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No. 30
Old Nov 01, 2009, 04:06 PM

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Maybe it can be as easy as swooning her more! Tell her she's hot, take her to dinner, bring her flowers, just sweep her off her feet like you did when you were dating. my wife's always talkin about the love languages, find out what hers is and capitalize on it! Good luck
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No. 31
from el_peon
Old Nov 01, 2009, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by centexRN View Post
The things that I have seen in the clinical area are certainly nothing to inspire jealousy. If anything, they might lead one to thoughts of celibacy.
That's hillarious !!!
And right on target.

Unfortunately, you cant fix her. Theres nothing you can tell her that will make her feel better, because i'm sure she feels that you are just telling her that you feel nothing and arent attracted to the women in your class, your patients, female doctors etc. just so she wont worry. This is her battle to fight. You need to decide if its one you are honestly willing to deal with, or if its a deal breaker. If she's not being honest with her therapist, then she's not putting the maximum amount of effort into getting her issues resolved. If she doesnt trust her therapist enough to confide in him, then she needs to get someone else.
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No. 32
from jgimages
Old Nov 01, 2009, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by centexRN View Post
The things that I have seen in the clinical area are certainly nothing to inspire jealousy. If anything, they might lead one to thoughts of celibacy.
............that was to funny......i think nurses have the best sense of humor (if you don't have a sense of humor better get one quick)
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No. 33
from DolceVita
Old Nov 02, 2009, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by jgimages View Post
hey milan18400....I am not exactly the leading authority on this topic but my friend I have two words for you...GOOD LUCK.....I am not being insensitive but what the heck do women really want??? This is a classic case, the man is busting his behind for his family to provide a better life for his wife and daughter and has to deal with this. If you were lazy bum and did nothing you would still be the bad guy....Your wife needs help and she needs to be mature enough to want to change. ....I know I am probably going to get killed by the female nurses but geezz for a guy it can be extremely frustrating understanding (well trying to understand) women.........yes I am finished
A little coarse if you ask me. Also, for all you know this guy earned 6 figures before going to nursing school -- I did.

OP:

Frankly, it seems unlikely that her past was unknown to you before you married her or that her behavior is anything new. So to expect her to adjust herself because you are now finding this difficult is, well, too bad. Undoubtedly this isn't a healthy situation for either of you -- did I read correctly that you have a new baby as well? That is what I would call pouring petrol on the fire -- again a little late.

Ask her what she wants from you -- not a bunch of people on Allnurses.com. By the way I am sure if she finds you posted such detail about her on a website she will be thrilled.

As for therapy, you should both be doing it, together. Have you looked at why you were attracted to someone so obviously damaged? I'd say you both need to look under some rocks.
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No. 34
from jgimages
Old Nov 02, 2009, 04:31 PM

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[quote=DolceVita;3951393]A little coarse if you ask me. Also, for all you know this guy earned 6 figures before going to nursing school -- I did.

......hum what is your point?? Its okay for his wife to be jealous if he makes less money now that he is in a nursing program??? Oh I get it money will resolve the whole thing right??
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No. 35
from DolceVita
Old Nov 02, 2009, 04:57 PM

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[quote=jgimages;3951415]
Originally Posted by DolceVita View Post
A little coarse if you ask me. Also, for all you know this guy earned 6 figures before going to nursing school -- I did.

......hum what is your point?? Its okay for his wife to be jealous if he makes less money now that he is in a nursing program??? Oh I get it money will resolve the whole thing right??
Dear me! You misinterpret. My point was that this is NOTHING to do with money. You are the one that thought this chap was working for a better life for his wife and child, and seem to imply that his wife was ungrateful (or otherwise acting up). I simply pointed out that there may have been nothing wrong with it financially, his life, before he went to nursing school. Nothing more. Anything else you are making up in your head.
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No. 36
from jgimages
Old Nov 02, 2009, 05:32 PM

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[quote=DolceVita;3951451]
Originally Posted by jgimages View Post

Dear me! You misinterpret. My point was that this is NOTHING to do with money. You are the one that thought this chap was working for a better life for his wife and child, and seem to imply that his wife was ungrateful (or otherwise acting up). I simply pointed out that there may have been nothing wrong with it financially, his life, before he went to nursing school. Nothing more. Anything else you are making up in your head.
....okay lets start again........obviously this young man is trying to better his life by going into a nursing program{remember he was working at a mill i believe}....most normal people try a new career to better themselves... blah blah blah (so thats where i got that idea)... .and from what I can understand from this gentlemens post it does sound to me that his wife is a little ungrateful,insecure and maybe a little immature.......everything else I made up in my head... or maybe I am a little cucu??
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No. 37
from DolceVita
Old Nov 02, 2009, 06:36 PM

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[quote=jgimages;3951505]
Originally Posted by DolceVita View Post
....okay lets start again........obviously this young man is trying to better his life by going into a nursing program{remember he was working at a mill i believe}....most normal people try a new career to better themselves... blah blah blah (so thats where i got that idea)... .and from what I can understand from this gentlemens post it does sound to me that his wife is a little ungrateful,insecure and maybe a little immature.......everything else I made up in my head... or maybe I am a little cucu??
I don't think it is "cucu". I think that his wife has stuff that needs dealt with by a professional. To minimize it and call her ungrateful and immature just isn't OK with me. Also, it assumes she is doing nothing herself to contribute to the household. I don't see why she shouldn't be treated with the same support as a spouse who has a physical illness.
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No. 38
from nursenow
Old Nov 02, 2009, 08:26 PM

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He nees to cut his loses and dump her. Why would anyone put up with it. Love? Remember studies have shown love in many ways is an addiction. What do you do about an unhealthy addiction? Get rid of it.

He is in an abusive relationship and she is the abuser. He needs to get some counseling to determine why he allows himself to be abused day in and day out. Sounds like he has some serious issues himself. Wonder if counseling would help him? It is interesting so many people focus on her need for help. My heart is with him. I hope he gets some help and is able to get on with a happy life.
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No. 39
from DolceVita
Old Nov 03, 2009, 07:47 AM

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I think to call her an abuser is a little hysterical. Not everyone focused on her need for help.
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