family members and close friends and I came to believe that nursing was a good fit for me in terms of skills and outlook at this point in my life. Physically, it was more endurance than brute strength; although I did work with many obese patients that required extensive assistance with personal care we were well trained in body mechanics, had mechanical lifts and followed a strict policy of having 2 or more caregivers assisting with transferring, boosts, etc. I also had to become used to 12 hour shifts (but found working fewer days less stressful); had to invest in really good orthotic arch supports and shoes, and keep healthy.
Good luck if you do make the decision to go ahead; it can be crazy at times but I've found it very satisfying-and never boring!
Now that I am out of school, I recognize your singling out of me and belittlement for what it was, ie: bullying. Whether coming from a co-worker or doctor, or from an instructor who should be above this, I now call it by its rightful name.
Your being tough on me and having high expectations might have made me a better nurse; your bullying did not. If you did not have the resources to find alternative ways of teaching students without intimidation you may be in the wrong profession; there is no justification for bullying-ever.
I can say the scars you left did teach me how NOT to interact with others I have been privelged to teach or mentor. I have never forgotten how inadequate it made me feel.
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