skittlebear, LPN 10,978 Views
Joined Sep 14, '05.
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Yes, you sound temperamentally unsuited for your job.
Personally, I think the rise and all these anxiety disorders is a direct result of our crazy society and modern culture.
Recognize that you are very sane and having a natural response to an insane world. Money isn't everything, I think you should find a less stressful job that you are suited for.
I am way late on commenting on this thread but perhaps my comment will reach someone whom is seeking the same answers!
I am currently a dispensing nurse in the Methadone clinic. Our hours are fantastic. I start around 4:45a but I am always off by 12 which is great.
My daily duties are dispensing the Methadone through a pump that calibrates the patient's dose, doing assessments to determine which dose the patient should be on, entering orders for the doctor, conducting admission interviews with patient, giving injections (PPD, Hep B, Flu shots, Vivitrol), filing charts, writing nurse's notes, verifying patient's last doses from their previous clinic or for guest dosers, participating in treatment team meeting where we discuss patient's urine screenings and any problems that have arisen that week.
I work with a tight group of coworkers. 4 Counselors, 2 front office people, and just two nurses. The regulation at my clinic is 1 nurse for every 200 patients and because of this, I am the only nurse working Monday-Friday.
You have to have tough skin in this line of work. For the most part, my patients are the most respectful and friendly patients I have ever worked with.... until you have to deny their dose increase request, give them their random urine sample for the month, or deny to dose them due to sedative behaviors.
I love the client base and I love the pay. I have found that I make much MORE than my friends who work in LTC and have to work evenings. I am required to work all holidays if they fall Monday-Friday but the overtime pay is marvelous.
I hope you're finding yourself happy in your position and that this post can help someone whom is curious about the field.
I say take the leap and find out It's a promising field and heroin right now is a HUGE epidemic. Just using heroin as an example. There are PLENTY of other addictions that we treat!
I'm not a fan of it for substance abuse especially in young people, for oncology pain management absolutely, but the whole harm reduction model is one that I feel is flawed. To justify putting young people on a medication that they will likely never be able to come off in an effort to prevent them from using illicit drugs so they are not involved in criminal activity sounds way too much like we are throwing them away and I find that offensive. That we so readily accept that addicts aren't worth attempting recovery makes me sad. Then again our society wants everything easy and fast now so I guess not surprising.
How can you tell that this is a dream?
"The flowers have faces on them?"
"No, the nurses are on a lunch break."
"Was that a Tic-Tac or an Ativan?"
How people think I spend my lunch.
Feel free to give up your personal freedom.. for any reason you chose. That's what makes them personal freedoms. As for me, my freedom, my choice. RDS.. never.
I with keeping cool, calm and professional. Once your orientation is complete, will you possible have an opportunity to meet with the office manager and possibly this nurse and discuss simply and succinctly what your experience was like. Unfortunately, there are some nurses that are simply "crude". This behavior does not belong in the workplace. When these nurses are very good at the tasks involved, it makes it more difficult on managers and supervisors. That does no free them from their responsibility of seeing to a smooth running operation. It costs a lot of money to hire and train a nurse and if this person has been responsible for two nurses leaving, that is an important point. Often managers will attempt to excuse rude and inappropriate behavior by saying: "that is just her personality" or "he/she is a bit crusty..." That doesn't excuse unprofessional behavior either. Sometimes this indicates an individual with narcissistic traits and that is difficult to deal with. Bottom line, she represents the whole practice as a group. If this is in front of the patients or people that do not work there , it is not a good public image to have. Your orientation will end soon and then please take it to the next level and save the next good nurse that comes along from this type of inappropriate behavior.
Crudeness, coarseness, vulgarity, etc. do not equal "bullying." She sounds like a disgusting person to work with, but I don't think she is significantly "bullying" you. She is just not a very nice person and she is a lousy teacher -- but I don't think there is anything personal about it: she is not out to get you, etc. I'll bet she is that way to everyone.
Don't take it personally. Don't blow it up into a huge thing. Learn you new job and keep her at arm's length. You'll avoid to the bad smells.
You lost me at the whole fart thing.
I would also like to add that I am a very sweet person (and that is also my downfall). One of my nursing instructors back in nursing school gave me very constructive criticism that If I'm not careful, I will be walked all over in my career. I am personable with this "mean nurse". I ask her how her day is and just "small talk". When she sees me she won't even say "Good morning'. Either she really dislikes me or lacks social skills. I have never had this problem before and when I told a few of my previous co-workers this scenario they said, "What, everyone gets along with you." I guess in a perfect world but I am a people person. I am also very self-conscious and haven't grown that "thick skin" yet. Once I know my job my skin does get thicker but when I'm new it's almost translucent.
apparently, the woman you are dealing with was not the 1st pick to train you. i'm sorry you have to deal with her. older nurses are sometimes hard to deal with. hopefully, i'm not one of them. keep your chin up. she's probably a sweety....hopefully...and will be more helpful. hugs.
She needs to get laid.
That's what one of my coworker says about all those who radiate negativity.
It's really difficult to work with someone like that, I can only hope that you become friends with other people there and have some allies. When I have difficult coworkers like that, the thing that gets me through is the fulfillment of finishing my work and bonding with my patients and ally coworkers.
I think you are handling her really well at this moment with your replies. The kind of comments she makes, I have observed from some coworker nurses but I am thankful I don't have to work with them directly. You will get the hang of it and do well at your job, and then she will probably still find something bad to say. These people rarely change. What I don't understand is the farting! That is really offensive. We know it's a natural bodily function but that is rude! With malicious intent!
Nutella (love your sn by the way), you hit the nail right on the head. She does get the job done. I LOVE your rational approach to my situation. You have me looking at it in a totally different light. A more logical instead of emotional light.
At my last job (oh how I miss it) all of us co-workers were very tight and we even did things after work. I miss that. I chose to leave because of the wonderful hours and better pay at my new job. The grass isn't always greener on the other side and if I could take back my decision I would. Unfortunately, the job I left was a very sought after position and it is already filled. So, I have to make do with what I have. I had been at that job for many years so being new is very "different" for me.
I love your approach that I need to go there and do my job and forget making friends. Why do I feel the need to be friends with my co-workers? My best friend tells me I need to leave work at work but this is very hard for me right now. I miss being the senior nurse I guess. Being new really, really sucks. Again, thank you. I love your advice.
Others have given some good advice so I will just add that I think you should learn to embrace my favorite interpersonal motto: "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness." I have had to overcome kindness, shyness, and a general temperament that doesn't like to rock the boat in order to stand up for myself and set boundaries with coworkers.
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