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Okay, normally I do not respond to negativity and if this is the atmosphere, I will never post on this forum again. Nurses REALLY do eat there young; thing is I AM NOT YOUNG AT ALL.
Thanks for the advise; yet I claim a job at Camp Pendleton as an RN in the NAME of JESUS and I know that I can and will.
I have been able to sit for my boards since January 2010. Why did I wait so long to take them? Well, I am still in school (BSN program) and the job pool is FILLED (I still work as a Nursing Assistant at a San Diego hospital after 1 year). I am about to take my boards before I graduate in December. I am interested in working as a nurse at Camp Pendleton in San Diego. Does anyone know if new grads are welcomed there or if ya'll have any advice on how to "break into" an entry-level position to possible build my skills? I am a single mom with 3 HUNGRY teenagers and I need a good job now. Thanks in advance
Hello All of YOu Wonderful Folks out there in Allnurse Land!!!
To those of you who gave me wonderful advise, resources, prayers, and encouragement... Thank You!!! I left with my kids and we never turned back. I am not afraid now, I am FREE and it never felt sooo good. My kids and I are recieving the best care from some extraordinary people who actually CARE. The road is very long and will be full of bumpy roads, yet I am GIVING IT TO GOD; I can not do this alone. To any man or woman who is enduring any type of abuse (we know the types and it is not just "physical"), find your inner self and get help; TALK TO SOMEONE. Everyone CANNOT just "leave"; it is a process. I am with an organization that not only helping me with housing to get back on my feet, but they are going to help me pay for my NCLEX
GOD IS TRULY GOOD!!! Thank you is not a stong enough word to express my gratitude. Because of you all, I have a BRIGHT future as an R.N free from fear and hurt.
God Bless you all!!!
Sincerely and With Much Respect,
His mental illness (and he is mentally ill) is not your fault; however, being subjected to it repeatedly will make you ill as well. My best friend was a Psych in Atlanta and she often advised me when we put sociopathic people's needs before ourselves it negates us in the mind of that person. Tracy always said we have to feel we deserve better to "get gone". My SHE-ROE in life was once a single Nurses aide with 8 kids, she then went to LPN school, ASN, and now has a masters in nursing education and teaches LPN's. She had NOTHING but those 8 kids when she moved across the street from my family.
You are so strong! You do not deserve any this treatment and your husband should be kicked to the curb! That said, I fear that he also sounds dangerous so do be careful.
Look for all the community resources you can. Be resourceful. There are all kinds of programs for women in your situation. You've come SO far and are almost at a place where you will be able to be totally independent and provide for your family. You might consider looking for a nurse assistant job temporarily - at least you'll have some income.
You might consider going to your nursing program, there are always school counselors available that could link you with support in the community. There may even be some kind of scholarship or fund for you to take the NCLEX.
Beyond Women's Shelters, you might look into some kind of Safe-house or temporary housing for at risk Women & their children. I think you being denied access to a shelter due to having older children is bull!@#$...how old are they?
Good luck, keep us posted! If you are in ANY kind of danger call the police & get the hell out!!
Oh, another thought: Some men are just jerks, and they become bitter and mean old-loser jerks when they hit middle-age. He might be baiting you to over-react so that he can call the cops on you. Watch out for "crazy-making," because he might come off as the sane one and you the irrational one. So, if he tries to push your buttons, and it sounds like he already is, just don't react.
So what if he brings up your past. The past is past, and it can't be changed. You not have a little dirt to dish on him, so forget the past and move on to the future. Counseling will help you to regain your balance and to keep your perspective. All divorces are dirty and nasty, so don't feel guilty about that. My ex and I started out with an amicable split, but by the time it was finalized 6 months later, we no longer even speak to each other. That's just the way that goes. Get you license, get your back injury healed, work on your career, focus on your children's future and your future.
The woman in your post is MY hero!!! I love that our "BALLS" are on the inside protected from the elements!!! She had HUGE ones!!!
To stay is my plan, because my kids have been through so much change. Five years ago, they endured Hurricane Katrina and they still talk about it. The test is over $200 + fingerprinting+ passport picture+ application fee, which is over
$325. I have been doing a lot of research and found info on PRO bono lawyers, shelters, churches, community services, welfare offices, and so on. I really don't have much in terms of support from family, we are estranged, but the good news is that I am reaching out to find them by finding numbers, leaving messages, and the such. This is just one of those "brick walls" that Dr. Randy Pausch was speaking of.
It is not just a factor of "just leave" or "how can you stay?" Thanks for your words and understanding.
I just kicked my husband out of the house two months ago and could not be happier, but I am in a different situation then you are. Anyway, I have one child and another on the way. I knew that I had enough of my husband's games and him cheating on me and I would stop at nothing to get rid of him. I am pregnant and unemployed so I am not doing well money wise. I guess what I am trying to say is that you will really know when it is time to end you relationship with your spouse. You have to be strong and just make it through.
you are an amazing, strong, and courageous woman, congrats on making it so far with so little. you are truly an inspiration that if one gives it their all, if you really try, you can overcome anything.
i actually second a battered women's shelter. i volunteer at one.. we give free legal advice, as well as help women get on their feet. i am sure that they could help you take the ncclex through donations used to support women in shleters.
my shelter paid for a woman to take her cna exam, she did not have the 90+ dollars to take it. they knew it would help her succeed.
ayway, unsolicited advice, i know.
you are strong, you will get through this somehow, i just know it.
God Bless You. Your words were not preachy at all; they inspired me to move forward. I do not have any friends or family members here, my family is in the south and I am on the west coast. As you may know, I don't go out for coffee or dinner with classmates or I am accused of God knows what. My kids and I have lived this way in the past and I am just DONE. My education has "made me so important", according to him; I downplay it to keep the peace (SO sad). My children are older and would make it a sticky situation in a shelter environment (I checked). I hope that in the coming months that my post will become happier. Thank you for your words... I have a lot of work to do...
Thanks Ya'll for the heart felt words and HUGS!!! I am all alone here and I hope that my life takes a wonderful turn. Thank you!!!
***HUGE HUGS for ALL***
I am tired of keeping this to myself and suffering alone.
Here is a little background, my husband has a history of both emotional and physical abuse. Whenever I stood up, he pushed me down by reminding me of my past ( which is very, very painful ).
Before I started nursing school a few years ago, I had a horrible bout with major depression; I had no plans but knew that I needed to support my three babies (which are teens now). As I got more education, he became even more jealous. As long as I was depressed and dependent, he was happy.
Now that I am graduating next week, he needs me to "appreciate and respect" him because now I am "high on a horse." Last year, my husband and I argued and he was yelling about how I couldn't pay bills or keep a job - for heaven's sake, I was attending Nursing School (BSN program, mind you).
I literally scratched a hole in my head due to anxiety. True story...
While I was in my Pediatric rotation, I needed a little kid to do developmental tests on. He bought me a baby from his "friend."
The next day, he sat in front of the family and introduced us to his daughter - which was the child that he bought to me for testing!!! I was in RAGE; not only because of his infidelity but the way he introduced the child (whose mother has 5 other children and has been calling and hanging up).
I AM getting tested!!!
I can go on forever with this story, but I just need advise. Not on how I should divorce this creep ... but that I am on Workers' comp and get pennies; I was injured picking up a patient.
I can not pay to take the NCLEX and I want to start my career and my LIFE!!! His income is greater than mine and I have no family here. It is a very painful period in my life - along with it being the happiest. I am the first in my entire family to get a degree.
I am so stressed I just need you guys!!!
I joined allnurses.com because, as nurses, we sometimes have a REAllly strange sense of humor and I can not share my "weird" stories with everyone (they may think that I am strange or something). Nevertheless, I enjoy the nursing community; I lost my community years ago and I feel most comfortable here.
I'm with SangGang92!!! Either shadow or just sit out in the ER, just to observe (I used to do this when I was a teen; I was a rather "groovey" kid). An LTF is where I hope to join to kick off my nursing career. RN's and CNA duties and responsibilities are worlds apart, as you know. Trust me, I am still a Nursing Assistant until I land a job as an RN. I graduate with a BSN and it is as hard as ALL out doors to grab a new grad program unless you have dinner with the Nurse Managers or complete a "Solid Gold"(old dance/music show in the early to mid'80's, if you are a youngster) rendition of "Catch me I'm Falling" with your friends in front of the hospital in which you choose to work.
Personally, I have tried this, yet it does not work (just kidding)...
Anyway, all jiving a side. You have the minerals to get into a BSN program; that says a lot. Also, you do not want to regret not completing your goal to be an RN for the rest of your life, you know? There are many factors that could make a person say, " Oh HEck no!!! I WILL NOT do this??!!!" When your gut says this, it is time to walk away. I sat out for a year, due to financial problems, at it ate me up inside. When I returned to school and I felt brand new and eady to tackle the world. I hope that whatever you decide, please remember that if everyone wanted to be an RN, everyone would do it. It takes a special breed to care for human beings: consider youself as special
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