OK we get it STUD, you're straight - page 7

by bigrigcowboy 18,577 Views | 98 Comments

Something has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it. So often when reading posts on the Men in Nursing or Male Nursing... Read More


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    Quote from Paco69
    A major insecurity about people perceiving me as gay is what prevented me from entering the nursing profession when I was in my early 20s. I made up every other excuse in the world to rationalize why nursing was not for me: I can't stand the sight of blood, I don't want to work long hours ... you name it, I shelled it out. Even though those were not true, it worked to mask the real reason from everyone.

    Now it's @ 20 years later and I kick myself a few times a month for being so stupid. Here I am in my early 40's, mature and secure in everything that I am, entering a profession that by now should have rewarded me with 20 years of incredible experience, career benefits and financial rewards to boot. All because I was scared to be perceived as gay. I sometimes feel like I wasted the last 20 years of my life in a career that was completely wrong for me and did nothing to create the image I wanted to portray to everyone. Now I want the chance to start doing what I was meant to do. If I can motivate at least one young man from steering away from the path I took to become a nurse, it will all be worth it.

    The day I earn my RN will be the day I recapture my life.

    Nicely put! I am 47 and will graduate in December! As I read your post I am now perceiving that there may have been an element of this in WHY I didn't pursue nursing MANY years ago when I knew i wanted to. There were definitely other issues, but this make some sense to and me and strikes a chord...
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    Quote from exit96
    Nicely put! I am 47 and will graduate in December! As I read your post I am now perceiving that there may have been an element of this in WHY I didn't pursue nursing MANY years ago when I knew i wanted to. There were definitely other issues, but this make some sense to and me and strikes a chord...
    WOW!!! I hate when people hack up grammar and such...I re-read my post and it drives me crazy!!!!!!!!
    What I heard in my head was more like this "There were definitely other issues, but this makes some sense to me, and strikes a chord as well... :-) Good night! Exam at 0800
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    My only response would be to advise you to not let your bad experiences let you form a stereotype that all male nurses are going to dislike you for being gay. Several of the guys in my nursing class are gay. Never really had a problem being around or working about gay men. Now I do consider myself close enough friends with some of them that they get teased about things just like I would tease any other guy. My working theory is if you have my back I have yours.

    I never thought about it until I read your post but it does now strike me as odd that so many of the guys I work with are into riding motorcycles, and are all into super masculine things. Now granted I think SOME of that is because we work in Trauma/ER which lends itself to a certain type of person, male or female. But yeah, maybe there is a level of subconscious that they are trying to show off their masculinity.
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    Furthermore, I dont see how THAT many true homo phobic's could thrive in nursing, I mean a usual day in the ER I have my finger deep in the ass of at least 1-2 men (I'm talking that kind of deep where you feel heat) not to mention the various male junk that needs to be cath'd and inspected. Dunno just seems like it would put those types of ppl at polar opposites with the nursing profession.
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    Quote from cpl_dvldog
    Why is it that homosexual men feel the need to let everyone know they are gay by extremely feminate body language or even wearing female scrubs, but are annoyed when a straight man lets it be known he is not?

    There are two truths I have discovered working in hospitals
    1. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be doctors by patients.
    2. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be gay.

    I am NOT a doctor and I am NOT gay.
    The problem goes both ways... by posting this you are generalizing gay nurses (which should just be NURSES the same way str8 nurses are should only be seen ase NURSES) as being feminate and wearing female scrubs.... not the way to express yourself... I am gay, I wear male scrubs, really cool ones with lots of pockets, I conduct myself professionally (thats why I go to the hospital: because I am a health care professional) and I am EXTREMELY proud of being gay, my patients, fellow nurses and employer love the way I am and how I do my job...but I refuse to accept people describing gay individuals the way you just did it... it doesn't make you any better, it doesn't make you any "straighter"...

    We should all go the hospital trying to save our patient's lives and improve their quality of life period...but expect us the gay community to take same sh*t that we dont have to take because that is not written in any contract.
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    Quote from caryrey02
    The problem goes both ways... by posting this you are generalizing gay nurses (which should just be NURSES the same way str8 nurses are should only be seen ase NURSES) as being feminate and wearing female scrubs.... not the way to express yourself... I am gay, I wear male scrubs, really cool ones with lots of pockets, I conduct myself professionally (thats why I go to the hospital: because I am a health care professional) and I am EXTREMELY proud of being gay, my patients, fellow nurses and employer love the way I am and how I do my job...but I refuse to accept people describing gay individuals the way you just did it... it doesn't make you any better, it doesn't make you any "straighter"...

    We should all go the hospital trying to save our patient's lives and improve their quality of life period...but expect us the gay community to take same sh*t that we dont have to take because that is not written in any contract.
    I rarely see straight people, nurses or otherwise, go out of their way to make it known they are straight. Believe it or not, but simply being gay is not a big deal to most men. It is when they act in extreme ways is where the problem is. Men talk about other men all the time. We talk about the guy with the mullet, the guy that only owns wife-beater t's, the one with the 70's porn mustache, and such. If we see a guy prissing around, or in women's clothing we talk about him too, gay or not. If we see a woman built like a linebacker, in a flannel shirt and a wallet with a chain, yep, we'll talk about her too. I have worked with several gay men and women over the years. Some nobody knew were gay unless they were told, others you could spot from a mile away. Being gay in the workplace is just like being gay in high school, they will be made fun of, along with everyone else in school that makes it known they are different. It is not strictly a gay thing.
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    Quote from cpl_dvldog
    I rarely see straight people, nurses or otherwise, go out of their way to make it known they are straight. Believe it or not, but simply being gay is not a big deal to most men. It is when they act in extreme ways is where the problem is. Men talk about other men all the time. We talk about the guy with the mullet, the guy that only owns wife-beater t's, the one with the 70's porn mustache, and such. If we see a guy prissing around, or in women's clothing we talk about him too, gay or not. If we see a woman built like a linebacker, in a flannel shirt and a wallet with a chain, yep, we'll talk about her too. I have worked with several gay men and women over the years. Some nobody knew were gay unless they were told, others you could spot from a mile away. Being gay in the workplace is just like being gay in high school, they will be made fun of, along with everyone else in school that makes it known they are different. It is not strictly a gay thing.
    you dont go to whatever facility is that you work at to talk about people period...and if you do I don't think people will be interested in knowing...BTW people that make fun of other (like for example gay folks) for being "different" should be in the nursing career....that is so old...who told you gays are different ? If you didn't know we are just the same as you are, we just choose to sleep with a different gender and that doesn't affect you.
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    Quote from caryrey02
    you dont go to whatever facility is that you work at to talk about people period...and if you do I don't think people will be interested in knowing...BTW people that make fun of other (like for example gay folks) for being "different" should be in the nursing career....that is so old...who told you gays are different ? If you didn't know we are just the same as you are, we just choose to sleep with a different gender and that doesn't affect you.
    The only people I know of that go to work to talk about other people are comedians and talk show hosts. If a black guy walks by with a Rick James jerry curl hair-do somebody on my floor will make a remark about it, or a male nurse has a Hello Kitty scrub top on someone will make a remark about that too. It is not like anyone sits around and has a protracted conversation about those people.

    By the way, like it or not, gay people and straight people will always be considered different. The difference is mental, not physical. If gay people and straight people were not considered different the words gay and straight would not exist to describe the two.
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    Quote from cpl_dvldog
    The only people I know of that go to work to talk about other people are comedians and talk show hosts. If a black guy walks by with a Rick James jerry curl hair-do somebody on my floor will make a remark about it, or a male nurse has a Hello Kitty scrub top on someone will make a remark about that too. It is not like anyone sits around and has a protracted conversation about those people.

    By the way, like it or not, gay people and straight people will always be considered different. The difference is mental, not physical. If gay people and straight people were not considered different the words gay and straight would not exist to describe the two.
    I am donw with you "dude" I have couple of more interesting things to do but I go at peace knowing the majority is not as superficial and couple of other things...have a good one str8 stud ;-)
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    Gay male nurses?????? Hahahahaha in Ireland its taken for granted youre gay if youre a "male" nurse... Ive given up being perplexed by this assumption and just let people wonder.
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