OK we get it STUD, you're straight - page 2

Something has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it. So often when reading posts on the... Read More

  1. Visit  . Z A C H} profile page
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    If someone were a true homophobe I doubt they would ever become a nurse to begin with.
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  3. Visit  extermin8tor} profile page
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    Completely agree with OP's writeup, I think until Men get more accepted into the industry, this issue will plague the nursing field for a while simply because men are a relative oddity.

    Quote from . Z A C H
    If someone were a true homophobe I doubt they would ever become a nurse to begin with.
    Nursing is not excluded from arseholes, racists, homophobes and douchebags.
    Nursing has maybe a higher proportion of people who are caring due to the lowly paid and difficult nature of the work, however there are an incredible number of jerk-offs just like you find on the street
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    Quote from extermin8tor
    Completely agree with OP's writeup, I think until Men get more accepted into the industry, this issue will plague the nursing field for a while simply because men are a relative oddity.



    Nursing is not excluded from arseholes, racists, homophobes and douchebags.
    Nursing has maybe a higher proportion of people who are caring due to the lowly paid and difficult nature of the work, however there are an incredible number of jerk-offs just like you find on the street
    I know, I'm just saying that homophobic people tend to try to act truly masculine across the board and generally won't ever begin to pursue a job like nursing or as a hairstylist etc. Just the fact hat they decided to begin a career where people might potentially think that they are gay is a pretty good indicator that they aren't homophobic, they most likely just don't want people to assume that they are gay so they go out of their way to make it known that they aren't. Slight insecurity doesn't make someone a homophobe.
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  5. Visit  vegas2009} profile page
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    Lol, yup... men and sexuality are perceived a little different compared to women and sexuality. I don't really get the, "I need to prove I'm not gay" of the male mind/psyche. Maybe society has something to do with this.

    Here's the 411: Women who aren't exactly straight are a little more accepted than gay/bisexual men. I'm not sure why it's like that.

    For instance, when Stacy dates a man who is (may or may not be) admittedly bisexual and she tells her friends, she's dating him -- her friends WILL say: Girl, he's gay... what are u doing with him??

    Scenario two: A female who is NOT particularly straight (may/may NOT) admit that she is bisexual/gay and decides to date a man, for some reason will not be seen as being gay. A female who dates another female is NOT necessarily gay. She's either too freaky, confused, just honestly looking for love in both sexes, or all of the above. Oh, there's also "straight women" who date "other or straight women" -- I think most people are just confused (lol).

    For a man to be bisexual -- just means he IS gay! For a woman to be bisexual, NOT necessarily. This is how most of society sees it. Funny huh?

    Kinda unfair, but it is what it is.
  6. Visit  justashooter} profile page
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    "you can go crazy all you want, just don't do it in my front yard" Smokey Yarick

    seriously, we don't want to know you're gay, buddy, and we ain't gonna tell you we're straight all day, either.
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  7. Visit  jjnRN} profile page
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    I too have noticed the need to state preference in some way and don't get it at all. If you are worried about what someone may think then why choose the career path? I know who the straight and gay men and women are in my class and at the clinicals I have been at and it has not made a difference in the friendships and learning experiences I have attained.

    In today's world I would like to think that it does not matter what your preference is, what your race is, or what gender you are because throughout history it has been shown that all humans have similar abilities. I introduce myself as a nurse, not a male nurse. The only thing a patient or employer should care about is whether you can give the care that you would expect to get yourself.

    I'll step down now,
    James
  8. Visit  2ndyearstudent} profile page
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    I just haven't run into this type of thing at all. After working in LTC, Home Health, and a couple hundred hours of clinicals at hospitals, I have not seen a scrap of tension over sexual preference. Some of the nurses I worked with might have been gay, but really, I couldn't tell and nobody cared.

    Two of my instructors (one male, one female) have been gay, but again, nobody gives a damn.

    From my personal observations, the percentage of male nurses who are gay is probably about the same as the general population.
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    Quote from bigrigcowboy
    Something has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it.

    So often when reading posts on the Men in Nursing or Male Nursing Student sections I feel like I am part of one of the most homophobic systems I have been a part of since I left the US Navy.

    If I read one more post in which the man feels he must refer to himself as "Normal", "Married", "not one of them", "Real Man" etc. [not kidding, direct quotes] I am going to scream. You can say it STUD, we get it, you are straight and we're damn glad for you. [better you than me]
    O...kay. I don't care if my coworkers are straight, bent, curved, loop-de-loop, or whatever. Either they do a good job for their pts, or they don't. If they don't, doom on them.

    Not all allnurses folks are focused on gender roles, and I'd hope that you don't get too bent out of shape by your perception of how or what various folks post.

    Excuse me while I go sharpen my manly straight married Wusthof and Thai Kiwi kitchen knives, followed by swigging manly whisky (Islay Scotch spelling, don'cha know), then do some manly car oil change maintenance and use manly power tools to fix stuff around the home before playing with my 2.4 heterosexually-generated children. Or something like that.

    Then I need to bake some bread, make dinner, & do laundry & dishes.

    Straight...gay....it doesn't matter. Either you're a good person or you're not.
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    ^^^^^^^^^
  11. Visit  CNABESS} profile page
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    Can a woman chime in here? This headline caught my attention, and some of the responses have sent my coffee shooting across the room in laughter. As a straight married female I want to say, really??? I thought we were past this. I have had nurses care for loved ones who were very ill (my son, and mother) and all that occured to me was "wow, doing a great job" . I want the people who care for me to be competent, responsible and happy in their profession. I enjoy working with many male CNAs who are ....I don't know, never asked, but they are great to work with. I have also worked with some who have told me they are straight, or not , and they were great to work with. I have found that if we all concentrate on what is important, nobody will care one way or the other. I am just thrilled to have had some great people to work with, and thrilled my son was made more comfortable because he had a great nurse. I have not heard "male nurse" in a long time. We all just say "nurse, LPN, RN, CNA" .
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  12. Visit  Ackeem} profile page
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    Gay or straight at the end of the day all i come to do is, be the best nurse i can be Not to prove I'm gay or not.

    If they assume I'm gay, so be it, if not still don't really care " I don't come to make friends , I came to do my job"

    I think you guys need to stop getting worked up of what people think about your sexual orientation. If anybody try to call me out , try to humiliate me, or disrespect me to my face, my respond won't be pleasant at all, this 206 pounds of pure MEAT has a really short fuse. For them and my sake, just fall back do your damn job and don't worry about who I sleep with.( For the record I'm straight )
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  13. Visit  algebra_demystified} profile page
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    Now that I've been working for a couple years I have a different take on this kind of attitude in the workplace. It sounds like when you get offended you stir up drama. Trust me, that is not an attribute I look for in a coworker. I'm much happier when I'm working with people who deescalate conflict in the workplace.

    What's going to happen when a stressed out patient who's got a terminal illness makes a crack about you being gay? Are you going to react to it by getting defensive, or are you going to remember that you're at work to meet the needs of the patient?

    Nursing can be very stressful. People may look down on you for one reason or another. The workplace can be unfair. Try to remember that people don't HAVE to like you for whatever reason. Democrats don't get along with republicans sometimes, so maybe it's better to not talk politics with people you work with.
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  14. Visit  edogs334} profile page
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    When I was a nursing student (not too long ago) there were definitely male classmates who did and said stuff to prove their "masculinity" and made comments like "not that I would be into that" or "not trying to imply anything (hahaha)." And the whole "Man Enough to be a Nurse" campaign? Really? Just because you're a nurse who happens to be a man doesn't mean you have to be hypermasculine to prove that you're straight. Like I've said in previous posts, I've known 2 or 3 MD residents who were openly gay- sexuality has nothing to do with one's profession.

    Being straight isn't about being married, being into college football or owning an F550 Powerstroke Diesel (which is I think is pretty sweet, btw). Rather, it's about which sex you're more attracted to. Just like I don't have to be into the latest bubble-gum pop, the latest fashion trends and be a woman's best friend to prove that I'm gay. I just know that I'm attracted to other guys when I see one who strikes my fancy. Also, most straight guys don't have to worry about getting hit on by gay men- because most gay guys, like everyone else, respect the concept of PERSONAL BOUNDARIES (DUH!). I'm guessing that straight (or "straight") men worry most about guilt by association- meaning if they associate with known gay men too often that they'll be thought of as gay (by people on both sides of the fence). Which is completely stupid, because that kind of evidence (for someone being one way or the other) is just idle gossip and completely circumstantial. I can attest to that fear, having been deeply in the closet myself for more than several years before I came out in my 20's.

    PS- I love powertools- roofing with a nailgun is freakin' awesome!


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